Me and my boyfriend are planning our first trip, a long one from LA to New York, and then various places on the east coast. i think this could be the trip that really puts an exclamation point on our love. the only question surrounds my 5-year-old girl. the boyfriend wants it to just be me and him. he says that in europe they have "child kennels" where you can drop off your child for 12-14 hour day care and then come back at night. he suggests we look at this, but i haven't heard anything like this in the U.S. he says ny should definitely have these kind of operations. does anyone have input on these extra-long day care facilities?

Jamie-- one word of advice: think twice about a guy who thinks a five-year-old needs a "kennel"! Hopeflly you can chalk this up to an unusual sense of humor!

Hopefully, caring for and raising your daughter is more important to you than this guy. Dump him. I can't imagine you'd even consider taking your child on a trip and "kenneling" her with strangers for 12-14 hours a day so you can "be with" your boyfriend. Horrors!

I agree with everyone else, take your child and leave the idiot, suppossed boyfriend behind.

Ditto to the others. I can't believe you would seriously entertain any ideas along this line.

At any rate, if you end up going on this trip with the idiot anyway, I would strongly suggest leaving your daughter with a trusted sitter back home, rather than the alternative he has suggested. It would probably cost less and be much safer for her.

The self-centeredness of some parents never ceases to amaze me.

thanks for absolutely no help. i have no one i can trust back home to babysit my daughter. i am just asking if these facilities operate in ny, not looking for rude comments.

Are you Jamie or Tammy or Troll-y?

I am not meaning this as a rude comment but think about what you're saying. You would be willing to drop your child off at a place you know virtually nothing about. My guess is that even if you went with this option, you would not be relaxed all day as you would be worrying about your daughter's well-being. You are definitely in a bind though. You're sure there are no other options - perhaps flying her to a relative's home (grandparents?) for them to watch & spend time with her, etc? Just throwing out suggestions.

Jamie has posted similar type of controversial questions in the past. She's a troll who likes to stir up trouble. Please ignore her and hope she goes away soon.

Sure, drop her off at a babysitter for 12 hours, and see what she does to you in your dotage.

It's amazing how you people fall for this crap every time!

TAROLLL!

i know your situation and can understand how strong your feelings are for him. i would look into nanny services on the east coast. that way everybody wins.

If you're for real, I understand that adults may want a vacation without children. Unless you have willing and able relatives to help, your options are limited. NO WAY would I drop a five year old child in a strange "day care" for 12-14 hours. Either you don't go or you compromise by taking a vacation at a resort with a good childrens program that may run during the day and may even offer some programs for a few hours at night so you and your boyfriend could have dinner together. This type of arrangement would benefit everyone and I'm sure your daughter would have a wonderful time at her "kids club" without feeling that she was being sent away so as not to bother you or your boyfriend. There are MANY hotels with excellent children's programs as well as Club Meds. I have a feeling you would deeply regret going to NYC and dropping your child at this type of place. Consider how she would feel if you did this!

Oh, for Pete's sake, people! Are there really so many gullible people out there? This is the reason time-shares stay in business. You all bought the undercoating and extended warranty the last time you bought a new car, didn't you?

Annie, I'm with you all the way....until you got to the bit about the extended warranty. I took it on my last car, and when a serious problem develop, it saved me several thousand dollars!

Annie, Truth is stranger than fiction. There is very little I wouldn't believe!. Awhile back I made a perfectly real post and was accused of being a fake so I know better than to assume that every seemingly unbelievable post is just that. My brother is a divorce attorney and you wouldn't believe the things that happen with his clients! For anyone who has seen "War of the Roses" you can be sure that some people really do exhibit some bizarre behaviour!

Jamie:

I think I have the answer you're looking for: Yes-- such a place does exist in NYC, though I think the word "kennel' has the wrong connotation, judging by the other responses on this board. My second-cousin used the service when she went to NY and says it's safe and had no harmful effects on her kids. She says they have to operate below the radar of the NYPD, so it's not like you'll find them in the yellow pages. I think she told me it's in Queens-- or maybe the Bronx-- can't remember exactly. Hope this helps.

Surely, you jest Seymour. You, too, must be troll. I can't believe anyone would seriously suggest a mother shoudl fly across the country and should dump[ her kid in a place that "operates below the radar of the NYPD"! C'mon. Hey, but I gotta admit that it's a good euphemism! Oh, I'm sorry, you and Jamie probably don't know what they word means! Look it up!

To the previous poster:

Let me get this straight-- anyone who posts a response to the actual question posed is a troll? Of all the responses to Jamie's orginal question, I'm the only one who tried to give her some of the information she wanted, without passing judgement or pretending to be Dr. Phil. What do I care if her kids stay in a kennel? If she's so far down in the gene pool that she would consider it, so be it. Darwin's theory of natural selection will prevail.

So quit trolling for trolls and try to provide helpful information.

Seymour

PS: How did you know I farted while writing this? Down here in the hills of southern Indiana we ain't never heard such big words. We call it "Gomer's Whistle"