paris7

Scarlett, we were in Paris 2 years ago, my DH knows how to dress, just ignores it and does his own thing. After more than 30 years of marriage, I'm pretty much used to it, but that hat, ugh!!
Suze, you're right, I'm very lucky to have a DH, I will enjoy his company no matter what he wears.
Deb, are guys really wearing capri's?

nma

Yes, he does iron, too!

Neil_Oz

I don't understand men who are so helpless that they allow their wives (do I have to write "DWs"?) to control what they wear. I sometimes see them standing befuddled in a department store while their wives select shirts and ties for them to try on. Completely unnecessary, of course. If I want a second opinion on a matching tie I go looking for an obviously homosexual shop assistant. They always get it right.

I hate stereotypes, too.

I pack what I like and my wife can pack and wear whatever she likes too. We're both grownups.

I don't see the kitchen as a place for women, as a rule, but I allow her to cook on weekends, and if she wants something unappetising like white meat, a salad or muesli she's welcome to prepare it. I like to see her keep her hand in in the event of my death or disablement.

MaggieOB

MY DH is a clothes horse so he's usually pretty okay (whatever that may mean) in the clothing selection department.

But are we the only couple who divide our clothes between the two suitcases? After we've each made our selections and they're laid out on a bed in an extra room they go pretty much half in each suitcase. We've done this for over twenty years---theory being that if one suitcase is lost we'll at least both have something to wear. And if we are taking "dressier" clothes they would go in the same suitcase---what's the point of one being ready to be all fancy if the other is left in jeans??

It seems straightforward to us but perhaps we are alone in our theory. In the end, whatever gets you both there and happy is what matters!

TobieT

<<But are we the only couple who divide our clothes between the two suitcases? >>

Maggie~ just what I was thinking!
It seems to work out well for both of us, particularly as my husband always takes less than me.

I seem to have more time to organize the clothes and packing, so generally lay out his things and let him say yay or nay to whatever is there....and then I adjust accordingly before closing the suitcase.

paris7~Once you're there, all he'll be focusing on is you, and the wonderful time you're having!

artlover

I have an idea for you--tell DH he should buy some new hats in Paris! That's on thing my DH does every trip and it's fun and something great to bring home.

My DH would LOVE it if I packed for him, but I absolutely refuse to take that responsibility. I do go over things with him though, but he usually has pretty good tatse.

yk

This is really a funny post.

DH has learned to ask me what he <i>should</i> pack for trips. I'll let him know if T-shirt and jeans are ok, or if he needs to pack something nicer. I usually have to help him in the shoes department - cuz otherwise he'll end up packing too many pairs of shoes.

But, DH really doesn't know how to <i>pack</i> a suitcase (rollaboard). He is not space efficient. Half of the time, I can't stand it and I re-organize his suitcase. All of a sudden, lots of empty space opens up!

Savior

Somehow I manage to pack my own bag whenever we go on trips. For our upcoming trip to Paris, my wife is actually asking ME what to pack. Besides, I couldn't imagine counting on someone else to pack everything I needed.

Though I do have to say, a few years ago, on a trip to Gatlinburg, I unloaded our luggage at the cabin, and realized my suitcase was missing. I did pack my clothes, I just ddnt bring them along. I always use the excuse that I had to get the kids up, get them ready, and pack the car, while my wife slept. Of course, her side of the story comes out a bit different.

ira

&gt;Do you let your DH pack his own clothes?

Let me? She insists on it.

phieaglefan

This is a very funny post. I mentioned it to DH last night. He generally scoffs at me when I refer to this board, but he actually chuckled! He adores camo.

yk - I'm with you on this one. I don't want to take the responsibility for remembering everthing he needs! I have a good friend that not only packs for her husband, but has to lay out his clothes for him everyday! By the way, she does this at home and on vacation. I think I'd go on strike.
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VeeBee

I also told my DH about this post last night - during which i was laughing hysterically -- and he said he couldn't beleive i shared all this about him online - half jokingly...then said - SO, what should i wear? I've never packed for him in my life and rarely bought him a piece of clothing (he actually likes to shop)-- just kind of stuck in the 1980's...(maybe 90's)

MaddieAstrid

In my house it is either all or nothing. I can pack his entire bag and then listen to him complain about he doesn’t have the right pants, socks, shirts, etc., or I can let him pack his own bag and then listen to him complain that he doesn’t have the right pants, socks, shirts, etc.

