Where have you renewed your wedding vows?
Oct 19th, 2003, 01:18 PM
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Where have you renewed your wedding vows?
Hello all,
Since no one had ideas or info. on Hawaii, I thought I'd try a new angle. I'd like some good ideas for our spring 20th, in which our two boys, 9 & 14, would be present. I think the one thing they shot down was Vegas, and we agreed that an Elvis renewal theme would not be that cool! Besides, I don't like seeing or bringing kids to that destination. Thanks.
Since no one had ideas or info. on Hawaii, I thought I'd try a new angle. I'd like some good ideas for our spring 20th, in which our two boys, 9 & 14, would be present. I think the one thing they shot down was Vegas, and we agreed that an Elvis renewal theme would not be that cool! Besides, I don't like seeing or bringing kids to that destination. Thanks.
Oct 19th, 2003, 03:15 PM
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What is the reason for renewing your vow's? I guess for everyone the reason may be different. We renewed ours on our 40th anniversary. It was a surprise given to us by our children. They rented a room at the Sheraton, filled it with all our friends and relatives, good food/bar and dancing and surprised us with special memories and a family friend/minister who remarried us. This is what was special to us....friends, ralatives and a great party. IMO renewal of vows without family and friends is not as meaningful, regardless of the beautiful surroundings.
What is the reason for renewing your vow's? I guess for everyone the reason may be different. We renewed ours on our 40th anniversary. It was a surprise given to us by our children. They rented a room at the Sheraton, filled it with all our friends and relatives, good food/bar and dancing and surprised us with special memories and a family friend/minister who remarried us. This is what was special to us....friends, ralatives and a great party. IMO renewal of vows without family and friends is not as meaningful, regardless of the beautiful surroundings.
Oct 19th, 2003, 03:27 PM
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I am not trying to be critical but should your boys be the ones making the decision?
Agree with cd's take on things.
How about NYC? My husband and I talked about having another ceremony at St. Patricks (I'm Catholic, he isn't, we weren't married in the church so it would technically be a first wedding in the eyes of the church).
Are you relatives going to attend? Is there an area that would be convenient for friends and relatives?
Agree with cd's take on things.
How about NYC? My husband and I talked about having another ceremony at St. Patricks (I'm Catholic, he isn't, we weren't married in the church so it would technically be a first wedding in the eyes of the church).
Are you relatives going to attend? Is there an area that would be convenient for friends and relatives?
Oct 19th, 2003, 03:51 PM
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Sorry, gotta share an Elvis Anniversary tidbit since you mentioned it. This last November my parents plannned a 25th wedding anniversary party in Las Vegas and as a surprise to all attending, about an hour into the party, and Elvis impersonator showed up and performed. He was a good one that is in movies, etc. It was so much fun to see my relatives old and young dancing and singing along and laughing to his dumb jokes. You'd think they were seeing the real Elvis again. Not my personal choice either but it turned out to be fun.
Oct 19th, 2003, 06:04 PM
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Gypppielou,
We love Sedona! Did the pink jeep tour and a biplane ride a few years back. To cd and Gotravel, our boys haven't made any decision. I am actually the one who wouldn't want my kids with us in Vegas at their ages. I want them included on our 20th because of several reasons. As wonderful as it must be to have grown children throw you a big party with the friends and family, we aren't at that stage of life yet. Our kids have been a part of a loving marriage and it's only fitting we want them to see our recommitment in a nice setting. I guess I don't assume there will be a guarantee of a thirty, forty, fifty year, as who knows what life has in store. I enjoy celebrating things as they come, and since spring break and our ann. date coincide, it just works out naturally. If family could get free of work and school obligations, we'd love for them to attend, but our extended family is more one that sends cards and good wishes and leaves the ceremony to the couple to celebrate on their own. Thanks for all the input and I will continue to investigate locations. J. Still hoping somene may have done this in Hawaii and will write. We married in Puerto Vallarta in 1984.
We love Sedona! Did the pink jeep tour and a biplane ride a few years back. To cd and Gotravel, our boys haven't made any decision. I am actually the one who wouldn't want my kids with us in Vegas at their ages. I want them included on our 20th because of several reasons. As wonderful as it must be to have grown children throw you a big party with the friends and family, we aren't at that stage of life yet. Our kids have been a part of a loving marriage and it's only fitting we want them to see our recommitment in a nice setting. I guess I don't assume there will be a guarantee of a thirty, forty, fifty year, as who knows what life has in store. I enjoy celebrating things as they come, and since spring break and our ann. date coincide, it just works out naturally. If family could get free of work and school obligations, we'd love for them to attend, but our extended family is more one that sends cards and good wishes and leaves the ceremony to the couple to celebrate on their own. Thanks for all the input and I will continue to investigate locations. J. Still hoping somene may have done this in Hawaii and will write. We married in Puerto Vallarta in 1984.
