Tipping

Jul 19th, 2010, 10:45 PM
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I just usually say "do what you feel comfortable doing". If you feel like you got good service - tip. I've tipped private tour guides, drivers, waiters, chef at a cooking class - whatever the case may be. I tip based upon what I feel I got for service and what I can afford.

And yes, I generally round up - as I try to make everything an even amount in my bill - it's easier to remember when balancing accounts and trying to figure out what I've spent.

Again, I don't think there is any wrong answer. I also can only remember 1 time where someone took offense to being tipped - that was in Japan. I was younger - 25, and although I had lived overseas and been all over the world - had no idea that tipping was considered rude in Japan. The waitress chased me out of the restaraunt to try and give me back my tip.
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Jul 20th, 2010, 05:23 AM
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chazzarelli...thats funny...ok so NO tipping should I ever get to Japan!!
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Jul 20th, 2010, 05:51 AM
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Sorry, chazzarelli... but if your criterion is what YOU feel comfortable doing, this can mean ignoring what the society where you are a guest is comfortable with. And it does, not just in Japan. Please read what I wrote above: tipping is only for strangers, in Italy. If you never talk to anybody, tip away. If you talk to people, please reconsider your attitude.
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Jul 20th, 2010, 06:00 AM
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I once saw a young waiter in Rome (Trastevere) try to chase down an American to return a tip. He couldn't catch him, and stood there looking at the money with a befuddled look on his face.
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Jul 20th, 2010, 07:05 AM
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Exactly Franco - it's what I feel comfortable doing, and I've lived in Europe, been all over and never once had anyone get upset that I left a tip.

What do you consider talking to? I always small talk with waiters and waitresses. I've been back to a few places multiple times, but never enough where I am considered a regular. So yeah, I'd consider myself a "stranger" as you put it. I dont live there, I'm lucky to get there once a year.

I've also watched at places in Rome as waiters discussed how they were not tipped or got tipped very little by the "cheap tourist".

I live in the middle east now, and most local Arab's don't tip - although there is a section on the bill for tipping at most places. Should I not tip then? There are places I goto eat all the time in Dubai, and I'm recognized immediately, sat immediately when I show up - reservation or not. I tip there even when most locals dont tip. Almost all the westerners tip in Dubai - but most local Arabs do not. So are we in the wrong, or are they being cheap?

I don't want you to think I am trying to be negative towards what you are saying, just explaining my point of view and trying to get a better understanding of yours.
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Jul 20th, 2010, 07:56 AM
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If anyone is interested in a different perspective on the topic of tipping do a search on the topic for both New Zealand and Australia on Fodor. Many of you are in for a cultural readjustment based on what I'm reading above and elsewhere on postings for European countries in general.
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Jul 20th, 2010, 09:54 AM
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Sorry again, chazzarelli, but you're seriously underestimating the differences of social habits from one country to another. What do you mean by "So are we in the wrong, or are they being cheap?" - in their country, you are of course in the wrong if you don't act like they do. In your country, they are in the wrong if they act like they do at home. There is no universal wrong, and no universal cheap. What's cheap in one country is adequate in another, and flashy in a third. The art of traveling is NOT to stick your "home" habits or to defend them as "not in the wrong", but to adjust.
Probably you've never had anyone get upset about your tips because you're a nice person, whom they just didn't want to show that they were actually offended by your well-meaning behaviour. Waiters in Rome... yes, there are not too few restaurants in the "big 3" Italian cities that are simply tourist traps, to the extent that the waiters there are actually aiming at tips. American tips, to put it bluntly. At the restaurants where I typically eat, I've never heard any waiter say anything about a tip. It's no issue at all there. As long as you're a stranger, tip. Stop tipping when stopping to be a stranger. I've already tried to explain above how long you may consider yourself a stranger. Most probably not as long as you seem to be thinking.
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Jul 21st, 2010, 06:39 AM
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I guess it is a matter of being respectful of people and their way of doing things regardless of where you are. I do believe that if your intentions are good and you accidentally step on a few toes, a smile and an apology will go a long towards fixing any misunderstandings.
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