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Ever Booked a Trip and Decided Not to Go?

Oct 7th, 2007, 11:20 AM
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Her financial situation may be none of our business, but it is obviously on her mind or she wouldn't have mentioned it. "I'll likely come back to the U.S. flat broke which doesn't appeal to me since Christmas will be upon us soon."

Some people focused more on her doubts about enjoying a solo trip, being lonely, whether she'll "end up sitting around with nothing to do" and whether her budget was enough.

But she asked for outside opinions with her financial situation included in the mix. Those of use who suggested she should consider clearing up her debts rather than taking a nice, long vacation (hopefully with paid time off!) are apparently more fiscally conservative than the rest and perhaps have less confidence in the U.S. economy in the short term.

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Oct 7th, 2007, 12:37 PM
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I'm not the least bit offended that some people commented about my financial issues and my decisions relating to them. As a couple of other people have pointed out, I made it "fair game" but putting it out there in the first place. I did detect a little bit of venom here and there, but those kind of comments always have (and always will) slide off my back.

The anxiety that I've been experiencing is definitely a combination of the fact that I'm traveling alone, along with the money issues. I feel like cutting my trip back by a week (which, incidentally, takes the most expensive week out of the equation) is a good compromise. I feel so much better now that I've scaled things back. And with any luck, I'll return to the US with a couple of thousand dollars in my pocket, which I can apply towards some of my bills, debt.

True, I'm not the most financially responsible person. I think a lot of us (especially people my age) get ourselves into situations with bills/debt where it just seems so daunting that we don't even bother making an effort to pay it off. One of the lessons that I've learned from this experience is that it IS possible to save up the kind of money necessary to pay off bills/debt... its just a matter of making it a high enough priority (as I did with this trip) to make it happen.

Thanks again to everyone who has taken the time to respond. I'm appreciative of your efforts.
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Oct 7th, 2007, 01:29 PM
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There is no free lunch. I feel that your conflict has much to do with how you define "responsibility to yourself". At this time which is more important, financial or emotional?

It may be good to delay your trip until the spring. Do you really want to come home to "flat broke" with "Christmas soon upon us"? You don't seem to want to travel alone. The unpaid bills will belined up to welcome you home. And then there is the emotional interest. You are already anxious about money, trust me, this interest will have accrued in the months after your return.

Perhaps you could think spring and spend the winter with fabulous research. Books, Italian films, and Italian course. Possibly find a companion to cut hotel costs.

Or, perhaps you just NEED to go NOW. Then go. I once did this and met an exceptional person who triggered the most profound shift in my thinking in the last 15 years. This cannot be measured in dollars/euros. The entire trip was special.
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Oct 9th, 2007, 03:30 AM
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Well, I've done it twice.

Last year I had everything ready to travel to Italy in June/July. I'd booked my flight and all the hotels. I was going to spend 26 nights and my itinerary included Naples, Rome, Florence, Venice and Milan as the main destination and a few daytrips to nearby destinations. However, as the time of trip approached, I started to feel anxiety and kind of a bad feeling. I'd never done a trip that long and I was wondering whether it was a very ambitious trip. In the end, I cancelled everything and planned a more doable and less stressing 3 week trip for September. I'm so glad I took the decision to cancel it and postpone it for September. Planning a trip is supposed to be as fun as actually doing it, and I certainly wasn't having fun.

This year, I also had everything booked and ready to travel to Naples/Sicily, but, suddenly, the opportunity to visit Morocco came up and had to cancel everything again. Since I was stopping at Milan anyway in my way to Casablanca, I decided to visit nearby Turin along with Lake Orta. I can't say Morocco was my dream destination and I swear I'll never set foot in it again, but it was certainly one of the most interesting countries I've ever visited. However, thanks to changing my plans and ended up visiting Morocco, I got the opportunity to visit beautiful Turin and gorgeous Lake Orta where I had a great time. I don't regret having changed my itinerary because something good came out of it "again".
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Oct 9th, 2007, 04:16 AM
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What a gracious response, and to fairly challenging posts at that. As I believe this is the 'tuesday' of your departure, I wish you buon viaggio, (sp?) assuming you're here at least until this evening.

For anyone else in this situation - it is worth looking at the costs of changing/cancelling before booking a trip, no matter how committed one thinks one is (or isn't). We've never cancelled a trip, but we always do this: the unexpected circumstance could always arise. One must be prepared to self-insure, in the event one doesn't take out formal cancellation insurance.
In our case, knowing the worst case scenario beforehand makes it easier to 'bite that bullet' and commit to the trip - not sure of the reasons why, it just 'is'.

Once again, ameelynn, hope you enjoy your trip, and hope to hear back from you when you return!
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