Wearing Black to a wedding.
Apr 15th, 2002, 01:16 PM
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Well, it's sort of about traveling, since there are regional and cultural variations.
I hate to see people under 50 wearing black, because colors on younger people (I include those in their 40s, sure) look so good and black can be such a waste of "seriosity." Meanwhile, those of us over 50 are really tempting disaster if we wear pastels (unless you have lavender-blue-white hair?) or some kinds of prints, so black is the only "sure" color to keep us from looking like little-girl wannabes.
If you're young, don't have gray hair, I say why try to look like an old widow. Two years ago, I was at a popular pre-prom restaurant and all the gorgeous girls were wearing black, and as good as some looked, it was generally kind of sad in my opinion because even those blonde bombshells who "killed" in black would have killed even more in silver, white, pale blue, etc.
This year, I was at the same restaurant, and it was color, glitz, beads, wonderfully inventive straps and drapes -- a real celebration and I was so glad to see it after all that black, black, black.
Someday, those with black weddings will show their granddaughters pictures and the granddaughters will say "WHAT were you thinking?"
I hate to see people under 50 wearing black, because colors on younger people (I include those in their 40s, sure) look so good and black can be such a waste of "seriosity." Meanwhile, those of us over 50 are really tempting disaster if we wear pastels (unless you have lavender-blue-white hair?) or some kinds of prints, so black is the only "sure" color to keep us from looking like little-girl wannabes.
If you're young, don't have gray hair, I say why try to look like an old widow. Two years ago, I was at a popular pre-prom restaurant and all the gorgeous girls were wearing black, and as good as some looked, it was generally kind of sad in my opinion because even those blonde bombshells who "killed" in black would have killed even more in silver, white, pale blue, etc.
This year, I was at the same restaurant, and it was color, glitz, beads, wonderfully inventive straps and drapes -- a real celebration and I was so glad to see it after all that black, black, black.
Someday, those with black weddings will show their granddaughters pictures and the granddaughters will say "WHAT were you thinking?"
Apr 15th, 2002, 01:22 PM
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Malaha,
I don't think "glitz and beads" qualifies as good taste. I think you tend to like the QVC way of dressing, but basic black will always be in style. It's timeless, modern and cool. It's ridiculous to think that younger women shouldn't wear black for fear of looking like widows, where the hell have you been?? I'm thinking that your over 70??
I am 26, and I live in a big city and black is the color of choice around here. Beads and goofy colors would look tacky and outdated. Sorry, but your opinion of black attire is outdated as well.
I don't think "glitz and beads" qualifies as good taste. I think you tend to like the QVC way of dressing, but basic black will always be in style. It's timeless, modern and cool. It's ridiculous to think that younger women shouldn't wear black for fear of looking like widows, where the hell have you been?? I'm thinking that your over 70??
I am 26, and I live in a big city and black is the color of choice around here. Beads and goofy colors would look tacky and outdated. Sorry, but your opinion of black attire is outdated as well.
Apr 15th, 2002, 01:28 PM
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Actually, Mahalas assessment of light colors as being fashion forward is correct. Jenna, you may be 26, but you aren't exactly current on the latest trends. Black is safe, but if you want to be truly fashionable, color is the way to go this season, particularly for more formal attire. May I recommend Womens Wear Daily, Vogue, Bazaar and Elle? Peruse a few copies.
Apr 15th, 2002, 01:50 PM
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Jenna, what city do YOU live in? Black is timeless mainly for country club cocktail hours. If you are still wearing black everywhere, look behind you -- the fashion police are gaining on you.
Perhaps glitz and beads aren't your idea of high fashion -- not many people's except maybe at the Oscar's or the Grammies -- but I think Mahala's comment was mainly to applaud the teens' sense that they could experiment with things.
But maybe you just have a touch of the rude goth to you....
Perhaps glitz and beads aren't your idea of high fashion -- not many people's except maybe at the Oscar's or the Grammies -- but I think Mahala's comment was mainly to applaud the teens' sense that they could experiment with things.
But maybe you just have a touch of the rude goth to you....
Apr 15th, 2002, 01:56 PM
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Oh, dear, poor Jenna.
