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Jul 23rd, 2008, 05:49 PM
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I'm so glad it's not only me. I always feel like that and I always have a great time. I wish you would at least have a reservation for your first few days though.
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Jul 23rd, 2008, 06:12 PM
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You sound a bit tired out and maybe not loving the idea of "40."

Sometimes I get too overwhelmed with everyday life to think about planning travel.

Maybe give yourself permission to not be a tourist. Easy for me to say, but hard to do. But when I'm successful, I often find myself having a really wonderful time in spite of myself. You can skip all the museums and churches and just focus on cafes, wine, food, scenery and people watching. That is travel too, you know.

France is a wonderful country to begin your new decade.

I'm 48 and I promise I have loved my 40's. You are still quite young!!

Enjoy, relax if you want, be spontaneous!

Make one reservation to get yourself started.

Don't cancel...

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Jul 23rd, 2008, 06:19 PM
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I'm well past 40 and love every single birthday - much better than never seeing another one.
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Jul 23rd, 2008, 06:49 PM
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I am in my getting-to-be-late 30s, and if I spend my 40th birthday--or the day after--in France I will be one happy woman.

Where are you going? Have you booked a car? I can help you get excited about this, believe me.

Bon voyage!
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Jul 23rd, 2008, 07:04 PM
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<<I get so overwrought with the trip planing and all the things that have to be done before I leave that sometimes I just don't want to bother even going at all.

This totally describes me. It really happened to me before our trip to Europe a few weeks ago and I was looking forward to this trip for the 2 years it took to plan. Then, a few days before, I thought, all this isn't worth it. In reality - it was TOTALLY worth it.

My sixth sense stinks (thank goodness!!!!) b/c I worry about a ton of things, none of which ever happened.

This trip I worried about:

my son's health (he had a freak health thing hit him before we left)

will thunderstorms mess up our flight; will our luggage make our connection

why was the Air Canada flight dropping small drops of water on us?! That's NOT normal!

I neglected to buy overseas medical insurance and while we were away I read that most US health insurance providers do not cover you overseas. What if we break something or get in a car accident?

What if it rains every single day we are in the mountains? (that came too close to actually happening).

What if, after our 8 hr. flight, 4.5 hour layover and additional 1 hr. flight my younger son decides he never wants to travel far again?

I guess I'll stop before any of you start to think I'm a total basket case. NOTHING bad happened and we had an amazing trip.

I, too, am so thankful others feel similar.

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Jul 23rd, 2008, 07:54 PM
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How long have you been traveling?

I noticed a shift in my travel buzz about a year ago - I've been traveling regularly since 2000. It's not that I don't get excited about going - but I find now I'm more relaxed about the small details. Hotels I still prearrange - I'm waiting/looking forward to that next shift.

I noticed even a week before I went to Italy in June for 2 weeks I was very nonchalant about it all - and it wasn't like I was busy at work. Even my things-to-do cheat sheet has become a very loose outline for my trip. I'd like to think I've become a seasoned world traveler in some minute way but then I think about a couple I know who have been low budget traveling for the past 6 months - they just made it to Buenos Aries, starting in Mexico.

As for wondering about the 6th sense stuff - I wouldn't give it too much attention - what we focus on we empower. I don't even worry about my apartment now - which is a major shift for me.
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Jul 24th, 2008, 03:02 AM
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Yes this happens to me all the time. I used to have a horrific fear of flying, but then I got into a car wreck and now I hate driving.

For me it's the stress, and the what ifs. What if I lose my passport, what if the ATM eats my card, what if my credit cards don't work, what if my purse gets stolen, what if I get run over by a bus, etc etc.

And then I'm always amazed at how smoothly things go and how I worried for nothing.

I am getting better though with each trip I worry less!

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Jul 24th, 2008, 07:05 AM
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I think if you start doing a little planning, it will snowball into excitement. Maybe you'll find some great last minute rates on some fabulous places.
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Jul 24th, 2008, 08:01 AM
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<<...the what ifs. What if I lose my passport, what if the ATM eats my card, what if my credit cards don't work, what if my purse gets stolen, what if I get run over by a bus, etc etc.>>

Most of the above don't bother me,I consider most of them things that I have some control over. I have a couple of photocopies of my passport and would get to an embassy or consulate for a replacement, two ATM cards and use the cards when the banks are open so can report it immediately if one should be eaten (which has never happened in any country I've visited), I don't carry much in my purse, enough money for the day, never my passport or credit cards, etc. so it wouldn't be a big deal. I leave anything I don't need at home (driver's license unless I plan to drive).

But I'd hate to get hit by a bus; however, that's something that could happen at home too so I don't worry about it.

It's the vague feeling that I'll regret going, spending the money, the trip won't meet my expectations, that I should have gone somewhere else, etc. that bothers me. But I go anyway and try to be flexible and open-minded and don't recall regretting any trip.


You'll be off soon, I hope all goes well for you and that you'll have a wonderful time.
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Jul 24th, 2008, 09:39 AM
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I live to travel, start packing weeks before but yes right before hand i start to think: why am I going? I think it is natural especially if it is a new place. But only once did I absolutely not feel excited about going and ended up canceling (and it cost me quite a bit too) - a Thanksgiving 2006 tript to Innsbruck. The flight was a bargain at under $500 and I had reservations at nice hotels for reasonable rates but I thought: it is goign to be dark and cold and probably rainy - I cancelled and 2 weeks later went to Santa Fe instead but I had the $200 change fee plus the difference in airfare to Albuquerque plus one hotel charged me a $25 cancellation fee. Now I wish I'd gone but think I'd rather be there in Spring anyway.
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Jul 31st, 2008, 11:49 PM
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Hi, just an update.
We decided to cancel our trip, we were supposed to leave next Tuesday and now we are not
I may be a bit depressed next week but I think deep inside (and I mean really deep) it was the right thing to do.
I am grateful for all your comments which in one way or another gave me the food for thought I was hoping.
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Aug 1st, 2008, 07:07 AM
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<<I think deep inside (and I mean really deep) it was the right thing to do.>>

I agree, you have to listen to your instincts.
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Aug 6th, 2008, 01:03 AM
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HI sglw, I hope you are ok and that the birthday wasn't too daunting and that you celebrated in style!

Happy birthday!!
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