It isn't that we don't understand, we do.

>>Should i apply to the same embassy or not? without mentioning my girlfriend(since that seems to be the problem)
Or to another schengen country and then go to Portugal with that visa.<<

The different countries all have access to the SAME data base. If one country has denied you a visa (multiple times) the other will know about it once you apply there.

As mentioned previously -- no one on Fodors or other on-line forums can help you out here. They decided you are not a good risk for what ever reason. Applying over and over again is probably useless.

And not mentioning the girlfriend (since she is the reason you are traveling) when you apply again will just be another black mark against you since it will be obvious you are concealing something.

It seems you will not get in to Schengen. Use all that money you saved up to fly her out to Sri Lanka to visit you. Maybe fly her parents out too if you are so set on meeting them.

"No, i am meeting her for the first time"

"We have been together for almost 2 years now"

You have never been "together".

When you apply for a visa you will be asked if you have ever been rejected for one.

I own a car. I am routinely asked at the Canadian border what holds me in the US. I can't see citing the car as a reason that I would return. The border agent would probably die of laughing. For one thing, my car might be worth 10,000, but believe me, that doesn't mean it's an "asset". They want proof of a career or school, a deadline you'd have to return for. I don't know what your job entails, but so far you haven't even given US a solid idea of what ties you to Sri Lanka. I have no idea what a coo of a start up actually does.

I am not doubting your commitment or whether you'll last but no one- not her parents, or any government or us- see that as a "real" relationship. And there's a lot of options between "going to Portugal for parents approval" and "running off with her". You haven't met her. After these 12 days are up, what do you plan to do?

Why would you need an NOC from your employer through the appeal? That sounds like something you should have submitted with the original application. What went on in the embassy wasn't blizzard, it was totally normal. As far as I can tell, you didn't provide adequate documentation and even I- a total stranger on the internet willing to give you the benefit of the doubt- really can't see a solid reason why you just won't overstay your visa once allowed in. That's what you need to provide documentation for.

I can state from experience bringing VFS Global into the situation is unlikely to help you, but how did that come up? Has the French Embassy outsourced visa processing now to this vendor? All they do is collect documents and conduct an interview and charge you, then forward the documents elsewhere to where the visa decision is made.

As already stated a simple tourist visa with return ticket was the way to go at the start. Consider at this point everyone meeting in Morocco.