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Old Feb 18th, 2014 | 12:25 PM
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Here's another idea-book them on the night tour with Fat Tire Bikes:

http://paris.fattirebiketours.com/to...ight-bike-tour

I know the company pretty well because a friend worked for them-it was started by a guy from Austin TX, so almost exclusively English speakers since it is geared for tourists.
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Old Feb 18th, 2014 | 12:25 PM
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I don't think it's silly to not want two teens, one only 14, walking around a big foreign city alone at night. And the idea of a 14 yr old girl going out "clubbing" is a bit much IMO.

You never know which way the wind blows on Fodors, not long ago, people were crucifying that English couple for leaving a child sleeping in a hotel room when they were not that far away outside. It would have been perfectly normal if they were at home and there was that distance from a child sleeping in a bedroom, but because it was a foreign place, and a hotel or villa or something, lots of people posted that they should be charged with a crime.
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Old Feb 18th, 2014 | 12:55 PM
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Christina - that was a <B>THREE</B> year old - not an 18 yo adult . . .
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Old Feb 18th, 2014 | 12:57 PM
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modestobruce: What area are you staying - then maybe we can make some other suggestions, but a Fat Tire tour would be fabulous fun. (and totally safe )
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Old Feb 18th, 2014 | 01:02 PM
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Modesto...I fully understand your question and sorry for all the parenting advice that you did not ask for...none of anyone's business. And honestly going out for pizza and a movie is probably not a very good idea either...you will be touring and walking and busy all day no doubt and my guess is that your kids would love some down time with their "devices" and if available watch a movie in your hotel room. They need nothing more for the evening and yes they will be safe...hopefully you have some phone communication with them in case of any emergency. As usual this thread has gone really off topic. The simple answer to a simple question is yes and enjoy your dinner out.
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Old Feb 18th, 2014 | 01:33 PM
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Bruce- Please ignore the posters here who are questioning your parenting choices.

I can absolutely see why you would not want your daughters walking around a large city in a foreign country where they don't know the language or the laws.. Just sayin'. (I have daughters and I'd have felt the same way.)

Stick to your guns! Dinner nearby for them, then back to hotel is a good thought. I'm on your side!!!

Happy Anniversary! Have a great trip!
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Old Feb 18th, 2014 | 01:42 PM
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@dulcius: "Come to that, I wouldn't walk around NYC alone at night at any age."

You're joking, right? This isn't the 70's.
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Old Feb 18th, 2014 | 02:09 PM
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I like gretchens idea of the whole family going out together to celebrate.
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Old Feb 18th, 2014 | 02:40 PM
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I would want downtime away from mom and Dad at that point. Wait till you check out your area.
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Old Feb 18th, 2014 | 03:18 PM
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Take the kids with you. Otherwise, you're likely to be anxious and won't enjoy yourselves.
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Old Feb 18th, 2014 | 03:26 PM
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Kerouac- define "some advice". Perhaps I'm wrong, but I AM a parent and I get a definite vibe that some posters here are putting the OP down for even asking the question.

To each his own.
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Old Feb 18th, 2014 | 03:28 PM
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Only you know your daughters. Why not set them up for an evening in the hotel room, if you think they shouldn't be out alone. Like get pizza IN, or set up a picnic, have them watch French TV or read a book or something.

As others have mentioned many 18 year olds are backpacking Europe on their own. So clearly there is no one correct answer here.
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Old Feb 18th, 2014 | 03:34 PM
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<I like gretchens idea of the whole family going out together to celebrate>

nanabee, If they wanted to do that, they wouldn't have posted this question in the first place.
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Old Feb 18th, 2014 | 05:24 PM
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Considering that many 13 and 14 year olds - all over the US - are babysitting younger children - and many 17/18 year olds are living at college - I really don't think it makes sense to lock these 2 in their room as if they were 8 or 9 years old.

If they are very naive - this is a chance to broaden their horizons (not just this night but their entire visit to Paris). Allowing young adult children to grow up is not neglecting them - that is the proper role of parents - to let them grow and set them free.

Unless there are specific concerns about the 14 year old - running off away from her sister - I can't imagine not letting them have a kids night in one of the gazillion perfectly safe place in paris.

As for being afraid to walk the street in New York oneself - well that's just ridiculous. I mean you can be as terrified as your want - but if you keep heading in that direction you'll never leave your house.
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Old Feb 18th, 2014 | 05:59 PM
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There is no doubt that you can leave them in the room without concern. I suspect that once you settle into the neighborhood you will feel perfectly comfortable with them wandering down the street to either eat or get some takeout and I suspect the girls will be thrilled to chill in the room if you have been going hard for several days.

Our 13 and 16 did just that over Thanksgiving, getting some food in the Rue Buci area, wandering back to our apartment and catching up on photos and electronics after an exhausting day. Frankly, we would have been comfortable with them doing more but they were beat! Anyway, you will be fine and it will be a good experience for all, however far you are comfortable stretching.
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Old Feb 18th, 2014 | 06:06 PM
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I wouldn't leave any kid alone in a hotel room in Modesto, but we're talking about Paris, where teens are safely out and about until late at night in all parts of the city with no worries whatsoever. Maybe the OP will wise up to how safe the city is and how kids are fine out on their own after dark once he gets there and actually sees it. It's astonishing to me how Americans, who live in one of the most dangerous places on earth, where any nutcase can carry a lethal weapon, worry about Europe.

LOL, Tuscan. We do have aliens here, but they are born and bred DCers.
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Old Feb 19th, 2014 | 03:15 AM
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When will you be in Paris? In June it is light until 10 pm. It will really not feel like sending your kids out in the dark in a strange city.

I must say that my kids quite enjoy an evening of room service with a movie, even if old enough to go out on their own.
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Old Feb 19th, 2014 | 03:27 AM
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When my daughter was 17 she went back packing around Europe for 3 months. This was in the day before cell phones and internet and our only means of keeping in touch was letters to American express offices on her route, and the occasional (and expensive) international phone call. Let your girls plan what they will do with their evening, go out and enjoy your anniversary in fine style, and you will all be the better for it.
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Old Feb 19th, 2014 | 04:57 AM
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My daughter inter railed at 18 with three boys. The first we heard from her was a phone call from Budapest
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Old Feb 19th, 2014 | 05:24 AM
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I had a first timer to Orlando on the plane Sunday night. I told him where not to go in the city beautiful. Orlando is a crime infested jungle where they will shoot you before even getting your money. Paris is very safe. You might get pick pocketed but you will live to tell about it. Once modestobruce gets there he will be ok and feel safe for his girls.
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