I didn't say I thought what high school girls wear to proms is the height of fashion nor should dictate what is appropriate for weddings. I just meant that the whole scene had a completely different and -- to me -- more joyful feel to it, so why not "break free of" the black "box" if you are young and pretty?
I won't be in my 70s for 2+ more decades, if it makes any difference (why do 20-30 yr-olds bristle if you chalk up something you think is silly to their being young, but they don't hesitate to chalk up something you say that they don't agree with to age?).
And I guess other people have testified what I already ssurmised, that even if black is "timeless," it's not the definitive fashion statement let alone the only approved uniform for the Very Cool wedding anymore.
On top of everything else, it's just plain HOT outdoors in the summer.
I didn't say I thought what high school girls wear to proms is the height of fashion nor should dictate what is appropriate for weddings. I just meant that the whole scene had a completely different and -- to me -- more joyful feel to it, so why not "break free of" the black "box" if you are young and pretty?
I won't be in my 70s for 2+ more decades, if it makes any difference (why do 20-30 yr-olds bristle if you chalk up something you think is silly to their being young, but they don't hesitate to chalk up something you say that they don't agree with to age?).
And I guess other people have testified what I already ssurmised, that even if black is "timeless," it's not the definitive fashion statement let alone the only approved uniform for the Very Cool wedding anymore.
On top of everything else, it's just plain HOT outdoors in the summer.
Apr 15th, 2002, 02:04 PM
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It always seems to me that the women who wear black do so out because they are just too afraid of wearing anything else -- either because they are afraid they might look fat or because they don't have any sense of what colors are sexy on them.
I'll take a "long, tall woman in a red dress" anyday.
I'll take a "long, tall woman in a red dress" anyday.
Apr 15th, 2002, 11:46 PM
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It is a shame that everyone is wearing so much black these days. I find women that know how to wear bright colors captivating. Weddings are celebrations--jazz it up!
Thanks to the guys--well, some of them. I find that most men don't follow fashion-they just love women that exude confidence. Whether that's in a simple-been in the closet for years-denim dress or a hot off the runway outfit does not matter.
Thanks to the guys--well, some of them. I find that most men don't follow fashion-they just love women that exude confidence. Whether that's in a simple-been in the closet for years-denim dress or a hot off the runway outfit does not matter.
Apr 16th, 2002, 05:24 AM
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Black is absolutely fine for a wedding, especially in the evening. I got married a year ago and prior to that visited various wedding message boards and the current etiquette is that black is fine these days. Your friend will look very chich in a black tea length!
The only color one should NOT wear is white or ivory. Brides don't like to see someone in the same color as their dress. This is an etiquette no -no.
The only color one should NOT wear is white or ivory. Brides don't like to see someone in the same color as their dress. This is an etiquette no -no.
Apr 16th, 2002, 07:23 AM
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Lisa, you never cease to amaze me when you pronounce something to be so just because you and those right around you (same age, etc.) like or don't like something.
Black is passe. Look in all the bridal magazines for this year. Look in the fashion magazines this year. A few years ago you probably looked down on people who didn't wear black. It's your turn now.
Kate's friend can certainly wear her tea dress. The fact that "everyone does it" should tell her that it's time for her to think about wearing something else.
You too.
Black is passe. Look in all the bridal magazines for this year. Look in the fashion magazines this year. A few years ago you probably looked down on people who didn't wear black. It's your turn now.
Kate's friend can certainly wear her tea dress. The fact that "everyone does it" should tell her that it's time for her to think about wearing something else.
You too.
Apr 16th, 2002, 07:39 AM
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Do you know what's passe? Following the instincts of others rather than your own. Some people need to be told by fashion rags how to dress, what to buy, etc. Try developing your own style, besides who wants to look like everyone else? Black will ALWAYS be in fashion. Every spring/fall they come out w/new concepts but I always see black on celebs at events, and they are being dressed by the same designers you people are so slavish to.
Have you ever seen the hags that run those magazines? They looked like they would get tossed out of any cool event. I've seen them on those behind the scenes fashion shows, they have straw gray hair, wear those big oversized glasses and baggy clothes. These are the women telling US how to dress???
