Appropriate footwear?

Dec 17th, 2012, 06:14 PM
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I am glad for all of you who can always look nice in footwear that matches the style and color of your outfit. Unfortunately I have a lot of foot problems. I am fine as long as I wear extra wide tie shoes with inserts. But try to squeeze my feet into fancy shoes and I am in agony fast! I do have one pair of semi dressy sandals and one pair of semi dressy flat shoes that I can stand for a couple of hours as long as most of it is sitting.
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Dec 17th, 2012, 06:46 PM
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I know many people who has similar value system like your friend: what matters is how they think the others think of them, real or unreal, and wear clothes and do things strictly along that line. As others indicated, there is no need to adopt such (perhaps dysfunctional) behavior in your case.

There may be very special cases where it might be prudent to avoid certain colored garments associated with atrocities. But your concern has nothing to do with these kind of special cases.
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Dec 17th, 2012, 06:46 PM
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@irishface...I commiserate with you..I actually LOVE shoes, but after my's just not possible & I'm thankful for my braces & orthotics so I can get around easily & don't much care what they look like....kinda like "Run Forrest....Run!
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Dec 17th, 2012, 07:29 PM
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You will find that people will wear all sorts of foot gear. You need to wear what best fits your orthotics and braces and makes you feel secure and comfortable. The fashion police will not arrest you!

I have to wear orthotics and they only fit properly in my very supportive blue and white running shoes. Even so, at the end of a long day my feet may hurt. I do bring a change of foot gear for evenings, when I know I wont be walking far.

There is no need to bring dressy shoes for a skirt or can wear dress slacks in a dark color, and then wear your black running shoes with your orthotics and braces.
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Dec 17th, 2012, 08:16 PM
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I've been watching this thread with interest. As someone who has problems with feet, knees and back I live in hiking boots. I proved I could not go without them at my step-daughters wedding when I wore supportive sandals with my orthotics, a pretty suit and sat for the majority of the time. I was wiped out for two days - could not bare the touch of a bedsheet on my left foot. Could not walk, drive, nothing. At that point I decided my priority in life was to stay mobile so I could continue to enjoy life.

It does mean no skirts and dresses but as someone above has said you can wear dark, dressy slacks and dress up the top bit. I have since travelled and enjoyed myself without the stress of worrying about "will this visit to a restaurant dressed in non-supportive footwear wipe out the rest of my travel plans".

I understand that other people have different priorities in life, I'm just saying my priority is to keep moving.

Best wishes for your trip - enjoy.
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Dec 17th, 2012, 08:58 PM
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Thanks 2012moving...I certainly have been encouraged by all the threads, especially from those like you that can relate to my dilemma. Continue moving & so will I!
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Dec 17th, 2012, 10:17 PM
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Just another footnote: kerouac who posts here also posts interesting photo-essays on things he sees around Paris, and your friend might use them to pick up some hints and tips on what people in Paris wear (i.e., pretty much the same sort of range you'd get in any big city):
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Dec 18th, 2012, 02:26 AM
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I didn't touch an ounce of it, as it was mainly Hersheys which even a self respecting Springer Spaniel would refuse. I also was totally pigged out on all the Shrimps we caught and barbecued.

Yes, that is not a mistype, a barbecue in Novemeber and eaten outside, after dark.

Incredible stuff.
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Dec 18th, 2012, 08:41 AM
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Yes, that is not a mistype, a barbecue in Novemeber and eaten outside, after dark.>>

I suspect that it was warmer than November in Cornwall!
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Dec 18th, 2012, 08:49 AM
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"@lsky, you sound like my friend...she is always dressing according to what she thinks would be appropriate...but to me it always seems like she is "playing dress-up" but that's what she is comfortable in & she cares more about what people think of her outward appearance more than the inward stuff..not sure why but she does."

I am nothing like your friend. It would never occur to me to tell someone how to dress or to be embarassed because a friend needed extra equipment. That my friend's are neat and clean is enough for me, the clothes the choose are of no consequence to me.

