chocho, where do you live now (city,state)?

Where are you from (what country)?

Is your SIL from the US, your home country, or another country?

dont get me wrong, i am excited, but i didnt want to go because of cost you know; with a child everything is insanely expensive. and we just just arrived back from our trip to Europe, so you can imagine how my prevoius post mentioned about budget.

and yes of course i am excited for the occassion, we are happy for her. but i was more rooting for my husband to go by himself that way we can send off a generous gift, just becuase of cost etc.

so yes i am excited about the occassion, but i am more concern about the bills you know.

cheers
chocho

I just have to say that the funniest part of your post is that your SIL "claims she doesn't have a child". That is just too funny! Do you think she's hiding a love child somewhere?

>>yeah its funny because that was aher response. i know u are getting the impression why fuss about all of this, why dont you rent a car and leave the bride to be alone; i so want that, but its not as easy as you guys are saying...

thanks though
chocho

Author: chocho
Date: 10/27/2006, 12:57 pm
i want to rent a car, but its her family affair, when i suggested that i am stiring up things.

so i just left it. i dont want to be stiring up anythig, its enough having to hang out with inlaws that weekend.

yes i want rent a car, bring my own, name it i want that too. my husband doesnt want to drive the car and i dont want to drive the car either as we both not for the US. so its nto that easy.

anyways...
thanks for all your replies
chocho
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I'm sorry you feel that way about your husband's family.

Is your husband aware of how stressed out you are? Does he realize the dilemma you're facing regarding the car seat? I'm sure he should be as concerned about the safety of your child as you are. Tell him to pick up the phone and call your SIL and tell her you will be renting a car on your own so that you'll have more flexibility with the baby.

Well, if I were your new SIL I know I would be thrilled to hear that family members could not come to my wedding because they opted to spend their budget on a trip to Europe instead. That would make me feel very, very special indeed.

"but i was more rooting for my husband to go by himself that way we can send off a generous gift, just becuase of cost etc."

Trust me, the presence of friends and family at my wedding was priceless - better than any gifts anyone could have given me.

LoL, Starrsy!

I am thinking (hoping?) there are some cultural differences here that are not clear. I was hoping chocho would answer my questions about origins, but still waiting.

Is this a money issue or a please the bride issue? It seems to swing both ways.

choco, sit your husband down and ask him if he will call his sister and tell her that you and the baby will not be attending.

You are stressed which will make the baby stressed and fussy.

That you want to attend but you just cannot swing it right now but you are looking forward to spending quality time with her and her new husband when the dust settles.

well, we went to europe way before her wwedding arrived;

anyways thats not the case here; one day when you have a child and a family of your own, you will try to out your new family first, meaning on what can you afford and what cant you afford; if you are accomodating the needs and wants of others, your new family will be shumbles.

you try to be accomodating and yet practical; its not an attack to my husbands family or anybody, its more, can we afford and how will that impact us; its more, where are we now, in our life right now.

i have aboslute respect and admiration for my husbands family and all, but i also dont want to break an arm and leg to make people happy.

cheers
chocho

chocho-

Reading your other threads, I see that you'll be flying in from Toronto.

AFAIK, driving in Canada is not much different than driving in the US. And like others have said, the traffic in the area around New Hope is not busy at all. It really wouldn't be that difficult to drive.

And I find it hard to accept your explanation about it being expensive to go to the wedding, when you just returned from a European trip?

We all posted at the same time, but seems like it's come down to a money issue.

Chocho, if you can't afford it and the plans they've made are too stressful and difficult for you, then I strongly suggest you follow GoT's advice posted above.

well, for starters i just returned to work; you guys have been great, but i cant tell you all my problems.

my husband knows my concerns and respects that, but i guess i just started stressing out about the car seat. i am sure all will work out fine.

i will post after the wedding this weekend and let you all know how everything turned out.

cheers
chocho

Just make the best of it, chocho. Didn't realize the wedding was tomorrow! Have fun, and give your SIL the best gift you can: be kind and gracious regardless of what you've been through to get to the wedding.

oh i will sure have fun. the wedding is not tomorrow, its over the weekend.

i am gracious, and i think i have stressed out myself than its needed. after all its a wedding

i guess God always work things out well for as all.


cheers
chocho

Cho, honey, today is Friday. Is the wedding Sunday? LoL That's about all the weekend there is this week.

Does Canada recognize the same calendar as the rest of the world?

Whenever the wedding is go and have a good time.

Lawsy I hope they aren't missing the flight....

That's one way to solve the problem.

can u tell my mind is tired
yes today is friday, oh dear. flights is later. and yes its tomorrow.

hehe, oh dear where is my mind...

thanks guys
chocho

LMAO, Starrsy, I adore your sense of humor, girl!!