I usually put a great deal of thought into packing my bag (have gone as far as creating speadsheets ) while his decisions seem entirely based on what “happens” to be clean and most visible in his closet the night and/or morning before.

I still almost always “let” him pack for himself unless I plan on dragging him out to clubs. I hope to someday not to care what he wears, but am not there yet.

As for splitting our things between two suitcases, NEVER. He sorts through his bag like a dog through a trash can. Not only would he wrinkle all my things, but I imagine he would throw his stinky socks in with my clean clothes.

Maddie

P.S. And yes, I have borrowed the Chicago Bears earmuffs (in Paris, no less), but the furry “bear head” hat stays home!

SuzieCII

my practice husband wanted me to pack for him...after I had &quot;practiced&quot; ...I found my forever husband and he knows better.
He packs and has been travelling for so many years he packs lightly. (Now, if I can ever get him to forget about white socks when he wears his black shoes...ugh...at least he doesn't wear them with sandals...and he's German!)

missypie

I travel with a husband and three kids and I always say I pack for 4 1/2. As I'm making sure-months in advance-that the kids and I each have two pairs of comfortable, broken in shoes, DH doesn't think of anything in advance (so he's always the one who ends up with blisters). The night before the trip, he asks me what he needs to pull out (e.g. how many long pants, how many shirts, etc.), he pulls them out and I pack them. (I can't fault him for not actually packing. Since there are 5 of us and typically 5 22&quot; bags, I put a bit of everyone's clothes in each bag, to lessen the problem if one or two suitcases are lost.)

I do not allow DH total freedom in deciding what to bring. To him, a summer vacation means shorts and t-shirts. If left to his own devices, he would pack the identical clothes if going to his parents' lake house, Disneyworld, Paris or Rome. I'm serious. Summer of 2005 we went to Disneyworld and summer of 2006 we went to Italy and he truly tried to pack his Disneyworld clothes for Italy.

DeborahAnn

Got to love those husbands, and in all fairness and to keep stereotypes alive I would welcome my husband to start a post on cars and his wife Around a car or power tools I am completely helpless/hopeless. I am, however, a packing wizard. Deborah

DeborahAnn

paris 7, yes in August in Paris I kept pointing out to DH all the fine looking men in capri length pants. It really wasn't very warm so maybe Ron wasn't impressed enough to appreciate the style.

You are leaving soon for Paris, lucky you, if there is room for THE HAT put it in the suitcase. We've been in Paris during this time of the year and it can get really cold on the street. You might end up each wanting to wear it

Have a great trip. Deborah

rogerdodger

I am an adult male. I am able to select my clothes and to pack my own bag. My wife packs hers without input from me.

Curt

I pack mine, my wife packs hers. The only thing we disagree on is the amount of clothes to take - seems she often packs too much but it works out OK in the long run.

aegris

The man can't fold to save his life, which is primarily the reason I pack. He literally rolls his clothes up into a long, tube-like formation and shoves them in where there's room, creating a wrinkled mess and a space-hogging situation, so it's just easier for me to do it. Plus, I get a little thrill by finding out a way to get &quot;so many clothes&quot; into such a tight and compact space. Hey, we've all got varying degrees of OCD, all right? ; )

I don't choose his clothes, though. He's not my child and would not react well to me suggesting I do so (nor would I want to). We have a routine where he goes into the closets and drawers and tosses what he needs on the bed and I pack it. I may remind him that he needs this or that since I am usually the keeper of the intinerary and he's agreeable to whatever additions or subtractions I suggest.

So, basically he's worked it so that he's got me doing the hardest job and thinking that a man as smart as he is can't learn to fold. He's clever, that one.

AliH1

We each pack our own, only discussing what sort of events/occasions might be anticipated, since I do most of the trip planning and organizing. I cannot even IMAGINE using space in my suitcase packing things that I thought he should have packed but didn't. Geesh!!!