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Old Nov 2nd, 2000, 02:40 PM
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sally
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I hope all the negative Nancys here will stay away from the nice B&Bs out there. More room for me!
 
Old Nov 2nd, 2000, 02:47 PM
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CM, you make some very good points as usual. Tip or commission or not, a concierge won't send folks to bad places because it reflects poorly on him/her. Ditto for a B&B owner in my opinion. My reputation is worth far more than a few bucks.

CM, who is DH? He sounds like my kinda guy...service service service!
 
Old Nov 2nd, 2000, 03:01 PM
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From what I read and understood here, people who don't enjoy B&Bs have an issue with the lack of privacy in particular, which I can certainly understand.

As far as the steering and sales, when you go to a hotel concierge, you understand the exact nature of that person's position -- he/she is there to provide information (kickbacks or no kickbacks) and if you don't want to research it yourself, YOU have the option of going to THEM. A B&B owner who tries to sell their guests on local shopping or dining opportunities during breakfast or chat time is not providing a service, particularly when the guests did not ask for it and are not receptive to it. They are engaging in some heavy, unsolicited and unwanted promotion, and I can understand the resentment a guest would feel.
 
Old Nov 2nd, 2000, 03:29 PM
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John, Sorry, DH is BB lingo for "dear husband". gt;
 
Old Nov 2nd, 2000, 03:41 PM
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I'm amazed - though I'm sure there are bad B&Bs out there, I've never stayed in one, and I've stayed in zillions. It's a much nicer way to travel. I've never had experiences even close to what have been described, and would always stay in a B&B over a hotel.

That said, there certainly is less privacy in some B&Bs. They lack the anonymity of motels, which is both good and bad.
 
Old Nov 2nd, 2000, 04:38 PM
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Being an extremely extraverted person, I find nothing appealing about a hotel or motel. If you want privacy go to a deserted island. At a hotel you are just another face. It stinks. After doing extensive research for a B&B, I find them personable, warm, very informative, & in the morning I don't have to go looking for a place to eat. Also, I get to meet new people from all over the world. And a lot of times when I come back after doing my "touring", I can relax on the porch with a good book, go soak in a hot tub, get to know the owners, etc. I can't get comfortable being stuck in a room, or a stuffy & noisy lobby. And I've found the security at most hotels (upscale or not) leave a lot to be desired. And lastly, coming back to a B&B at the end of the day & finding desserts & drinks waiting for you is great.
 
Old Nov 2nd, 2000, 06:35 PM
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I didn't read all replies so I'm not sure if someone already said what I have to say. But in my experience with B & Bs, it seems that the more rooms it has the more of an "inn" or hotel feel it has as opposed to feeling like you're staying in someone elses home in one of their guest bedrooms. I like places that have about 10 rooms because you are not so obvious.

I've never met anyone at breakfast that I didn't like either. I've gleaned valuable information from other guests as to area attractions.

Make sure you find out whether or not each room has its own bathroom, many of them do, especially the bigger ones. Some places will even deliver breakfast to your room to eat in private. Some places also have wine and snacks in the evening included in the price which is something you rarely get at hotels.
 
Old Nov 2nd, 2000, 10:14 PM
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In my own experience, B&Bs are more for people who are concerned about their own image and status rather than in actually experiencing a place. They bring their nicest clothes on vacation and spend lots of time window shopping and eating at expensive restaurants downtown. We call them the Ahwahnee Types in our family. Those are the types of people who go to Yosemite, wear all their fabulous clothes and jewels, and spend all their time strolling and gazing at the great outdoors from the environs of the Ahwahnee Hotel. Heaven forbid they should actually put foot outside. Might smudge a designer shoe.

We don't expect or want to spend a lot of time in our room, so all the frilly amenities of a B&B are just extras that we don't need. I'd rather have a phone and T.V. in the room than snacks and wine in the afternoon. We always travel with a cooler and bring our own food...we only eat out once a day, if that. We eat our own food for breakfast, then go out and see all the sights all day. We also tend to visit National Parks and outdoorsy places, so when we return from a full day's activity, like hiking, we're dirty and tired. And I don't want to get gussied up after a long day just to sit in someone's parlor and sip wine. If we wanted that, we could go out to a bar or cafe or just buy a bottle of wine at a local store. Nor do I want some "extrovert" yammering in my ear during breakfast or any other time. Yeesh.



 
Old Nov 3rd, 2000, 12:42 AM
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We've stayed at hundreds of B&Bs in the US and Canada and have had good experiences in 98% of them (maybe 99%). I always do lots of research for our trips and find out quite a lot about the B&Bs and area before I book anywhere. We have never had any problem with the way a B&B looks or is decorated. The only (and RARE) problems we have had were in 3 different B&Bs with the hosts....twice with the husband of the main host (the woman) and once with a host couple. In all cases it seemed to have been a problem of host burn-out...too many years of too many guests can make some hosts crabby. I think once a B&B host is unhappy with their job, they should sell the place and get out of the business. 98% of the hosts were very nice though and clearly still having fun running their B&B.

