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Aug 15th, 2003, 06:38 AM
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Anonymous - Those of us of 100% Irish descent prefer to call those "grudges" pride in our heritage.
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Aug 15th, 2003, 06:48 AM
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Yes, we send thank you notes for all gifts, regardless of holiday or occasion (we are in an interfaith marriage and my children do get Christmas gifts from my husband's side). It's common courtesy. Someone made took the time and effort to give you a gift. It does not matter if the giver has ever given you a thank you note.

While I do not give a thank you note to my dad and husband, I do write them for everyone else, including my MIL, and insist that my children do the same. My MIL apparently never got a thank you notes from any of her grandchildren until my daughter. She was so appreciative and grateful for that one note.
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Aug 15th, 2003, 07:21 AM
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Since this was such an honest mistake (and one I sure could make - I was raised Protestant and had never thought about Catholics using their own bible), can't you try clearing the air with your SIL? Just tell her, you've since learned that you goofed with the KJV bible...You could offer to replace it with one that's more appropriate - tho i think maybe i read above that the child had already gotten a second bible?..In any event, rather than ignoring the whole thing with your SIL, but acknowledging that you made a mistake, one that was totally unintentional, might help get things back on track...good luck!
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Aug 15th, 2003, 10:32 AM
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Al seems to have decided to give a bond in a children's book or Bible (recommend the children's book -- it could be religious if Al is comfortable with that, and no duplication with the inevitable number of Bibles that will come in). I would have suggested a book, a good quality locket (for a girl to wear later), a Gold Eagle coin, or something engraved (like a picture frame) to mark the occasion.

Otherwise: "denomination, n. 1. an active of denominating. 2. a value or size of a series of values or sizes (as of money). 3. name, designation, esp. a general name for a category. 4. a religious organization uniting in a single legal and administrative body a number of local congregations."

How does #3 or #4 not apply to the RC Church?
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Aug 15th, 2003, 01:16 PM
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Hello again
I did not expect more replies to this, but I'm glad I checked. My husband and I have been talking about the KJV bible for several days now. He even asked 2 co-workers, who are Catholic, if they would be offended by the KJV bible. They both looked at him like he was crazy and said they use it! So, go figure...He also mentioned the Catholic bible and called it the "Douay-Rheims bible," and they had no idea what he was talking about. I'm more confused than ever! I realize that I've got to find out which version my SIL uses; still working on that.

Thanks to the poster who talked about the amount they give for savings bonds. I must admit that $100 or $200 is more than we can give at one time at this point in our lives b/c it's just not affordable for us right now. Again, this is about our budgeting and the way we spend our money, but I certainly think such a generous gift is lovely, if you can afford it.

Well, this topic has certainly been a learning experience for me. Thanks for all your replies.
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Aug 15th, 2003, 02:02 PM
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Catholics have not been used to bible studies like protestants until recently so it is not unusual that your friends did not know the difference between translations. We are all still growing!
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Aug 15th, 2003, 05:55 PM
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Lee4 - when I said I gave $100 bonds it meant that I spent $50 - the face value of the bond is twice what you pay for it. But thanks for giving me credit for being more generous than I was. You can also buy $50 bond - it would cost $25, maybe that is more of what you had in mind.

The bonds if held for 7 years will mature to the face value. Some bonds also earn interest and if held for more than 7 years will be worth more than face value when cashed. Because they are an investment that is easy to purchase they are popular gifts to give for to a child to help with that college education.
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Aug 16th, 2003, 06:28 AM
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Thanks again, cd and bennie, for your replies. Between the two of you, I will actually come away with SO much more knowledge than I had when this thread started!

My husband and I were talking about this, yet again, and he seems to think that his brother would have said something to us about the bible, if the translation were offensive to them. When I think back to that time period, I remember that my husband and I both noticed how SIL was acting different the whole visit--way before we ever gave any gifts. I bet that the baby was still tiring her out and having lots of company was hard (even though she did invite us all to come). So, I have probably worried about the bible translation more than she ever did. (Again, if that was a problem, I intend to find out and make things right)

Maybe I'll just go with savings bonds in the future, now that bennie has educated me on how they work (thanks again!). I was always taught that when someone gives you a gift, you are to enthusiastically thank them for it b/c it's "the thought that counts." I need to realize that not everyone feels this way and just accept what they do or say at face value and move on.
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