Lastditch Fling for Fifty Year Olds
Dec 28th, 2004, 01:14 PM
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Need a cork, hummmm. Funny, but I won't ask....
You have all given me encouragement, my friend just told me since she had a very bad divorce she wants to start anew in a place she hasn't been before.
She would like to try Rome, Cinque Terre, Tuscany and Amalfi Coast as I read most of you enjoy also.
She had a bad experience re her ex in the red light district in Amsterdam so she doesn't want to return there (also in Berlin and Mykonos) and she feels the Italians are very warm people towards single women.
Thank you for the clever replies.
You have all given me encouragement, my friend just told me since she had a very bad divorce she wants to start anew in a place she hasn't been before.
She would like to try Rome, Cinque Terre, Tuscany and Amalfi Coast as I read most of you enjoy also.
She had a bad experience re her ex in the red light district in Amsterdam so she doesn't want to return there (also in Berlin and Mykonos) and she feels the Italians are very warm people towards single women.
Thank you for the clever replies.
Dec 28th, 2004, 01:29 PM
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Cosmopolitan,
I'm not sure how many of these responses here come from married women who usually travel with husbands, or have one to go home to, but the basic advice is good.
I'm a fifty something who looks more like forty plus a couple single girl, and I strongly vote for Italy. I also think you should embrace that feeling of "last ditch good time". Why? Because it resembles a "Seize the day" attitude that will carry you far in your travels!
Of course, it will pass soon enough when you realize how young you are, and how much life is ahead of you.
Why Italy? Well, fantastic food, abundant art and culture, and a healthy population of adorable, world class flirts of every age.
My first hand experience, without details: Italian men just love to be playing the game of flirting, and they are experts at helping you to laugh off your cares and fly free! I think they also have a superior sense of humor, and a no-blame attitude that takes away the hostility factor completely.
And my mother, who's over 80, here for a visit, is also nodding and smiling, yes, yes!
My vote goes to Rome, a magnoficent city. There's always alot going on there, and you can sidestep to some beaches from there if you need to see the sea.
I'm not sure how many of these responses here come from married women who usually travel with husbands, or have one to go home to, but the basic advice is good.
I'm a fifty something who looks more like forty plus a couple single girl, and I strongly vote for Italy. I also think you should embrace that feeling of "last ditch good time". Why? Because it resembles a "Seize the day" attitude that will carry you far in your travels!
Of course, it will pass soon enough when you realize how young you are, and how much life is ahead of you.
Why Italy? Well, fantastic food, abundant art and culture, and a healthy population of adorable, world class flirts of every age.
My first hand experience, without details: Italian men just love to be playing the game of flirting, and they are experts at helping you to laugh off your cares and fly free! I think they also have a superior sense of humor, and a no-blame attitude that takes away the hostility factor completely.
And my mother, who's over 80, here for a visit, is also nodding and smiling, yes, yes!
My vote goes to Rome, a magnoficent city. There's always alot going on there, and you can sidestep to some beaches from there if you need to see the sea.
Dec 28th, 2004, 01:30 PM
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I can;t believe you're calling this a last ditch good time. My beau and I are not very far short of that and believe me we have lots and lots of flinging yet to do. (And my gram had her last fling at 77 - with a boy toy of 71!)
Really - you need a more positive attitude!
Suggest you just go wherever you will really enjoy - and the flings will come to you if you are open to them. (I had a very interesting couple of weeks in Denmark and Sweden about 8 years ago - before the beau and I met naturally. Very flingable!)
Really - you need a more positive attitude!
Suggest you just go wherever you will really enjoy - and the flings will come to you if you are open to them. (I had a very interesting couple of weeks in Denmark and Sweden about 8 years ago - before the beau and I met naturally. Very flingable!)
Dec 28th, 2004, 01:33 PM
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Take Salvatore's boat trip from Positano along the Amalfi Coast in the summer and let his philosophy on life make you feel like 18 again, but not at all sad to be 50.