We prefer B&Bs where the hosts live in the house as then they are around if you have questions. We have never heard any children or noise from any host or their families. I love to stay in B&Bs as they are so much more "homey" and warm than stark impersonal hotels or motels. I feel much more like I am at home than in some cookie cutter hotel room. I greatly prefer B&Bs where you eat breakfast in your room or at separate tables......I am not too fond of the group table for all people in the B&B, but most of the time if we have that it's okay. I leave the breakfast earlier than my husband and go have my last coffee outside in peace. The only negative IMO to B&Bs is that most do not allow pets so we have to leave our pets at home with a housesitter which I don't like to do. I wish many more B&Bs allowed well behaved pets. When we find one that does we often go back there repeatedly.

One comment about a reply above.......that was quite a laugh I got from this AOL. Com person right above my post. I have never window shopped in my life (I despise shopping of any sort), I never wear fancy clothes at B&Bs (or anywhere), I could give 2 cents for any status or image and our #1 activity on ALL our trips is hiking which we are out doing most of the day, everyday (cold nor rain never stop us). When we aren't doing that we are rafting or biking or swimming etc etc. And we stay in B&Bs a lot..so that shoots down your silly stereotype in flames. When we come back from 12+ mile hike, sitting in a hot tub with a glass of wine that our B&B host carries out to us is quite nice...lots better than Motel 6 with the TV blaring and a cooler full of cheap wine coolers.
 
Old Nov 3rd, 2000, 05:09 AM
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Folks, folks, this is a decent topic that is silly to get in a family squabble over. Reminds me of argument my kids once had: "I hate basketball." "You should like basketball, it's a great game." "It's a great game, but I don't like it." "Well, you're wrong..."

The essence of the problem here is that the term "B&B" covers such a wide range of accommodations -- from a back room in a person's house to a small but very elegant inn. Trashing the "kind of people" who stay in B&B's -- OR the kind of people who don't -- is unnecessary and doesn't really add a thing to the discussion.

I stayed in a "personal home" B&B on a vacation in a rural part of the country I'd never visited before. I was at leisure and open to learning about the people and the area. I lucked out and was in a great home with a great person and fantastic cook who prepared a different, gourmet breakfast every morning. But I admit that making conversation at breakfast became a bit of a burden after a day or two. And I realized that I didn't always want to have to deal with other people's idea of breakfast hours, night lights, shower temperature, etc. I might do that again if I were on a very, very tight budget, or traveling overseas or particularly interested in getting local connections for some reason (a mag. article or some such).

On the other hand, I truly adore the "small inn" type of B&B. I've discovered that I can tell you exactly where the bed, the TV, the closet, and the bathroom are in every last Holiday Inn, Hyatt, Doubletree Inn, etc. Nothing hammers in the sense that you are just another member of the traveling herd like walking into one of those places after a long day. And having completely forgotten what room I was in one night because one hotel looked exactly like the last, I now dread paying big bucks for same-old, same-old.
With a "small inn" B&B, no two rooms are alike (although they do all seem to subscribe to the same Martha-Steward/Laura Ashley school of decorating), no two hallways are alike, and there are often wonderful surprises like fireplaces that work or little balconies with an unexpected view. The desk people are often particularly helpful because they only have to deal with 20 or 40 guests. And there is usually a long enough period allowed to get to breakfast that I don't feel tied to anyone's schedule. On the other hand, if I want to, there are usually some interesting people in the breakfast people to talk to. I've met a semi-famous British playwright, a German journalist, and various other people NOT in town for market research or the Shriner's convention (with all due respect).

Particularly in cities where hotel costs are through the roof -- Boston, NY, San Fran. -- I am thrilled to find a _recommended_ B&B of this sort, thanks to contributors here. I just wish fewer people feel the way I do, though, because these small hotels have now been discovered and have gotten seriously pricey. When I first "discovered" the Newbury Guest House in Boston, a room was $65 and parking was $10/day (a bargain all by itself in Boston). It's now at least double that, and it's always booked up when I call.

So if you don't like B&B's, don't stay in one. But don't decide everyone else is nuts based on limited experience. No one would have enjoyed the bad experiences some of you had. But I've also had horrendous experiences in hotel chains -- parties, ice makers that sounded like howitzers, stifling heat or polar chill, ptomaine from the food, and the occasional fire down the hall.

 
Old Nov 3rd, 2000, 06:57 AM
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Michelle, I got a great kick out of Pam's post as well, because if you'll notice mine is the one above hers to which I believe some of her comments refer. I hate to window shop too, and the last time I went to a B&B my husband & I wore jeans to breakfast. We went to a B&B because we left our 2 young kids at home for a rare anniversary trip together. We thought it would be nice to stay in a B&B since we didn't have our kids with us.

We do plenty of traveling when we bring our own cooler of stuff and eat cereal bars and bags of cheerios for breakfast.

The place we stayed in happened to have a better location to the attractions we wanted to see than any other hotel or motel. We spent most of the time we weren't in the room outside and hiking.