Oct 19th, 2003, 06:16 PM
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jetset1,
I completely agree with your reasoning. I think renewing vows in Hawaii would be terrific. I have also
thought about it - and we are only on our 14th year! Take your sons and go to
Hawaii. I would recommend the Hyatt on
Kauai - it has beautiful grounds and is
such a great hotel for families. My son
of 10 years old loved the place. So did
my husband and I. It was beautiful, restful and fun all at once. Best of
Luck.
I completely agree with your reasoning. I think renewing vows in Hawaii would be terrific. I have also
thought about it - and we are only on our 14th year! Take your sons and go to
Hawaii. I would recommend the Hyatt on
Kauai - it has beautiful grounds and is
such a great hotel for families. My son
of 10 years old loved the place. So did
my husband and I. It was beautiful, restful and fun all at once. Best of
Luck.
Oct 19th, 2003, 07:32 PM
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Thanks Jenn
We have not been to Kauai since 1987, but great place to consider, the hiking, scenery and relaxation sounds perfect. It's great that you are already planning ahead. Then after this, we'll have the 25th to look forward to, and we'll take our older boys to Vegas for the Elvis bonanza, lol!! Wednesday, your story was great! I guess we do this for the enjoyment and happiness of others as much as for ourselves.
We have not been to Kauai since 1987, but great place to consider, the hiking, scenery and relaxation sounds perfect. It's great that you are already planning ahead. Then after this, we'll have the 25th to look forward to, and we'll take our older boys to Vegas for the Elvis bonanza, lol!! Wednesday, your story was great! I guess we do this for the enjoyment and happiness of others as much as for ourselves.
Oct 20th, 2003, 04:22 AM
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How about in your local community at your local church so that your friends, relatives, and other loved ones can easliy share in the celebration???? This idea is almost as tacky as a "destination wedding".
Oct 20th, 2003, 05:50 AM
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Jet, I think the idea of including your kids is lovely. Friends of ours got married barefoot in a local park 25 years ago. Each year on their anniversary they and their seven kids go back to the park and reenact the ceremony. My husband and I would like to renew our vows in Hawaii next August and will be doing it with our best friends at an estate we will be renting for a week on Oahu. The website is:
http://www.kahanakai.com/weddings.html
http://www.kahanakai.com/weddings.html
Oct 20th, 2003, 07:48 AM
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We live in Alaska, and our family members are elsewhere. As I said before, this is more for immediate family, and due to jobs and committments, most of our family wouldn't make it. I was thinking about more of a formal affair for the 25th, however. Bardo, though everyone is entitled to an opinion, I wouldn't be too quick to say our idea is tacky-- after living with our long and wonderful winter for six months, we love taking a tropical/warm weather holiday, as do many people. I guess if you live somewhere warmer, your outlook may be different. The thing with these boards and condensed messages is that no one can know all the reasons behind an idea, only try to give advice and be helpful(hopefully in a pleasant, non judgemental way).Maggi, you have an awesome idea, and thank you for the link. I will check into that soon. J.
Oct 20th, 2003, 08:22 AM
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I am truly sorry if I came off judgemental. I believe one of the best gifts you can give your boys is love for their Dad, so in that respect, their inclusion in this kind of celebration is a good thing. My idea, that I stated badly, would be a religous celebration with family and friends. But thats me. What about, whereever the location and after you repeat your vows, letting them read something they have previously written on what it means to them to be part of this family?
I am truly sorry if I came off judgemental. I believe one of the best gifts you can give your boys is love for their Dad, so in that respect, their inclusion in this kind of celebration is a good thing. My idea, that I stated badly, would be a religous celebration with family and friends. But thats me. What about, whereever the location and after you repeat your vows, letting them read something they have previously written on what it means to them to be part of this family?
Oct 20th, 2003, 09:03 AM
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Jetset: My husband and I renewed our wedding vows on a gondola in Venice, Italy this past summer, so I thought I would offer a couple of suggestions regardless of where you decide to renew yours.
Our ceremony consisted of just the two of us and it was so meaningful and momentous, as well as very special for us both. We wrote our own vows consisiting of what our past years together have meant to each of us, and many tears were shed since neither of us knew what the other was going to say. We also exchanged Venetian glass beads, rather than rings this time, since the beads would always represent to us the magical place where we renewed our commitment to one another.