Then go hang out at the Jazz Festival in Montreux or Juan les Pins, sit cross-legged on the grass and listen to people make music and enjoy being.
Then go hang out at the Jazz Festival in Montreux or Juan les Pins, sit cross-legged on the grass and listen to people make music and enjoy being.
Dec 28th, 2004, 01:38 PM
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darn bellastar "no details". Just a few?
such as what city? Thank you for the encouragement too.
I think I have a positive attitude it is just that we went to a restaurant bar the other night and I felt like Mrs. Roper. For those of you who don't know USA sitcoms, she was a sexfiendish older woman who preyed on young men. I don't want to become a cartoon and I don't want to sit home knitting either.
such as what city? Thank you for the encouragement too.
I think I have a positive attitude it is just that we went to a restaurant bar the other night and I felt like Mrs. Roper. For those of you who don't know USA sitcoms, she was a sexfiendish older woman who preyed on young men. I don't want to become a cartoon and I don't want to sit home knitting either.
Dec 28th, 2004, 01:42 PM
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TRUE CONFESSION TIME!!! I was actually having a little Holiday fun as I've been HAPPILY married for nearly 35 years (next June) to my high school sweatheart. I'm taking my 2nd annual trip to Rome for Easter proceeded by a week in Venice. My wife is visiting her Dad in Connecticut for Easter. We are going to Hawaii TOGETHER in May/June and Ireland in September.
It sounds like you're Both Lively Ladies and will have NO trouble meeting some "FUN" people. Good Luck and Have Fun. Mike
It sounds like you're Both Lively Ladies and will have NO trouble meeting some "FUN" people. Good Luck and Have Fun. Mike
Dec 28th, 2004, 01:46 PM
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<a bad experience re her ex in the red light district in Amsterdam so she doesn't want to return there (also in Berlin and Mykonos)>
Well then... it sure sounds like you two are better off on your own, for finding a fun time that is!
surfergirl mentions Montreux Jazz Festival above... that or something like that might be good as a focal point for your trip. A place with loads of people gathering to party for a special occasion. Switzerland is a fabulous place to visit, and the festival draws people from all over Europe and beyond.
Good luck planning a fantastic trip. And thanks for making me realize how positive I feel about my own age (basically never think about it much and certainly never occured to me that I am anywhere near 'the hill' at 51)!!!
Well then... it sure sounds like you two are better off on your own, for finding a fun time that is!
surfergirl mentions Montreux Jazz Festival above... that or something like that might be good as a focal point for your trip. A place with loads of people gathering to party for a special occasion. Switzerland is a fabulous place to visit, and the festival draws people from all over Europe and beyond.
Good luck planning a fantastic trip. And thanks for making me realize how positive I feel about my own age (basically never think about it much and certainly never occured to me that I am anywhere near 'the hill' at 51)!!!
Dec 28th, 2004, 02:01 PM
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Cosmo, that is OK, you tear up! I have a very good friend who is now 53. Four years ago her husband left her for (big surprise) his secretary.
When she hit 50 she talked like she was 99 years old. It really distressed me. And she ran out and dated a lot of losers trying to regain her youth and confidence.
I had a hard time not saying anything but I really worried about her.
Finally she came to the realization that every day she was not getting younger and that if she wanted decades of a good life she had to start thinking differently.
The first thing she did was go back to school and get her Masters.
The next thing she did was clean out closets and drawers. Than she updated her wardrobe. And than she told her ex to come and take the furniture she did not want (all which he had picked out and was not her taste) or she was donating it. And little by little she has redone her home. Learned to paint, to hang new miniblinds, to garden, to prune shrubs.
Than she learned that her life on her own was actually fabulous. Not what she would have chosen of course but if one has lemons make lemonade as they say. Although personally I would make limencello
She now looks and acts 10 years younger than she did a few years ago. She travels, she goes to plays and concerts. She has friends over on Friday evenings for champagne and snacks.
