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Old Dec 6th, 2016, 05:15 PM
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I tip concierges when they do things I could not do myself because they have knowledge and connections I don't have. I tip them knowing that they are likely tipping the person who provides the service I need or want.

Here are three purely hypothetical items I would tip well for in Paris:

Tickets to a sold out opera or concert.

Reservations for tomorrow night at any number of restaurants.

Finding a private guide for a specialist tour of a district or museum, or getting me a rush fitting with an expert, or any fitting with a well-known, tailor.

What would I tip? 10-15% of the cost of the service, more if the tickets are really special, say front of house, center, to hear Natalie Dessay or Netrebko.

What would you tip for tickets to "Hamilton" next Saturday in New York?
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Old Dec 6th, 2016, 05:29 PM
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If the concierge does a minor task - gives you a map or directions a thank you is enough. If they sign you up for a tour they get a cut from the tour company so you don;t have to tip.

If they spend time getting you a reservation at a difficult restaurant or tickets to a sold out show or concert - then yes, one tips them. The amount is determine by the difficulty of the task and the cost of what they got you (if they got your $1000 tickets to a concert by the 3 tenors you do NOT give them $20).

And granted I am american. But I have discussed tipping with colleagues from several of our european offices and they all agree that concierges are tipped for special efforts (which we often have to ask for due to entertaining clients).
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Old Dec 6th, 2016, 05:32 PM
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I have no idea what a dustman is.

I never tipped the postman in the USA - I thought it was illegal to do so, though I've invited one or two in for a coffee when it was snowing or terrible weather, and they always appreciated it.

I don't normally stay in hotels where there are concierges anywhere in the world, but the very, very few times I have and they managed to get me tickets to something it would have been hard to procure on my own, or a reservation at a restaurant I might not have had a chance of getting a table at, yes, I've tipped.

<<I tip them knowing that they are likely tipping the person who provides the service I need or want.>>

I don't know about that. I'm not sure money exchanges hands between concierges and service providers.
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Old Dec 6th, 2016, 10:49 PM
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"dustman", is the man who empties the bins (if other countries use bins) also called the "bin-men" in the UK
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Old Dec 6th, 2016, 10:52 PM
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No problem with Jehovah' witnesses, though tipping feels wrong.
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Old Dec 6th, 2016, 11:51 PM
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Jehovah's are called balls here.
They come in pairs and stay outside.
On topic ?
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The trouble with this kind of question (and certain American travel forums) is an assumption that "Europe" is one place and "Europeans" are a homogeneous group of people.

I'm British. I stay at mid-price hotels. The only two places I've ever encountered a concierge are Vegas & Amsterdam. In each case I asked simple questions (like nearest hotel good restaurant or public transport routes) and it would never occur to me to tip.

If I was staying at a posh hotel in London & the concierge scored me tix to a sold-out play, then I would tip.

France, Italy, Denmark, Croatia, Austria etc - who knows. Lots of different countries with different traditions of tipping. Or not.
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Old Dec 7th, 2016, 01:37 AM
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I have no idea what other Europeans do, but this European rarely stays in hotels, and would probably not use the services of a concierge if I did.
I don't tip in hotels. Nothing for room service, or anything else. I pay enough for the room to cover such things - they should all be part of the normal service offered by the establishment. I don't have 15 bags so have no need of someone to carry them for me either.

I often tip in a restaurants if we have a big meal, but not if we are just having a small lunch, or a drink in a bar/pub. The amount depends on the restaurant and the service. No fixed percentage, but certainly more than a couple of euros.

40 years ago we would give the dustmen a Christmas box (tip). Same with others who offered a regular service. Now I don't even tip my hairdresser.
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Old Dec 7th, 2016, 02:46 AM
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British are not Europeans.
Never have been. Like the Swiss they live in an island.
One with water around the other with mountains.
And since brexit they are even less in Europe.
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Old Dec 7th, 2016, 02:50 AM
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When I go to :
France : no tip
Poland : no tip
Germany : no tip
Slovenia : no tip
Romania : no tip
Spain : no tip
Belgium : no tip
Netherlands : no tip
Portugal : no tip
Italy : no tip
My wife went to Denmark : no tip.
UK : I ask.

I only listed the countries in which I have been the last 2 years.
Nobody was ever furious that I didn't tip. Nobody said I should have. Nobody bat an eye actually.
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Old Dec 7th, 2016, 02:52 AM
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Forgot
Czech Republic : no tip
Latvia : no tip


At my level I see a pattern.
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Old Dec 7th, 2016, 03:53 AM
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>> The amount depends on the restaurant and the service. No fixed percentage, but certainly more than a couple of euros.

You're certainly generous hetismij2.

About tipping, I think the answer is simple: you don't tip if they were already paid for the service they give you. So, in America if the waiter is not paid by salary but by your tip, then do it. In Europe and Asia, no need to. If you're asking them for a favor, i.e. ticket for a sold-out event, haircut after working time, etc. then you may tip.