Therefore, you might want to think about stating to one another what your years together have meant, as well as exchanging meaningful items from the location that you choose.
Good luck with your plans and congratulations!
Our ceremony consisted of just the two of us and it was so meaningful and momentous, as well as very special for us both. We wrote our own vows consisiting of what our past years together have meant to each of us, and many tears were shed since neither of us knew what the other was going to say. We also exchanged Venetian glass beads, rather than rings this time, since the beads would always represent to us the magical place where we renewed our commitment to one another.
Therefore, you might want to think about stating to one another what your years together have meant, as well as exchanging meaningful items from the location that you choose.
Good luck with your plans and congratulations!
Oct 20th, 2003, 10:09 AM
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Thank you Statia~ that is one of the meaningful suggestions yet. I love the heartfelt message as opposed to having someone neutral simply recite a generic paragraph. Since we married in Mexico in an outdoor setting, we aren't looking for the religious aspect. We are keeping this simple and relaxed. Who knows what we'll wear. A sarong would be fine with me! Anyway, thanks to those who responded. My day will continue on an upbeat vibe after these suggestions, J.
Oct 20th, 2003, 11:50 AM
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jetset1 - The time is right yet for my husband and I to renew our vows so I don't have specific location suggestions for you. The one thing I know is that when the time comes it will take place at dawn.
Dawn symbolizes the beginning of a new day as a wedding ceremony symbolizes the beginning of a family. But, dawn is not truly the beginning of the day, just one particulurly beautiful part of it. Can you truly say when a day began or ended?
Similarly, our wedding day wasn't the true beginning of our marriage. Our wedding day was however a particulurly beautiful part of it. Nor will death be the end of our marriage as we will continue forever in our decendants.
It seems appropriate to me to renew our marriage at dawn with our children as recognition of the eternal nature of "us".
Just do what is in your heart and it will be beautiful and meaningful. Think about how you feel about your marriage and pick a spot that illustrates that feeling.
I would want to symbolize eternity so I think of dawn.
If you want to symbolize the fun and laughter of your marriage the Elvis thing works.
If you think of your marriage as a refuge from the hustle and bustle of real life, a beautiful garden in a city park might work.
If you think of your marriage as the source of strength then an old forest of tall strong trees might be appropriate.
If you think of your marriage as a source of beauty that enriches, then maybe the courtyard of an art museum.
Congratulations and good luck.
Dawn symbolizes the beginning of a new day as a wedding ceremony symbolizes the beginning of a family. But, dawn is not truly the beginning of the day, just one particulurly beautiful part of it. Can you truly say when a day began or ended?
Similarly, our wedding day wasn't the true beginning of our marriage. Our wedding day was however a particulurly beautiful part of it. Nor will death be the end of our marriage as we will continue forever in our decendants.
It seems appropriate to me to renew our marriage at dawn with our children as recognition of the eternal nature of "us".
Just do what is in your heart and it will be beautiful and meaningful. Think about how you feel about your marriage and pick a spot that illustrates that feeling.
I would want to symbolize eternity so I think of dawn.
If you want to symbolize the fun and laughter of your marriage the Elvis thing works.
If you think of your marriage as a refuge from the hustle and bustle of real life, a beautiful garden in a city park might work.
If you think of your marriage as the source of strength then an old forest of tall strong trees might be appropriate.
If you think of your marriage as a source of beauty that enriches, then maybe the courtyard of an art museum.
Congratulations and good luck.
Oct 20th, 2003, 12:22 PM
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Bennnie, very nice sentiments and ideas! We used similar sentiments for our renewal since Italy has so much Renaissance, which means "rebirth," and we felt that our marriage was being "reborn."
Please keep us informed with what you decide, Jetset.
Please keep us informed with what you decide, Jetset.
Oct 20th, 2003, 03:30 PM
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I think our mindset is to take one plane and be somewhere with some sun. I'd settle for anywhere by April, after snow related recreation and being a gym rat. Your ideas are the best. Bennnie, you wrote some things that really touched me. I tried to print it out to show my husband, but the printer wouldn't cooperate. Thanks so much. Originally, I had thought of an outdoor by-the-river thing, with the eagles soaring overhead, but my indulgent side urged me to explore more far reaching destinations. Besides, I think wherever we go, we'll be happy. One of my so. Cal. pals suggested Paris in Sept., but that's football season at my house, and the timing wouldn't work. Fun to dream about tho...J.
