Intimate Destination Wedding location help
Mar 1st, 2017, 04:04 PM
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MmePerdu, Did you read where this one Church in Galway had drive through Ash Wednesday service today?
I got married at the Little white chapel in Vegas and the CBS morning show needed someone to film in the drive through window. We opted out.
You should get married next week while in Ireland. Skip the hoopla.
I got married at the Little white chapel in Vegas and the CBS morning show needed someone to film in the drive through window. We opted out.
You should get married next week while in Ireland. Skip the hoopla.
Mar 1st, 2017, 04:17 PM
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Macross, anytime I can accomplish something in my jammies is a good morning, tho to leave the house clad thusly would possibly require more commitment than I could muster. Never was much of a church-goer.
Mar 1st, 2017, 05:50 PM
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I logged this geocache on Christmas Day 2010.
https://www.geocaching.com/geocache/...special-memory
I walked up to the window and asked for the geocache and they handed it to me.
I checked the contents, signed the log and took something and put something in.
https://www.geocaching.com/geocache/...special-memory
I walked up to the window and asked for the geocache and they handed it to me.
I checked the contents, signed the log and took something and put something in.
Mar 1st, 2017, 07:32 PM
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Not knowing budget, this is a beautiful location:
http://duntonhotsprings.com/weddings-groups/weddings/
http://duntonhotsprings.com/weddings-groups/weddings/
Mar 2nd, 2017, 08:46 AM
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I doubt the OP will return to this thread, and I feel a little bad about that. But, you know, not very bad, because I sincerely believe that this kind of advice from married people--keep it simple, in a nutshell--is really valuable! And not just because it's my advice. I honestly have never met anyone, ever, who said, "I wish I'd had a more elaborate, expensive wedding that demanded more from my guests."
Mar 2nd, 2017, 10:31 AM
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Sorry everyone... I have had a couple of busy days and haven't had the chance to check back on the thread.
My parents give us a certain amount of money and we choose to spend that how we want. We would like to spend the majority of that on a business venture we are currently trying to figure out. We have 39 people we have listed out that we would be upset if they didn't attend. We are almost certain at least 30-35 of them would attend, even if it is a destination wedding. Those 39 people are parents, siblings, nieces/nephews, grandparents, and very close childhood friends. We tried to keep the list slim knowing we were on a budget and wanted something simpler.
We aren't opposed to a local wedding. My significant others grand parents have 40 acres of land where we live and we considered discussing with them to see if we would be able to do the ceremony/reception on the property. However, having a local wedding we do feel as if we would need to extend our guest list to ensure we aren't hurting anyone's feelings. But we don't want a big elaborate wedding. So that's our dilemma.
As far as my location - I am about 2 hours from Chicago. We have a lot of guests from our location (about 20), some from TN (5), some from WA (9), some from AZ (4).
I am not sure what a reasonable spending amount is for this sort of thing. But again, we would like to do it as reasonably priced as possible to invest our money into our business.
My parents give us a certain amount of money and we choose to spend that how we want. We would like to spend the majority of that on a business venture we are currently trying to figure out. We have 39 people we have listed out that we would be upset if they didn't attend. We are almost certain at least 30-35 of them would attend, even if it is a destination wedding. Those 39 people are parents, siblings, nieces/nephews, grandparents, and very close childhood friends. We tried to keep the list slim knowing we were on a budget and wanted something simpler.
We aren't opposed to a local wedding. My significant others grand parents have 40 acres of land where we live and we considered discussing with them to see if we would be able to do the ceremony/reception on the property. However, having a local wedding we do feel as if we would need to extend our guest list to ensure we aren't hurting anyone's feelings. But we don't want a big elaborate wedding. So that's our dilemma.
As far as my location - I am about 2 hours from Chicago. We have a lot of guests from our location (about 20), some from TN (5), some from WA (9), some from AZ (4).
I am not sure what a reasonable spending amount is for this sort of thing. But again, we would like to do it as reasonably priced as possible to invest our money into our business.
Mar 2nd, 2017, 12:47 PM
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You can have a small and local wedding. Invite that same guest list that you would for the destination wedding. Have it on the family property.
