NewbE

To my mind, Ireland--not Northern Ireland, I haven't been there yet--has a different feel from England. I thought it seemed a friendlier and more laid back sort of place, although i am far from an expert, and these are obviously generalizations.

FWIW, I don't blame you for trying to improve your happiness quotient...

IMDonehere

My guess is your happiness has little to do with geography or language and nothing that strangers can offer.

sparkchaser

OP, if you can figure out which of your traits Brits and French find offensive then perhaps we can steer you to a country where that is part of the culture.

sofarsogood

Scandinavia sounds best for you - home of the trolls

annw

Falkland Islands?

bilboburgler

nyt, bang on again.

Neutral, I grew up in the south of England and then I came to Yorkshire. It was a massive change, suddenly people spoke to me and smiled. I suspect it was getting out of the city and being amongst time-rich people.

hetismij2

Without we know what work you do it is going to be very hard to seriously come up with any suggestions for you.

Moving to another country, any country, whether they speak the same language as you or not, or even within your own country, requires hard work on your part. You have to start over, build up new contacts, make new friends, and above all be open to new experiences and opportunities. If you go with a negative attitude you will get negativity back.

Ireland is a separate country, with friendly people. But then again I have always found friendly people wherever I have lived in the UK, because I made a point of being friendly, of joining things to make new friends.
Moving to the Netherlands was really hard work, not only a new move, a new language but a culture sufficiently different to my own to require some understanding and effort on my part to adapt to. It hasn't been easy, and I still feel a foreigner here at times. Without putting in the effort to fit in I would feel that even more though.

Work is hard to find everywhere in Europe, and you will not be welcome as a benefits migrant anywhere, so you need to consider how you will earn a living, and maybe look at job vacancies in different countries to see what there is and what they are looking for. Don't discount somewhere else in Britain, or Ireland.

IMDonehere

If the OP is a faker, he is an excellent one. His language and tone is consistent w/o being antagonistic.

annhig

Neutral, I grew up in the south of England and then I came to Yorkshire. It was a massive change, suddenly people spoke to me and smiled. I suspect it was getting out of the city and being amongst time-rich people.>>

bilbo - I think you would like Cornwall. The first 10 years can be quite hard work [i jest, I think] but after that, it's plain sailing!

Whathello

I have always found the people to be great wherever I went.
Sometimes the nut is tougher to crack but inside people are the same everywhere. You are nice they are nice.

MmePerdu

Has the OP said they'll be working? If they have, I didn't see it. Many of us choose not to, for a variety of reasons. I've found, in the past, working was a help meeting congenial people but since I stopped, and moved, it's been a more of a problem.

In any case, being liked or disliked may very well be an internal issue, as some have implied. When there's a job to be done it helps shift the focus off ourselves. So if the OP could get a job, it might very well be a big step forward. However, the OP sounds marginally educated. Continuing their education would solve several problems at once, introduce them to people who aren't bodybuilders and do have similar interests (a big help), and prepare them for a new career and the company of interesting people.

Whathello

That is why we are on this forum : to meet great people.
And there are.

NewbE

People are indeed nice everywhere, some more reserved than others, maybe, but commonalities, or the lack thereof, can make the difference between getting along--which is easy--and making friends--which can be harder. Language comes in here, and perhaps things like religiosity, political inclinations...it can be lonely to feel out of step, even with nice people. Maybe especially??

suze

Or some people can't get along anywhere. Take a look at some interactions on this forum.

annhig

Well said, whathello - both posts!

I've found, in the past, working was a help meeting congenial people but since I stopped, and moved, it's been a more of a problem.>>

Mme P - I was still at court at 5pm today and moaning to a colleague that we were still at work on a Friday evening and he pointed that there were worse places to be than being surrounded by our friends [which was true].

MmePerdu

Whathello & annhig, my post originally read "it's been more of a problem (so I lean on you here)." But deleted it, sounded too pitiful. But it really is true. I know, I should get out more.

Whathello

Bokhara2

Suze - your comment reminds me of the truism : " Wherever I go, there I am."

sparkchaser

Here's a thought: if you move to another country where you don't have to learn the local language, the locals may end up not liking you because you don't want to learn their language. Every day when you are out and about and you hear people talking and glancing at you, you will have no idea idea what they are saying. Do they like your shoes? Do you have some green bits stuck between your teeth? Do they think your haircut is ridiculous? Are you that foreign devil that is taking and not contributing?

Whathello

Spark

Didn't I say the same about my neighbor ?
They are Scottish in Belgium since at least 20 years and never said a word of French to us.
Nobody talks to them anymore.
Of course it didn't help that they came one day quite excited about sewage And told us to solve the issue.
I never managed to understand what he said. I lost all my English. Strange.
He was quite unhappy.
I didn't care.