We haven't heard your friend's side of this so we don't really know the other side. I'm a native San Diegan.

I've only tried to be friendly to you and that you've decided to insult me is a bit of a mystery but I'm going to say this:

You'll be going on vacation with this person and if I were you I'd have a frank talk that started with, "you hurt my feelings when you said..." because that sounds like what happened.

Fodors is littered with bad travel companion stories and they are ONLY and EVER funny in retrospect for the uninvolved reader. If you're packing hostility towards your friend then you should solve it or back out of the trip.

BTW, I am a native San Diegan and have only ever lived in California and am well aware of the various degrees of casual dress.
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Dec 18th, 2012, 02:24 PM
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@lsky...I am so intention was not to insult you..EVER..I was just making a comparison to her fashion sense, she is always mindful of how she looks and would never go to the store, just to pick up something quick (like I would) without looking her best so she is more familiar with fashion than I am. I was in no way saying that it was a "dig" of any kind and she is my very best friend and I did tell her that I would never want to embarrass her. Her reply was that Europeans have a different standard than our accepting of casual wear most anywhere. I mean I can go to the BelAir hotel in jeans and a top without feeling weird at all but she said that was not the case and that they would be my post is more about whether I would offend people in another country, which I don't wish to do. Again, I'm very sorry that I offended you and very much appreciated your comments. I grew up in Hermosa Beach, have daughters that live in Leucadia and Huntington Beach and I live on the central coast in Pismo Beach and I would say I am definitely casual and a bit of a knock-off from the 60's.
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Dec 18th, 2012, 02:45 PM
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<< Her reply was that Europeans have a different standard than our accepting of casual wear most anywhere>>

By the way, your friend is just plain dead wrong about that and a victim of some sort of weird stereotyping. Poke around and try to find some of kerouac's photo essays of people on the streets of Paris. I am all for dressing nicely when traveling, but honestly, Paris is not a fashion parade (unless you're going to be shopping at Givenchy and the like). Not only that, Parisians simply aren't going to notice or care about what you or any other tourist is wearing. Go and enjoy!
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Dec 18th, 2012, 03:38 PM
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@PatrickLondon....thanks for the links...the pictures reflect pretty much regular "daytime" clothes that I would wear so feeling even more comfortable about all the fuss (it even included a woman with a cane and shoes much like mine). I'm going to share the links with my friend and let her know that she doesn't need to worry about me and I'll let her dress me up for any nighttime special events that she may want to attend.

@StCirq...I'm glad to hear that no one will be offended nor care what I'm wearing. After all the posts...I assume if I feel uncomfortable in what I pack, I can always go to a store while there and buy something more suitable.

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Dec 18th, 2012, 08:26 PM
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kiv, your friend is wrong. I love wearing jeans and I wear them when I travel. I prefer a dark wash and I do bring quite a bit of black because it travels well and it covers quite a lot of territory.

The only reason anyone would ever be offended is the same reason they would be offended here; if someone smells bad.

The 1st time I went to Europe my sister was aghast because I planned on taking a gauzy dress and pants with a tunic top - you've seen the type that are made in India. Since my sister and I have totally different taste in clothes, I was making the right decision. She wouldn't have been comfortable in my clothes but I am and I wear what I love to wear.

One of my best friends likes to say, "we are all walking art."

Walk in beauty, let your freak flag fly.
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Dec 18th, 2012, 08:39 PM
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Posts: 11 what your friend said that "we are all walking art" and I couldn't agree more. I would feel very comfortable in a gauzy dress and pants with a tunic top. Thanks for your comments, I feel so much better!!!
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Dec 19th, 2012, 12:11 AM
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I'm no dress expert, but what LSky is describing can be dressing up or down: that's a matter of cuts and fabric, accessories and the like. In its "pure" South Asian form of the shalwar kameez, it can be very glitzy indeed - and that wouldn't be unknown in Paris, either, since there are established South Asian communities there and a fair few shops catering to them.
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