So funny....
Have you ever seen the hags that run those magazines? They looked like they would get tossed out of any cool event. I've seen them on those behind the scenes fashion shows, they have straw gray hair, wear those big oversized glasses and baggy clothes. These are the women telling US how to dress???
So funny....
Apr 16th, 2002, 07:49 AM
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25 years ago, my mother found a beautiful dress to wear to my traditional church wedding. It was slightly off-white. She worried about the color, I insisted she wear it. She looked smashing, and I was very proud of her. Never felt upstaged at all.
I have an aversion to wearing black, because my old-school dad associated it with mourning (remember the old Greek and Italian women who would wear black from the time they were widowed until they died?) and forbade me to wear black as a young girl. funny how you think you're your own person, but you really are affected by your upbringing! I wouldn't wear black for this reason...
I have an aversion to wearing black, because my old-school dad associated it with mourning (remember the old Greek and Italian women who would wear black from the time they were widowed until they died?) and forbade me to wear black as a young girl. funny how you think you're your own person, but you really are affected by your upbringing! I wouldn't wear black for this reason...
Apr 16th, 2002, 08:03 AM
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Notiquette - I never cease to amaze you with my pronounciations? I rarely post here. (Unless you wait with bated breath for my posts to come along once in a blue moon, which I can understand). I think you have me mistaken for another Lisa...
With that said, black is fine. Black is elegant, timeless, and classy. But not sure you'd know about such things.
With that said, black is fine. Black is elegant, timeless, and classy. But not sure you'd know about such things.
Apr 16th, 2002, 11:54 AM
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(The word is "pronouncements" -- or "pronunciations," if you are actually referring to how something is pronounced.) Sorry if I confused you with the other, pontifical Lisa. But I would know about such things since I do read, listen, watch and listen to OTHER people's pronouncements.
Sure, black can be elegant and classy; it can also convey something else entirely (ask Madonna or Alice Cooper). There is, finally, nothing "timeless" about wearing black to a wedding -- this was a relatively recent, somewhat experimental fad. The fact that people on this forum argue about it suggests that it is still controversial and not "classic" at a wedding. The person was right who pointed out that as long as black is associated with funerals it will present problems with some people at weddings.
Back to Kate and Kate's friend: Kate, you really probably shouldn't have challenged your friend's right to wear a black dress. My guess is she won't be the only one wearing black, but my guess is also that you will look much more interesting and fashionable for the occasion.
Sure, black can be elegant and classy; it can also convey something else entirely (ask Madonna or Alice Cooper). There is, finally, nothing "timeless" about wearing black to a wedding -- this was a relatively recent, somewhat experimental fad. The fact that people on this forum argue about it suggests that it is still controversial and not "classic" at a wedding. The person was right who pointed out that as long as black is associated with funerals it will present problems with some people at weddings.
Back to Kate and Kate's friend: Kate, you really probably shouldn't have challenged your friend's right to wear a black dress. My guess is she won't be the only one wearing black, but my guess is also that you will look much more interesting and fashionable for the occasion.
Apr 16th, 2002, 12:20 PM
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I can't believe all the posts that refer to funerals and widows!! How old are you women? I mean c'mon, this ain't the 50's, this is the new century. The future will not be filled with beads, glitz and scarfs. Timeless colors like white, black, silver, brown will always be in style.
I shudder to think how you black-fearing folk dress!! Let me guess, prints, prints, prints huh? I like solid colors, maybe a trendy design or two but a little black dress is sexy and clean looking. Scarfs and colorful blouses/dresses remind me of old ladies. Sorry, but if black reminds you of a funeral I have to picture ya'll wearing those bright colored dress with like birds or something all over it. Yuck!!!!!!!!!!
I shudder to think how you black-fearing folk dress!! Let me guess, prints, prints, prints huh? I like solid colors, maybe a trendy design or two but a little black dress is sexy and clean looking. Scarfs and colorful blouses/dresses remind me of old ladies. Sorry, but if black reminds you of a funeral I have to picture ya'll wearing those bright colored dress with like birds or something all over it. Yuck!!!!!!!!!!
