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Old Jun 14th, 2006, 03:24 PM
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Divorce Proceedings? !

Hi guys
My wife and I are visiting WA & BC in a couple of months & the good lady is insisting we visit some factory outlet at Tulalip, WA 98271 (just north of Seattle). I'm really not keen on shopping whilst on holiday. (Particularly that one as by the size of it, it looks as if she'll be there most of the holiday!)
Bearing in mind we come from England where most things have become far too dear anyway, is this outlet really worth a visit? Is it a place to get clothes at silly prices? Or, should I put my foot down with a firm hand by refusing to go and just hope she we wont want a divorce?
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Old Jun 14th, 2006, 03:46 PM
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I too think it would be a shame to spend precious vacation days at an outlet mall. You might point out to your wife something that many people don't realize: most of the goods are made cheaply and specifically for these stores. So, you aren't often getting good bargains-you usually get what you pay for. So, unless you are taking a very long vacation, and have plenty of time to do everything else you'd like to do, I would try to talk her out of it.

If that doesn't work, perhaps you could work out some sort of comprimise. You probably are driving past there anyway between WA and BC-maybe you could set a time limit? Or, maybe another poster could offer a suggestion as to something you could do nearby while she shops. Golf is the only thing that comes to my mind.
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Old Jun 14th, 2006, 03:50 PM
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A smart hubby will let his wife have her fun. As a gal I can tell you - we never forget. Also, she will think you are the greatest and tell all her friends how you sacrificed!

Having said that, from my experience: Outlet malls are fun shopping and you can get some items at good prices. However, price wise I have found I can get similar items of the same brand cheaper at the local store or mall box stores when they are having a sale. I have read that some clothing stores make items that are only sold in the outlet stores. I have never found that I have gotten this tremendous bargain at an outlet mall but I always leave with a car full of stuff!
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Old Jun 14th, 2006, 04:02 PM
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Pretty simple in Texas: after 28 years, my wife left; no minor children, so a 50/50 deal.
My wealthy parents died several years later, so she had no claim on their estate.
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Old Jun 14th, 2006, 04:06 PM
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This outlet mall is VERY similar to the Premium Outlets in Leesburg, VA (near where I live, and where I have visited often). I will say that my husband and I buy many of our clothes there, because the stores/brands that we normally buy from are there and they have good prices on good clothes (Polo, Brooks Brothers, JCrew, Banana Republic, etc - our favorites).

I cringe at your (I'm sure joking) assertion that you will put your foot down with a "firm hand" and refuse to go. I'm sure that there have been things in the past that you've done that your wife has indulged because you found interesting.

Why don't you compromise and set a 3-5 hour limit at this outlet? It certainly isn't worth starting an argument, and for some people, vacationing includes shopping. The ill will you might create by prohibiting her from doing something she's looking forward to is simply not worth it.
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Old Jun 14th, 2006, 04:10 PM
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I heard from our friends in London that many Brits are coming to NYC for long weekend shopping trips

should I put my foot down with a firm hand by refusing to go and just hope she we wont want a divorce?
Only since you ask, I would never offer this remark otherwise, but you are speaking of your partner, not your child, so you might be in less danger of divorce if you discuss this with your wife, instead of "putting your foot down" and refusing to go.

You can compromise and just spend a limited amount of time, can't you?

I hope this helps save your marriage
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Old Jun 14th, 2006, 04:14 PM
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See, mike is giving you some valuable advice. You might need it.
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Old Jun 14th, 2006, 04:16 PM
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You are making a huge deal about nothing! Let "the good lady" go & shop! If you can't go along w/ her & "hold your nose" (& your tongue!) for a few hours while she indulges in "silly prices", then drop her off & meet her for lunch where you she can show you all of her bargains! Maybe she'll even buy something for you! I think your marriage is safe. (catchy title for your message so you do have sense of humor. A sense of humor has saved many marriages )
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Old Jun 14th, 2006, 04:19 PM
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Old Jun 14th, 2006, 04:33 PM
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Let her spend a 1/2 day. My friends from the UK last year, good deals at outlet malls here (I'm in Northern CA) for their money. Our dollar was weak then, and I think still is, LOL. You may have fun anyway!
Old Jun 14th, 2006, 04:37 PM
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Oh that one is a Premium Outlets which we have near us (Gilroy, CA). It is worth it.
Old Jun 14th, 2006, 04:42 PM
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Let her? Let her? Have you ever heard of the word compromise? Does she never do things she doesn;t particularly want just for you? Is it just your own vacation - or a vacation for both of you?

