I would like to know what the financial reponsibilities are for the parents of an American son to a Slovenian girl, who expect to have a ceremony in Ljubljana in 1.5 years? In the USA, the groom's parents pay for a rehearsal dinner prior to the wedding. What type of expenses should we expect? Do we have to split the cost of the wedding with the bride's parents? Just wondered what traditionally is done in Slovenia. Thanks!

"In the USA, the groom's parents pay for a rehearsal dinner prior to the wedding."

I think you will find in this day and age, many "traditions" may be broken. If the wedding couple is older and making good money, often they will pay for their own wedding. The financial situation of the 2 sets of parents seems to play a part in how things are divided these days as well. I know of weddings where the groom's parents have paid for some or all of the expenses if they were more able than the bride's parents.

Doesn't answer your question, but addresses your title. Fun reading.

http://www.urbanmozaik.com/for_jessi..._weddings.html

BTW, what do your son and daughter-in-law to be say on the subject? :-?

Ironically, just after answering your post, read a thread here called "where do you live part 2" where a poster gottarun mentions moving to the US from Slovenia at age 18 so hopefully she'll see your post and answer.

you may want to post on the slovenia board at virtualtourist.com - there are a few members from Slovenia who might be able to give advice.

We live in Slovenia and I will check with out babysitter. You do know that it is not unusual for the parents to buy an apartment for the newlyweds???
Don't worry...it's not required!
Cheers,
Jan

I should clarify something to everyone. My American son married his Slovenian girlfriend in a civil ceremony in the USA. We gave them a nice check! Hopefully, in the Spring of 2006, we will accompany them to Ljubljana for a more formal ceremony that her family is planning. Do I still need to do more? Oh, jg1234, I posted on the Ljubljana forum on virtual tourist. Thanks, and also for that site,mclaurie. I guess I need a wedding planner!!Hee! Hee!

My friend said that the groom's parents usually pay for a reception the evening before. She had a civil ceremony in the US and a church wedding here, as your son is planning, but they have been married for about 10 years.
Cheers,
Jan

PS Congratulations to the new couple!

Thanks Jan(SloJan), for your information! That was quite helpful. And to all here & on this forum....
Happy New Year!! The best in 2005.

Hugs!
Phyl

SloJan~Jan

Where have your friends lived for the last 10 years? In the USA or Slovenia?

ncphyl~Phyl

They lived in the US (NE area) for about 8 of the last 10 years. Then, they moved back to Slovenia. Her family is here and she would like to stay but it depends on her husband's job situation. He is slowly learning the language. They both like the idea of raising children here and are quite careful about keeping the children's English language skills up. The kids (at 2 and 4) are completely bi-lingual. They will probably enter them into the international school system.
Cheers,
Jan