fyi, I think that poster has moved over to the Japan TA forum...

If the OP has switched to TA, I hope she gets what she needs there! As someone who has, on more than one occasion , said something that has come across badly, and who certainly could have been kinder to this OP, I’ve been grateful when people have questioned or teased me about my words and I’ve appreciated the grace with which my apologies have been received. I’m perfectly willing to believe that this OP’s wording was unintentionally snarky, but I also don’t think she was getting what she wanted here. She posted multiple questions about both her allocation of time and her choice of hotels, even though she kept getting the same opinions each time. Maybe she’s finally getting opinions that are the ones she wants to hear.

Yes, that is true. Hope she finds what she needs.

The OP was also asking what hotels were available during her timeframe. Doesn't that assume she wanted someone else to do the legwork? Instead of TA, she needs a different kind of TA, a travel agent.

kja, you weren't being snarky. You are always more than willing to give good advice.

Kja...my dear old friend....we've discussed this several times before...there are times when you are so damn nice to a poster who doesn't deserve it. The "Snark Tank" is sometimes the only way to get through to some of those apples.

Will say hello to Syd and Dari...holiday at their place this weekend.

stu

Kja was snarky?

Perhaps, as a noted curmudgeon, I missed her "snark."

@ internetwiz,
@ tower, &
@ BigRuss: Thank you all so much! (blushing) I'm grateful for your very kind words.

P.S. to Stu: Yes, please give my best to Syd, Dari, and the little one.

What you give, you often receive back.
OP got snarky / condescending and stormed off like a sulking toddler when some of us responded in kind.
People here give help because we enjoy helping others, and also because it allows us to relive experiences we loved. We are not a paid service, and we certainly aren't obliged to help those who are rude when it is not merited.

Kavey....so well said and so true! The vicarious kicks I get out of helping others with their trip plans are well
worth the occasional SNARK.

Given the dismal state of the US health care system, all physicians can now only afford capsule hotels.

Keep up the good work, kja, you're my kind of woman. Smart and feisty, just like me, lol.

@ CaliforniaLady:

I felt like back in high school - a newcomer put the wrong foot out, and some gang up on her.

I think everyone deserves a second chance, including a new poster who would like to erase this unfortunate incident by starting with a new screen name.

@ Reading54: If this had been her first post, reactions might have been a bit different; I know that my responses would have been. Still, I answered every question she asked, under either screen name, to the best of my ability (even if I added some snark), and I've encouraged others to do so. I hope your willingness to extend a second chance also extends to those of us who try to be helpful, even when challenged by a new or -- as in this case -- returning poster's approach.

What Kja said.

Best way to erase an "unfortunate incident" is to apologise and move forward. I've never got the impression anyone here would do anything other than accept such an apology and continue to advise as best they could.

It's not a case of ganging up at all. It's a case of disliking patronising or condescending responses when one is only trying to help.

The poster has received a lot of helpful information and continues to receive relevant responses, but if you are able to rise about rudeness from someone asking you for your advice, you're perhaps a better person than the rest.

I'm happy to continue answering questions to the best of my ability from anyone who asks, but think a brief and simply apology (and genuine acceptance of it) is a far better way to handle a moment of unnecessary rudeness than pretending it didn't happen and taking on a new identity.

Just my two cents.

@ Kavey: Your 2.346 yen work for me -- thanks!

"I wouldn't use just any site that TripAdvisor sends you to (indeed, I wouldn't use TA), but booking.com works well."

You probably already meant this, Kathie, but just to confirm,
one of the booking sites (in addition to Expedia, the hotels' own sites, etc ) Tripadvisor links to IS Booking.com.

Pros and cons of tripadvisor has been discussed both on here and other forums. Not meaning to get "into" that discussion--just want to clarify that yes, booking.com is part of the "book on tripadvisor" option