What do you think of the honeymoon registry trend?
Mar 28th, 2013, 09:36 AM
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Heehee - well for me, I don't care for the nenewing of vows, but I am ok with the honeymoon registry 
In some parts of the US, similar to Spain, the expectation is that guests "cover their plate charge" with their wedding gift. I think that is completely silly - guests should give at a level that they are comfortable with and the people hosting the reception should make choices about food, etc. based on what they can afford. This tit-for-tat business is lame. Besides, how is a guest even supposed to know how much is spent on the plate?
In some parts of the US, similar to Spain, the expectation is that guests "cover their plate charge" with their wedding gift. I think that is completely silly - guests should give at a level that they are comfortable with and the people hosting the reception should make choices about food, etc. based on what they can afford. This tit-for-tat business is lame. Besides, how is a guest even supposed to know how much is spent on the plate?
Apr 3rd, 2013, 06:53 AM
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I totally agree.. tacky tacky tacky.. and "try to cover the plate fee" is usually just a generous round number per person. Obviously everyone does what he wants/ can.. but I would assume there would be surprised looks if they received a much smaller amount than they were hoping from a mature couple.
Hopefully they wouldn't be upset.. as I have never been close enough to know or hear.. but this is how I FEEL it has been working for years.
Hopefully they wouldn't be upset.. as I have never been close enough to know or hear.. but this is how I FEEL it has been working for years.
Apr 3rd, 2013, 11:58 PM
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My best friend got married last year and being strapped for actual cash the best gift I gave her was my time. I came in 3 days prior to the wedding and asked her what still needed to be done. Then with the help of her family made sure it got done. Simply running errands, creating and printing the place cards, getting all the stuff to the venue, etc ended up being a big help for her.
I never use a "plate charge" gauge for my gift although I do look at their registry to see what they may need. In the end I get what I can afford and try to make it meaningful.
Another friend I made her wedding dress as the gift she just bought the fabric and trims.
Gifts should be treasured for the thought behind them not the money. IMO
I never use a "plate charge" gauge for my gift although I do look at their registry to see what they may need. In the end I get what I can afford and try to make it meaningful.
Another friend I made her wedding dress as the gift she just bought the fabric and trims.
Gifts should be treasured for the thought behind them not the money. IMO
Apr 5th, 2013, 02:26 PM
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When I first saw such a registry, I thought it may be tacky, but when the kids used it instead of wedding registry I was glad - it was so helpful not to twist my brains trying to figure out what to get them 
Now they have wonderful photos and videos, and of course lots of life-long memories.
Now they have wonderful photos and videos, and of course lots of life-long memories.
