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Old Sep 11th, 2006, 12:36 PM
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I love traveling with my husband but sometimes it's fun to travel with another couple. As long as we can say, "We'll see you Tuesday at...." and don't have to go everywhere with them.
I've traveled with a good friend and she's just lots of fun. We have similiar habits. I have some friends, whom I love, but wouldn't want to go away for the week-end with. We're just too different.
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Old Sep 11th, 2006, 12:49 PM
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For over 25 years, three friends and I have had a yearly ritual of spending a weekend together. It has ranged from driving to a nearby city to splurging on a flight someplace. Originally we simply tried to have dinner together with our husbands but the husbands didn't know each other but we live in different states now and usually don't have a chance to get together unless we spend the weekend together. We've gotten on each others' nerves a few times but basically we discover new things that the current trip planner has scheduled. We can go to restaurants our husbands normally don't enjoy, see a chick flick or shop as much as we want. I have really appreciated the times when the other three have agreed to do something they knew I really really wanted to do (a wild mushroom festival near Mystic CT) even though it wasn't at the top of their lists. In return I've been patient with their choices.
My husband and I have occasionally vacationed with another couple and it works out if you are sensitive to each others preferences. We don't expect the late sleepers to be up at the crack of dawn and we understand if someone wants to be alone for a day.
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Old Sep 11th, 2006, 02:37 PM
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When I was a kid, we used to do lots of camping vacations with extended family. Things worked out fairly well and people seemed to have a pretty good time. I think because with camping, there is plenty of room for people to hang out together or do their own thing. Everybody always was together for dinner and campfire, but during the day, people did all sorts of things.
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Old Sep 11th, 2006, 03:29 PM
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Like J_Correra, my family along with my wonderful aunt and uncle and three cousins (one who was a brat, lol) would go camping at Yosemite together. That was a lot of fun! Beautiful memories.

My husband and I preferred to travel on our own. I mentioned on the other post that we once took a cruise with some friends..we didn't know enough to have a good discussion about how they travelled before we took the cruise. Although my husband and I mananged to have fun it was not a successful time as the other husband was a pill!!

Now that I am on my own I have travelled with friends in Italy to other parts of Italy and it has always been a fantastic experience. And thankfully when I visit with various family members we all have a beautiful time.

I think it is easier to do things with others when it is just you. I think, generally speaking, it is perhaps harder when you are a couple. There are always exceptions of course.
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Old Sep 11th, 2006, 03:48 PM
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If you're talking about large groups of people moving around together - I have that question too.

But friends? Many people don;t have (at the moment) or no longer have spouses. And don;t have children - or have children out on their own - or too young to travel.

There are many reasons for traveling with people outside of the nuclear family (and by the way, in the US at the moment fewer than 50% of households are what you seen to consider "regular" nuclear - husband, wife and children at home).

I have traveled many times with friends (at times when I did or didn;t have a significant other. Have travled with parents (as an adult taken them places), with brother and sister-in-law and have traveled alone - or even briefly with co-workers - when attached to a business trip.

So - if your question is about traveling around in groups of 15 or 20 - I agree it seems unwieldy - unless you settle in one place. But as for traveling other than with your spouse - I think it may be less common than all other types of travel put together.
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Old Sep 11th, 2006, 03:57 PM
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I am afraid to travel with friends for the very reason someone else mentioned -- that we might not be friends at the end! But I think a short weekend away would work out with good friends. But I do hear from other couples who've gone with friends that they wouldn't do it again!
I just love getting away with the immediate family. It's easier.
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Old Sep 11th, 2006, 04:17 PM
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We love to rent a big beach house with another family or two. Everyone does their own thing during the day, but happy hour on the deck, dinner and usually games afterward are only enhanced by the company, IMO.
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Old Sep 11th, 2006, 05:29 PM
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Most travels I've done with friends have been just wonderful. Mind you, I'm single, so the dynamic is different than with friends in couples. I ask them what things they would like to do and offer suggestions of my own knowing their personalities. If there's something I want to do, I let them know long in advance and leave them the option to go or not. I especially enjoy introducing someone to a locale they've never been to before. The key for a successful trip with a friend I find is to be flexible and respectful.
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Old Sep 11th, 2006, 05:38 PM
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We have a very good friend who lived in our guest house for 9 years and still takes care of things for us when we are away. We took him with us a couple of times for trips from Hell. He is never ready when we want to go somewhere, he has a hard time making up his mind. He liked sitting up half the night watching TV then sleeping in for hours when we had plans to do things. He wants to sit and have cocktails for hours when we want to go do things, and he has none of the same travel interests that we have. We love him dearly, but have learned we will NOT travel together.

So a few years ago when two friends of ours (two thirty-something female roommates) wanted to go to New York with us (two guys in their 50-60's), we were very hesitant. But they were nervous about going alone and since we are all in theatre together figured that the theatre would be a common bond. We had a ball. When we made plans to meet at 8 AM, there they were. No matter what anyone suggested, all of us agreed. I don't think we have ever had so much fun on a trip before. So for the next few years we did trips together -- San Francisco, Los Angeles, and Las Vegas -- London, Amsterdam and Brugges -- Paris and London -- Switzerland and Italy. All trips were wonderful. We went places that Lee and I had been before and it was so much fun showing them our favorite places and discovering new ones together. Sadly, one of them moved away and the other is now living with a boyfriend -- so that was the end of that.

By the way, the looks we got with the age difference of the two men and the two gals was enough to make the trips worth it.
Old Sep 12th, 2006, 08:44 AM
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Travelling with compatible friends can increase the fun. In addition to splitting some costs, you always have someone to talk to.

We have gone on many trips with different couples, which were almost always successful. With one couple, we have taken a dozen trips to various countries, sometimes with groups, and sometimes only us 4. Some trips are better alone.

It all depends....
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