My husband is the one in our family! At home he prefers to wear each shirt and each pair of pants ONCE before washing. Although he is not so rigid on a trip, he definitely believes that more is more! Our solution? Laundry! In Greece it was a pleasure and a bargain; in Paris we almost had to mortgage the house. But if it keeps us both happy, it's worth it. And I admit that I enjoy something fresh too. <BR> <BR>On the schlepping issue, we each handle our own, so I can't complain. And I have come to realize that women have a significant advantage in that their clothes and shoes are simply SMALLER! Maybe that's why some of us always grab one more thing...

Unless a person has some kind of a physical infirmity, I see no reason why they can't carry whatever it is they choose to bring with them on a trip. <BR> <BR>

Go with the tough love - believe me it is the ONLY cure...I am a former overpacker and cured my disease when I went on a trip with a friend rather than a boyfriend...by day three I wanted to throw my suitcase in the warm aegean waters...dragging the damn thing up the stairs...pushing it down... <BR> <BR>Tell her it will be good for her arms...and that defined arms are sexy! (warning this may also get you in big trouble!)

Dear John: <BR>I have read these post and I am either lucky or my husband is smart. We always travel with whatever we need. As I have stated in previous discussions we have on average 4-8 bags and have never had a problem getting our bags where they needed to be. <BR>We just got back from a lovely vacation. We started with 5 bags and came home with 6. This was light for us. My husband packed our nice wines in his carry on. We had 14 bottles. He complained once, I offered to "pull" the bag and he gave me a look as if I had insulted him... <BR>He would NEVER say pack what you can carry. I am his wife and would NEVER tolerate such behavior or attitude from him EVER. <BR> <BR>John: you have to go with what will work in your marriage. If your wife is a packer like me then I say, you knew that when you married her...make it fun, tell her for every time you take her bag/s when you would perfer not to then she has to "pay" you...Be creative and remember, a trip is for a few days, weeks or months but a marriage lasts a lifetime. <BR> <BR>My Best! <BR>Oaktown <BR>

Most of you are so lucky. I can't stand to wear the same shoes day after day, so I take two pair of walking shoes and 1 pair of dressy shoes. I just weighed my shoes and they weigh 3 lps apiece. I wear size 15 triple wide so 2 pair would fill my carry on. I'm also one of those who have to shop at tall man shops so my clothes also take quite a bit of room. My solution is a carryon with wheels and a good size duffel bag that I can attach to my roll-on. It is inconvenient at times, but I also figure that I am an ambassador for my country and dress accordingly <BR>Regards <BR>Art <BR>

Maybe I just have a sweet wife. But I asked her to go to smaller bags (we went from 30" to 26") because I just couldn't keep carrying the large bags up 3 floors to our room. She said no problem. Remember in most small hotels you will have to carry your own bags.