Suggest you get with the program - or she might find someone a little less stiffling - and more fun!
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Old Jun 14th, 2006, 04:55 PM
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<<< Does she never do things she doesn;t particularly want just for you? >>> That would be telling (though she seems to like the household chores and gardening jobs I make her do.
<<< Is it just your own vacation - or a vacation for both of you? >>> Both, that's my point, I don't like shopping.
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Old Jun 14th, 2006, 04:56 PM
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Doubtful you're going to find anything spectacularly cheap or worthy at an outlet mall. If you have lots of time, by all means go. If not, then you might try to persuade her that outlet shopping is not at all "fine" shopping, or perhaps she'll figure that out once she's there.
Old Jun 14th, 2006, 06:06 PM
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Those of you who don't live here in Washington should understand---these places are a strip mall wasteland. They are far from anyplace Mr. S. could spend a few enjoyable hours, unless he wants to try his luck at a casino. He is right to resist this---it is a waste of a whole day in this beautiful part of the U.S. ( I once spent a whole day taking Norwegian friends up to the Burlington outlet stores because their daughter had to have something that said "CK" on it. She spent the whole day looking and not finding. The next day she found the perfect Calvin Klein outfit at the Bon, right in downtown Seattle).

selsel---tell her she will find much better, and more enjoyable, shopping in downtown Seattle. There are always sales on, and we have great stores. And at any point you can stroll down to the waterfront and enjoy the ambiance.

Nordstrom is one of the premier department stores in the U.S, and their "outlet", the Rack, is right in the downtown too. And I'm sure you will find wonderful shoppng in BC too, with an even better exchange rate.

How much can you carry back to the UK anyway?
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Old Jun 14th, 2006, 06:08 PM
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During our travels to Europe, we have never encountered any "deals." As a matter of fact, things that are pretty basic in the US are quite expensive in Europe. It seems the US markets are just more efficient in bringing goods to the consumer at a better price. Europe has different items and sometimes more depth of selection, but you never get a "deal." I've priced lots of items that are made in Europe and invariably find them for a lower price in the US.

That being said, it might prove interesting to see what a typical US shopping experience is like. We are not talking about shopping on 5th Avenue, but for many name brands, your spouse might find "deals." Which is part of the fun of exploring another country. But be sure to give priority to the reason you are visiting WA & BC--there is so much to do and see in that part of North America. Your wife might find, once she's here, that she is more interested in spending time at other planned stops once she's here.
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Old Jun 14th, 2006, 06:28 PM
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"Most of the goods are made cheaply and specifically for these stores". This is true for some stores, but it is not the rule at the Premium Outlets. Some stores have a mix (eg JCrew has a special tag for their outlet-only merchandise). The high-end outlets (eg Escada, Dior, Dolce Gabbana, Tumi) mostly sell last season's merchandise, usually at 30 to 50% off. A few stores carry the exact same mix of merchandise as their regular stores, at the same pricing (Carter's). A very few stores sell samples and seconds in addition to last season's merchandise. I agree that the regular outlet price is often not much better than you can find at a department store sale. Best savings are a sale on top of the regular outlet pricing.

Set a time limit. There should be a map of the outlet available at every store so your wife can target her favorite brands.
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Old Jun 14th, 2006, 06:47 PM
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I think Mr. "Put My Foot Down" should get married to Ms. "Wives Never Forget" since their attitude about the 'admiration and respect' aspects of relationships seems to be similar they should make an excellent couple.
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Old Jun 14th, 2006, 07:28 PM
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This reminds me of a yoke I heard today. Here goes, and no offense intended to anyone:

Francine was driving alone from Tucson to Flagstaff Arizona. On the way, she spotted an old Navajo woman standing by the side of the road, waiting for a bus. Francine decided to stop and offer her a ride.

“Would you like a lift?” she asked.

The Navajo woman nodded and got into the car without a word.

Francine tried to engage the woman in conversation but the woman sat silently. She looked out the window and looked around the inside of the car with quiet concentration. After about an hour, she finally asked, “What is in that brown paper bag?” pointing to a bag on the floor at Francine’s feet.

“It’s a bottle of wine. I got it for my husband,” replied Francine.

The Navajo woman slowly nodded and said, “Hmmm. Good trade!”

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