We are beginning to think about a special anniversary trip and wondered where you would recommend. We are looking for a place in the U.S. or any of its territories for a spot to kick back, relax and be at least semi-pampered. We would prefer a place that does not cater to families/young children. We have no preconceived ideas except cruises are definitely vetoed by my husband! - talk to us! Thanks, Debbie

The best resorts in the US as determined by Robert's Travelanalysis Reviews (assuming you're young-ish and don't wish to be in an overly stuffy environment...some formality allowed):
Four Seasons Big Island Hawaii
Four Seasons Maui
Kahala Mandarin Oahu
Little Palm Island Florida
Ritz Carlton Naples FL
Post Ranch Inn Big Sur California
Phoenician Resort/Spa Phoenix
The Wauwinet Nantucket
The Boulders Carefree AZ
Enchantment Sedona AZ
Bellagio Las Vegas

Good list from prior poster.
You might want to check the website www.americanexpress.com/platinum

Even if you don't have the card, it is a good list of hotels that will certainly meet your criteria.

I would add the Princeville resort in Kauai to the list, as well.

Phil:
AmEx Platinum is indeed a good resource. I keep their color picture filled guide to hotels and restaurants in my work space desk at home. The majority of the properties cater to business travelers, but there's a solid cross section of places suited to the leisure traveler.

Another good resource is www.cntraveler.com......
Has all their lists on the opening page (best hotels, reader's choice list, etc).

Zagat's also puts out a survey that people agree on best U.S resorts. International Resorts and Hotels in are also available in another book.

I have to disagree with Phil about the Princeville Resort. While it is a wonderful resort, I think it falls well behind a resort such as the Four Seasons Maui.

At the Princeville, we felt they had made a conscious choice to nickel and dime their guests. Also the service, while quite good, could use a bit more polish. We didn't object to spending a little more money for extra luxuries, but we'd have preferred that they raise their room rates and not squeeze it out of you a little bit at a time. On a relaxing vacation, you simply don't want to be continuously thinking about money. If you're thinking about a Hawaiian island, I'd opt for a Four Seasons resort. The room rates might be higher, but the service is flawless and so much more is included.