Then go on a nice honeymoon. And have money left to see the business venture.
Then go on a nice honeymoon. And have money left to see the business venture.
Mar 2nd, 2017, 01:09 PM
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How fortunate you are.
NewB's post made me laugh. It is so true. Celebrating 25 years, my father was dead and my father in law was looking death in the eye. So we paid for our own wedding. We felt obligated to do a big wedding for the parents, even though they couldn't financially support us. (WE felt obligated, they in no way did)
My advice is stay local and stick to your numbers. If you invited 100 people there would still be people who feel left out. There's no shame in telling those people that you are having a small intimate wedding and thank them for their well wishes.
And remember once you cross the line and invite one coworker or cousin, there will be five wondering why they weren't invited. Stick you your plan and feel good about it.
Beware off event room venues. I'd check with local caterers and get an idea of what your needs would be (tent, electricity, lighting, pest control, tables linens) all require manpower which adds up quickly.
Would I do a more extravagant wedding? Never. It was a huge success and fit into that era but doesn't interest me now. We really did it for the Moms.
Search for an event space in your area, stick to your numbers, (40 is a great number in which you can spend more intimate time rather then great 180 guests) and find affordable lodging for the family flying in. No you don't have to pay for it.
NewB's post made me laugh. It is so true. Celebrating 25 years, my father was dead and my father in law was looking death in the eye. So we paid for our own wedding. We felt obligated to do a big wedding for the parents, even though they couldn't financially support us. (WE felt obligated, they in no way did)
My advice is stay local and stick to your numbers. If you invited 100 people there would still be people who feel left out. There's no shame in telling those people that you are having a small intimate wedding and thank them for their well wishes.
And remember once you cross the line and invite one coworker or cousin, there will be five wondering why they weren't invited. Stick you your plan and feel good about it.
Beware off event room venues. I'd check with local caterers and get an idea of what your needs would be (tent, electricity, lighting, pest control, tables linens) all require manpower which adds up quickly.
Would I do a more extravagant wedding? Never. It was a huge success and fit into that era but doesn't interest me now. We really did it for the Moms.
Search for an event space in your area, stick to your numbers, (40 is a great number in which you can spend more intimate time rather then great 180 guests) and find affordable lodging for the family flying in. No you don't have to pay for it.
Mar 2nd, 2017, 01:13 PM
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Also, if I had a dollar for every father of the bride that footed the bill, and wished they used it for a downpayment for a home instead, and had a backyard BBQ, that wasn't
"lame" because they decorated with lots of flowers and pretty linens. . .
Well, I'd have a bunch of dollars.
"lame" because they decorated with lots of flowers and pretty linens. . .
Well, I'd have a bunch of dollars.
Mar 2nd, 2017, 01:15 PM
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I understand the temptation of a destination wedding, but I agree with Suze on this. In my experience- it isn't about who would come, it's about who is invited. The people who would be offended over not being invited to a local wedding will be just as offended to not be invited to a destination wedding. So make it easier on yourself and your actual guests and just do it on that property. That way you can spend more on decorations and food and still have a beautiful setting. If your conscience is bothered about the small wedding actually hurting someone specifically- you should add them to your guest list. There's a difference between offending someone and actually hurting someone. Can't help who you offend- even if you did a huge wedding and invited those folks, they'd likely complain about the food or date or time of day. When it comes to wedding, people are absolutely bonkers.
Mar 2nd, 2017, 02:16 PM
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<And remember once you cross the line and invite one coworker or cousin, there will be five wondering why they weren't invited. Stick you your plan and feel good about it.>
There was no crossing that line in my family - all first cousins of the bride and groom, and all first cousins of the parents, were invited to our wedding, not one second cousin or first cousin once removed was invited. My first cousins' children are still miffed (we were/are friends) 44 years later!!
There was no crossing that line in my family - all first cousins of the bride and groom, and all first cousins of the parents, were invited to our wedding, not one second cousin or first cousin once removed was invited. My first cousins' children are still miffed (we were/are friends) 44 years later!!
