Hi, you all helped me decide what to pack a few months ago and now it is raining in Southern Italy! Let's hope Spring comes soon (for my sake).
Now I am traveling with a New Love, we haven't known each other very long and have made this our extended First European Date, any suggestions on traveling for the first time with a New Love?
Now I am traveling with a New Love, we haven't known each other very long and have made this our extended First European Date, any suggestions on traveling for the first time with a New Love?
When you've become hopelessly lost understand that getting mad at each other will NOT help you. Not a bit.
each take a day being in charge- map reaching choices, etc
Figure out money issues ahead of time- who's paying for what.
each take a day being in charge- map reaching choices, etc
Figure out money issues ahead of time- who's paying for what.
Travel together is like playing cards together: do it long enough and you'll find out all kinds of things about the other person.
Rather than asking a bunch of total strangers about how to travel with this person (I can just imagine what specifics you got on the "how do I dress?" question) why don't you ask the "New Love" what s/he likes to see you wearing/taking off as a first step..after all, the two of you are going to be traveling together and none of US will be there to approve or disapprove. Further, have you two come to any sort of agreement as to where you would BOTH like to go.
As to those Spring rains in Southern Italy...did you think it was going to be dry as a bone at that time of year or did someone here give you the wrong weather info?
Bottom line: get adventurous and use this opportunity to find out about the "New Love" including opinions, etc., rather than those of someone you aren't in love with.
Rather than asking a bunch of total strangers about how to travel with this person (I can just imagine what specifics you got on the "how do I dress?" question) why don't you ask the "New Love" what s/he likes to see you wearing/taking off as a first step..after all, the two of you are going to be traveling together and none of US will be there to approve or disapprove. Further, have you two come to any sort of agreement as to where you would BOTH like to go.
As to those Spring rains in Southern Italy...did you think it was going to be dry as a bone at that time of year or did someone here give you the wrong weather info?
Bottom line: get adventurous and use this opportunity to find out about the "New Love" including opinions, etc., rather than those of someone you aren't in love with.
I have read here about traveling with friends for the first time and got some good tips.
Just wondering that if that friend is also a love interest what tips would you provide? Besides the good ones above?
I know what he likes me to wear, but not how he travels!
I will have my own just-in-case credit cards - but is that undermining the urge to "work it out?"
Don't get testy, I thought it was a good question ;^)
Just wondering that if that friend is also a love interest what tips would you provide? Besides the good ones above?
I know what he likes me to wear, but not how he travels!
I will have my own just-in-case credit cards - but is that undermining the urge to "work it out?"
Don't get testy, I thought it was a good question ;^)
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Locate a good counsellor you can both see afterward, provided you both decide the relationship is worth pursuiing. And at some point during the trip, why not sit down and frankly discuss the pluses and minues so far, and see whether adjustments are warranted or feasible. good luck, It is an excellent question that probably more need to pose.
Good point, we spent the weekend at the beach but we are still in the "whatever you want, dear" phase. I have a feeling that will wear off with two weeks in Europe, ha.
When my friend in college told her parents that she was planning a trip to Venice with her new boyfriend, her mother told her to have a fun trip, but absolutely not go to Venice. She thought that it was such a special, romantic place that to go there with some guy who wasn't absolutely guaranteed to be the man of her life (preferably with ring in hand) would be to waste the experience. And having met the boyfriend, mom didn't think that he was "the guy". I've always remembered that - and maybe I regret seeing Venice with two buddies instead of saving it to enjoy with my wife for the first time.
I don't think this is such a strange question, look at all of the honeymoon questions here lately, some of them will be traveling with their Loves for the first time.
Why not give some good advice?
I don't have any except:
I do like the idea of stopping half way through and actually talking the trip over and let any feelings be talked about right then.
Try to have some time apart so it doesn't become too much togetherness.
Try to think of yourselves as a team.
Why not give some good advice?
I don't have any except:
I do like the idea of stopping half way through and actually talking the trip over and let any feelings be talked about right then.
Try to have some time apart so it doesn't become too much togetherness.
Try to think of yourselves as a team.
Going to Europe with the New Love is like getting married - assume the best but prepare for the worst (travel equivalent of a pre-nup).
I did this with a semi New Love and we broke up as a result (we would have anyway - as soon as I got a better look at his family - but it was definitely a learning experience). Also, we were at that awkward phase when being in lust turns into being in love.
Some suggestions:
Talk about expectations in advance (seeing a lot or relaxing a lot, early to bed and rise or party all night, who will be responsible for what, who will get the shower first - and who - if anyone takes 45 minutes to do their hair, who travles with a 30" body bag and who will have a single carry-on)
Have you both been to Italy before and have similar expectations? If not, talk in detail - some folks go into complete culture shock!
Keep you own ticket, passport, money and credit cards and have full info available if you need to bail out.
Hope you have a great time!
I did this with a semi New Love and we broke up as a result (we would have anyway - as soon as I got a better look at his family - but it was definitely a learning experience). Also, we were at that awkward phase when being in lust turns into being in love.
Some suggestions:
Talk about expectations in advance (seeing a lot or relaxing a lot, early to bed and rise or party all night, who will be responsible for what, who will get the shower first - and who - if anyone takes 45 minutes to do their hair, who travles with a 30" body bag and who will have a single carry-on)
Have you both been to Italy before and have similar expectations? If not, talk in detail - some folks go into complete culture shock!
Keep you own ticket, passport, money and credit cards and have full info available if you need to bail out.
Hope you have a great time!
Polly, I think Owen's trip report last June is a MUST READ and give you lots of ideas and suggestions. Do a search in for "owen's ieland" (he misspelled it -- meant to read Ireland) and once you bring it up, go to his fifth post and read on after that.
VERY insightful.
VERY insightful.
Make sure you don't run into your old love!
Poor Owen, I felt for him for sure.
The Old Loves of mine were all good at the time and I am glad I had them, including a marriage. The Old Loves of his seemed like nice women, at least he doesn't speak badly about them.
Yes anything is apt to happen again, but I just think we have to experience life to the fullest with passion for everything.
Now that my analyst session is over for the day, I conclude with the fact that I want to live before I die, so The Great European Vacation Date is ON!
Yeaaaa.
The Old Loves of mine were all good at the time and I am glad I had them, including a marriage. The Old Loves of his seemed like nice women, at least he doesn't speak badly about them.
Yes anything is apt to happen again, but I just think we have to experience life to the fullest with passion for everything.
Now that my analyst session is over for the day, I conclude with the fact that I want to live before I die, so The Great European Vacation Date is ON!
Yeaaaa.