Life is not only good for her, it is more fantastic than it was when she was married and played the "dutiful wife role".
As my dear daughter would say "you go girls". She would also tell you, "si, si go to bella Roma". She was divorced and that is what she did. Oh by the way, I now have a wonderful son-in-law that was born and raised in Rome.
But that is a story for another day.
You and your dear friend will have tears again if you go and see the beauty of Rome and her people.
Happy New Years to both of you!
When she hit 50 she talked like she was 99 years old. It really distressed me. And she ran out and dated a lot of losers trying to regain her youth and confidence.
I had a hard time not saying anything but I really worried about her.
Finally she came to the realization that every day she was not getting younger and that if she wanted decades of a good life she had to start thinking differently.
The first thing she did was go back to school and get her Masters.
The next thing she did was clean out closets and drawers. Than she updated her wardrobe. And than she told her ex to come and take the furniture she did not want (all which he had picked out and was not her taste) or she was donating it. And little by little she has redone her home. Learned to paint, to hang new miniblinds, to garden, to prune shrubs.
Than she learned that her life on her own was actually fabulous. Not what she would have chosen of course but if one has lemons make lemonade as they say. Although personally I would make limencello
She now looks and acts 10 years younger than she did a few years ago. She travels, she goes to plays and concerts. She has friends over on Friday evenings for champagne and snacks.
Life is not only good for her, it is more fantastic than it was when she was married and played the "dutiful wife role".
As my dear daughter would say "you go girls". She would also tell you, "si, si go to bella Roma". She was divorced and that is what she did. Oh by the way, I now have a wonderful son-in-law that was born and raised in Rome.
But that is a story for another day.
You and your dear friend will have tears again if you go and see the beauty of Rome and her people.
Happy New Years to both of you!
Dec 28th, 2004, 02:15 PM
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cosmopolitan;
re details: I would be so happy to share some of them, but have been learning that not all the faces here are equally friendly, so I need a little protective distance... the city? Rome and some other villages and towns in the south (same person). You will have so many details and memories of your own soon enough, never fear!!!
The most important thing is a new view of yourselves! Enjoy!
re details: I would be so happy to share some of them, but have been learning that not all the faces here are equally friendly, so I need a little protective distance... the city? Rome and some other villages and towns in the south (same person). You will have so many details and memories of your own soon enough, never fear!!!
The most important thing is a new view of yourselves! Enjoy!
Dec 28th, 2004, 02:44 PM
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I will do a search here for more information. If I click on each one of your names I can come up with some of your trip reports?
Do you write reports to thank people for their help? I think that is a wonderful idea, I am going to start now. I will write a report if anything interesting happens.
Do you write reports to thank people for their help? I think that is a wonderful idea, I am going to start now. I will write a report if anything interesting happens.
Dec 28th, 2004, 02:49 PM
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Rent the movie Shirley Valentine and think about Greece. Or watch Bread & Tulips and consider Venice. Or Under the Tuscan Sun for Tuscany...or read this Fodors thread
http://www.fodors.com/forums/threads...p;tid=34537858
My point is you can find romance, adventure, whatever...wherever. If I were in your shoes I'd go wherever you think would be most interesting to YOU. If you're interested and engaged, you will be more interesting to others.
BTW, I do agree with the others. 50 is no longer old or haven't you been keeping up with the likes of Susan Sarandon, <i>Oprah</i> etc.?
http://www.fodors.com/forums/threads...p;tid=34537858
My point is you can find romance, adventure, whatever...wherever. If I were in your shoes I'd go wherever you think would be most interesting to YOU. If you're interested and engaged, you will be more interesting to others.
BTW, I do agree with the others. 50 is no longer old or haven't you been keeping up with the likes of Susan Sarandon, <i>Oprah</i> etc.?