I won't tip even if I have 15 bags - as long as it's in their working time they were paid for it. Ok, 15 bags might be a little too much for them. I don't have 15 bags, problems solved.
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Old Dec 7th, 2016, 03:57 AM
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>>The trouble with this kind of question (and certain American travel forums) is an assumption that "Europe" is one place and "Europeans" are a homogeneous group of people.<<

Maybe you're taking my OP a bit too literally. Do I think that someone here knows the tipping habits of every European? Uh, no. I'm asking for individual responses from Europeans. But thanks for the juvenile analysis.

>> British are not Europeans. <<

LOL. I remember one Brit smugly telling me "Of course we are" when I asked if Brits considered themselves Europeans.
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Old Dec 7th, 2016, 04:31 AM
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Most Britons regard themselves as Europeans.
I am at least as European as Wo, in that I hold a British passport but I live in the Netherlands and regard myself as European first, British second. My passport says I am a European.
That a few lunatics in Britain think otherwise and conned a lot of people into voting to leave the EU with a bunch of false claims does not make me, or them, less European.
My DH is now Dutch - is he now a European by your definition Wo? Of course not because you hate the Dutch even more than the British.
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Old Dec 7th, 2016, 07:13 AM
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<Nobody was ever furious that I didn't tip. Nobody said I should have. Nobody bat an eye actually.>
That doesn't say anything about whether you should or should not have tipped.
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Old Dec 7th, 2016, 07:47 AM
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>>Most Britons regard themselves as Europeans.<<

I'll let you two fight it out. Besides, I'm confused.
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Old Dec 7th, 2016, 08:19 AM
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Woinparis; we give the cleaning lady and gardeners an extra tip for Christmas. It's what my parents always did as well. We also tip the newspaper delivery people - they actually leave a card with their account nr in the mail box. I'll tip them if delivery has been good, which isn't allways the case.
But I couldn't say if this is the norm here in Belgium. I'm Dutch, and Dutch people, contrary to what the Belgians think, are usually more generous with tips.

As for the original question: no, except in special circumstances. Not for simple restaurant reservations.
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Old Dec 7th, 2016, 11:28 PM
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There is some confusion about the term Europeans.

Europe is a Geographical area.
The people who live in Europe are called Europeans, unless you have a whole bunch of "race" issues or when when you want to refer to some cultural concept (with all the usual confusion about what that means)

There are some very complex trade and rights structures within the political elements of the area which includes the EU. (but there are others and they cross link, like Schengen)

So the EU is not Europe but it is European.
Britain is in Europe and will not be in the EU

Belgium is in Europe and will stay in the EU

Turkey is a bit in Europe and a bit out of Europe and is having some troubles right now.

That people get confused about this is just one of those things, all kinds of people get confused about stuff including the future President of the USA

BTW I checked my passport and while it is headed "European Union" it does not say I am a citizen of the EU. I suspect that it is very hard to be a citizen of the EU as it is not a nation, however, I look forward to hearing other views. See also signage at airports "EU citizens this way"?
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Old Dec 8th, 2016, 02:05 AM
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Some clarifications :

1. I don't hate anybody. I just don't. I dislike many people, I can despise some but I don't hate.

2. I love UK people. Can't meet a Brit without finding him great - my biggest ratio people met / Friends made is there. Maybe together with canadians.
Seems UK people who had been away for more then xx years couldn't even vote about Brexit so they are all absolved ;-)

3. The dutch : I like to say I dislike them. However I realize you cannot dislike a global group of people. So I took out people from Zeeland, Brabat, etc - I met some great guys there. I still have problems with people from Holland. It usually starts when they answer me in English, then I revert to French. They come back to Dutch and me to Flemish. As for commercial relation, I simply think that the less Dutch partners one has, the less problems.

Tipping cleaning lady : I abandoned this custom last year actually. We now pay the cleaning lady via 'service checks' given via the government, it is all-included. Plus the last cleaning lady retired in feb, without giving me any notice and just after I gave her a tip - bad timing...

So no more tip to anyone. People like NewbE should continue to tip, it is too complicated for them to realize what is the local custom and they will always find one local who tips, thus reassuring them in their conviction that one must tip. so be it. Tip if you like, feel copelled to it or feel superior when tipping.
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Old Dec 8th, 2016, 02:11 AM
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Bon,
Since I wrote one normal post, let me revert to my true self.

First I feel superior because I master the tipping custom. Like now, I have 2 people installing my new heater and I gave them coffee and access to my fridge for sodas. (what a good man I am).

Second, nobody seemed to pay attention that con cierges are stupid candles, so why tip candles ???

Third, You may tip candles in camaret, the girls like it.

(Paillardes means naughty, bawdy. )

http://www.chansons-paillardes.net/c...e_Camaret.html
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