Young, retired and bored. Where to go?

Oct 5th, 1999, 03:18 PM
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Part of me wants to volunteer my 21 year old daughter who graduates from NC State in June as a bilingual Nanny and tour guide for your family on a trip to Costa Rica. (She's planning to go back to teach English this summer.) Or you could do a stay somewhere in Central/South America with a family and all learn Spanish. (There are actually some lovely programs out there where you stay with fairly well-to-do host families for several weeks.)

You could even go to Europe on a cruiseship.

Kids do grow out of the ear problems, and I'd have a long talk with the pediatrician because you may be limiting yourself unduly. But having travelled with two year olds myself...we usually liked to visit the grandparents or meet them somewhere so we'd get some time to ourselves. The nanny idea isn't bad, either.

Anyway, you might consider taking the train across the US with frequent stops for a couple days or so, where you pass through somewhere you want to explore. WEST: Check out www.washingtonpost.com, go to the Style section and then the travel index, and read about the cabins you might stay at on the North rim of the Grand Canyon.

Or visit Yellowstone National Park...although you may need to wait until Spring (perhaps the same advise holds for Grand Canyon).

NORTH: Washington DC, Philadelphia, NY City, Boston, Montreal, Quebec City....

You might vary between train and car, but kids love trains. Long trips can be a drag, that's why I recommend stopping often for a day or so. Assuming flying is out of the picture.
 
Oct 5th, 1999, 07:55 PM
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Oh, please...You have a wife and a child and you're bored silly? Shame on you! Have you no inspiration or focus whatsoever? Ever wondered how you could enhance their experiences, as well as your own??? Go to your local bookstore - to the travel section if you're so inclined. Grab a couple of dozen books, then head for the cafe and get lost in possibilities. Sadly, I doubt you will find anything "interesting, fun and doesn't require more than one night's hotel stay while driving there and doesn't involve flying" (to you). I must say that this is surely THE most uninspired post I've ever seen here. Without any focus whatsoever, you may want to wonder what, if anything, may ever bring you joy. If, indeed, you are capable of wonder at all. Surely you have a remote control...
 
Oct 5th, 1999, 08:12 PM
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Input off the subject not requested, but it is after all a forum:
You sound REALLY disillusioned and bitter to me. I think Lisa's original post was right on target. Your demands and expectations are not going to be met no matter where you go. Sounds corny but happiness and satisfaction start from within. Externals like travel will never fill that void. I wish you the best anyway.
 
Oct 5th, 1999, 08:24 PM
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What a STIFF. Are you serious or for real or what??? Get a life. Heart of cement, I think...
 
Oct 5th, 1999, 08:28 PM
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Moron
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Tired and bored at 35? Want exciting with no effort? There isn't any. Money won't take care of your deficiencies.
 
Oct 5th, 1999, 08:29 PM
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Char
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You're a phony for sure...
 
Oct 5th, 1999, 08:30 PM
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Proceed immediately to a ledge 12 stories or higher and JUMP
 
Oct 5th, 1999, 08:32 PM
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You are trulyPATETIC
 
Oct 5th, 1999, 08:39 PM
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Obviously, you're not completely dim-witted, as you can spell, but you must have a heart and mind of concrete. Anyone's who's "bored silly" is dead in their mind and heart. Wake up! If you don't find enormous pleasure in seeing the sun rise and set and the moon in the sky at night, you may as well jump, as recommended above. Can't even imagine who would not find pleasure and inspiration in one's wife and/or child and pleasing them - somehow, some way - surely you have the capacity, having owned a company worth selling, to have and IDEA?
 
Oct 5th, 1999, 08:52 PM
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Pat,
You sound more b-o-r-i-n-g than bored. Take classes, involve yourself in hobbies, create something and overhaul that attitude. Interesting people are not bored. A trip ain't going to do it for you. What you need most is to get a mind of your own.
 
Oct 5th, 1999, 10:09 PM
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I'm with YOU, Pat! All of these people are apparently extremely JEALOUS of your situation! In any event, if you could DRIVE there I would recommend all of the Hawaiian islands! Unfortunately, that isn't possible. Otherwise, FORGET the mainland United States -- you will positively be BORED to death!!!
 
Oct 6th, 1999, 04:10 AM
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LARRY:
There's a Krispy Kreme in Alexandria (Highway 1).
 
Oct 6th, 1999, 04:54 AM
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Personally, I do not believe that your son is too young to entertain with trips; you would be suprised at what children that young can be stimulated with if you plan it right. However, if that is your belief, and if this trip is for you and your husband, then you shouldn't take your son. Either leave him with family if possible. If not, then bring someone with you to help care for him. However, people like you give parents who genuinely want to travel with their kids and have a real family vacation a bad name.
 
Oct 6th, 1999, 05:20 AM
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TO ALL THOSE THAT POSTED YOUR POP-PSYCHOLOGY PHILOSOPHY:

IF YOUR OBSERVATIONS ARE EXAMPLES OF HOW WE TREAT OUR FELLOW HUMAN BEINGS - ITS PRETTY SAD COMMENTARY. IS THIS FORUMS REALLY OPEN SEASON FOR THOSE THAT FEEL THE ONLY WAY TO MAKE THEMSELVES FEEL IMPORTANT IS BY PUTTING DOWN OTHERS? ITS PRETTY PATHIC WHEN POSTERS RENDER THEIR OPINIONS WITHOUT KNOWING ALL THE FACTS AND THEN BLAME THE ORIGINAL POSTER FOR NOT REVELING THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE.

LET'S TRY A LITTLE DECENCY & RESPECT, DO YOU ALL REALLY FEEL THAT YOU ARE REALLY BEING HELPFUL?

DIDN'T ANYONE EVERY TEACH YOU THAT IF YOU DON'T HAVE ANYTHING NICE TO SAY DON'T SAY IT AT ALL?
 
Oct 6th, 1999, 06:28 AM
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martha, rt 1 in alexandria is too far for a krispy kreme when you really need one and live in downtown dc!!!
 
Oct 6th, 1999, 06:30 AM
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My original post was not a cry for help nor a request for sympathy. I just wanted to know where to take a trip. That's it. If I ask someone about where are some new restaurants to try because I want to try something new I wouldn't expect to get the response some of you people have given. I think that the negative responses are from people who aren't truly satified with their own lives and situations. They must lash out at whoever they can and chose this forum to do so because they get to remain anonymous. I love my family and chose to sell my company so I could spend time with them. My husband and I are hard workers like I'm sure most of you are but we would like a change of scenery right now. This requires a little trip in our case. Would you go to Disney World and yell at all the tourists about how shallow they are and they should be staying at home? Would you tell them to examine their inner selves and to volunteer somewhere? Someone said I have a heart of concrete because I'm bored. Have none of you ever been bored? Have you never wanted to get away with your family and leave the house cleaning and cooking for a week? Isn't this a travel forum? Someone asks for travel advice and should expect that. Not preaching by strangers who know nothing about the person that they are lashing out at.
Yes, I'm bored. Yes, sometimes I'm boring. I have faults and I make mistakes. But is it your place to call me on my true feelings and tell me that they aren't valid because I should be overflowing with joy? I am not eloquent with words so my ramblings may get a little boring for you exciting people, but this response to my original post is truly an accurate portrayal of the intolerent, self-righteous society that exists in this world. Thank you to the people who offered valid suggestions as to where to travel without any sharp-tongued response. Now I know what Jesse Ventura feels like. Everybody has non-politically-correct thoughts now and then, but beware the scorning you will receive if you let them be known.

Pat Q.
 
Oct 6th, 1999, 08:42 AM
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Based on the original post, I can understand some of the comments people have made but there was a great deal of gratuitious hostility which doesn't help anyone.

I like the suggestions about New York and D.C. and cruises. Since you said money is no object, perhaps you can find some exclusive cruises which will go to less touristy places.

You are very fortunate to near close enough to major cruise ports that you do not need to fly to one.

If you are going to take your son, be sure that you will always have access to a competent physician. Hopefully you will never need one, but you must be prepared. Infants are more sensitive and suceptible than adults and older children. Also, be very careful about the food and water in other countries.

I live in New York City is the captital of the world, de facto. I think every culture is found in NY and it really is "The City That Never Sleeps". If you don't mind the crowds and the hustle-bustle, you may find it very exciting.
 
Oct 6th, 1999, 08:44 AM
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Pat,

I think one thing that provoked such extreme reactions is that most poster got the impression that you are a man. It's a sexist old society but I do think you would have had a different response if they'd realized you were female. However you do seem to imply in your first posting that you are free to travel whenever you wish; are you planning to travel with your child alone over the next few years, or will you be restricted by your husband's vacation time? If you are restricted then I would suggest you finds something closer to home to fill the boredom as travel is just too temporary. Staying at home with a two yr old is very boring at times but it does pass quickly. Join those Mums&Tots groups, or even a support group for parents of kids with ear infections.

Good luck!
 
Oct 6th, 1999, 09:12 AM
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Pat

There's a hosted forum going on right now on the Greek Isles, and the host is very simpatico. Why not get away from all this backbiting and plan for a future dream trip far, far away. The Greeks love children, and you can even get there by water and train and water if you have the time.
 
Oct 6th, 1999, 06:16 PM
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Pat, I think a lot of the negative reaction you got is because your original post has a rather negative cast to it...that is, you indicated that you are bored, tired, derive minimal and short lived satisfaction from areas of the US that many deem extremely beautiful and desirable as vacation destinations, etc.
There's nothing wrong with being bored and tired, seeking stimulation.
But you give the strong impression of being the young blessed American who is ungrateful because of the details you chose to offer. If you edited your note to say you were 35, young mother, no longer working, have visited several SE tourist spots of late and are looking for a change of pace, brief driving trip with some excitement.....you would have received ZERO criticism and only objective suggestions.
So I have to wonder, why did you choose to frame your post with a 'I'm wealthy and hard to please' attitude?
I too am one who has 'made it' financially at a relatively early age, but it doesn't take a PhD in psychology to realize that dangling your good fortune in front of others and then complaining will draw an intensely negative reaction from most observers.
As for your question, it would seem you'll need a major metro area to satisfy your craving for excitement. The obvious candidate is DC. Atlanta is a bit of a hike but has lots to offer. I agree with earlier posts about flying. You should be able to straighten out the ear situation with the help of your pediatrician. Most kids will acclimate pretty well if prepped and occupied appropriately, especially for a 1-2 hour flight. Hope you come up with something suitable.

 

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