The wine was a nice treat for our rare "adult" oriented weekend. Anybody can buy their own wine anytime they want and haul it around, but since we flew into this particular destination, it was one less thing to bother with. Oh, and the wine sure tasted good after our hike. We went straight to the wine and snacks, sweaty and in jeans and hiking shoes. No one cared.

B&Bs aren't for everyone all the time, but for us it was a nice treat in a great location without kids. Who would someone staying in a B&B be showing status to? We were thousands of miles from home, no one knew us there - who would we possibly be trying to impress?

Everyone has there own idea of what makes good vacations for them. And no one way is better or worse, more right or more wrong than another.
 
Old Nov 3rd, 2000, 07:47 AM
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In the Neal Sanders thread about vacation homes, it came out that some are vacation home people and others are not. I think it applies here.

I always felt like an intruder in someone's home when I've stayed at a B&B. Yes, I do realize I was customer, but it's still the feeling I get. So now I stay at hotels. I LIKE the fact I know I'm getting the same amenities as every other hotel in the chain. At least it's one thing I can depend on.

To John, the B&B owner, do you take vacations at other B&B's or at hotels? Are you open 7 nights a week or only on certain days? I'm just curious how a B&B operates.
 
Old Nov 3rd, 2000, 09:31 AM
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For me B&Bs are where we go when we want to get away from it all and have a romantic evening. We tend not to stay in them generally - ony for special occasions. Otherwise we stay at a Super 8 type place or we camp because we would rather spend our money on other things besides accomodations. But, to each their own. We always research the B&Bs before we stay at them even calling the owners with questions.
 
Old Nov 3rd, 2000, 10:18 AM
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Very interesting thread and one that my friends and I have discussed just recently. I can really see the attraction of a B&B if you are a truly extraverted personality or for many other reasons- like wanting to get a first hand review or exposure to the local color/ culture. But there are very many people who are NOT B&B people. One couple we love (long time friends) are not able to get by the
points mentioned in all the above posts- like privacy, apparent dress codes, breakfast timing etc. But we are NOT snooty and don't own a designer anything- but love a great B&B on a very special occasion. NOTHING is like
a unique and personal viewing of a historic place in the evening with a glass of wine in hand and a genial host as your tour guide. Saying that, we only stay at a B&B after HUGE amounts of research and usually first hand experience from a frequent user. We are super friendly people and I have to admit that most people are not as talky as we are. They truly don't want to be "bothered" by anyone else on their vacation. Don't know if it is still doing business but stayed at a wonderful B&B near South Haven, Michigan called Pebble House. Made the whole trip a life-long memory. Don't think the most ***** hotel in the area could have come close and cost about
$125 a night. We got our own little summer house complete with hammocks, that we used. Gardens and cottages, main house all with furniture etc. over 100 years old. Host was delightful. Don't think most middle class Americans can deal with conversation instead of tv anymore, for some reason. Have never had anyone try to sell us anything in a B&B. Don't forget that it takes being a friend, to make friends.
 
Old Nov 3rd, 2000, 12:33 PM
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Hi x,
When I travel, I sometimes use hotels and sometimes use B&Bs. I'm not an "all or nothing" guy. Also, some cities simply don't have very good B&B selections while others (New Orleans, Charleston, Savannah, Key West) are FULL of high quality inns.

My particular B&B is open 7 days a week, 350 or so days a year. We rarely have "empty" days but it does happen every now and then.

Again, I love the people I meet and I want them to enjoy their visit to our city even if it's for an awful business trip! (smile)
 
Old Nov 3rd, 2000, 02:54 PM
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Please allow me to set a few things straight here about B&B's. There are a wide range of B&B's in existence. You CAN have privacy if you want it. You CAN have a separate eating area from the rest of the guests there if you so desire. And NO, we do not wear designer clothes & in the evening sit around trying to impress one another while imbibing ourselves with wine(I've never seen alcohol at a B&B). And we could care less about image, status, & going window shopping (BORING!!!). ALL the people that I've ever encountered at a B&B were down-to-earth, simplistic, mostly middle class, & are just looking for a comfortable homey atmosphere with people similiar to them to share the experience with, along with a just a touch of luxury to add to the visit. Some B&B's do allow children, but most do not prefer pets. I do however like the B&B's that have a pet or two on the premises.
 
Old Nov 3rd, 2000, 03:11 PM
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I think Pam's post says more about her than it does about people who use B&Bs. I for one don't fall into her stereotype, and most of the people I know who frequent B&Bs don't either. Pam needs to deal with her inferiority complex.

That said, I do tend to prefer small "B&B Inns", as several posters above have mentioned. They do a nice mix of privacy and interaction - you can be as isolated as you wish.

And for cheap - I prefer Motel 6 - it's usually cheapest

 
Old Nov 6th, 2000, 04:35 AM
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Living in Detroit, we often vacation in Canada which is right across the river. We have done bed and breakfasts in Stratford and Toronto, all the way up to P.E.I. This thread got me thinking about our B&B experiences. I remember more negative ones than positive. There was the time the plumbing woke everyone up when I flushed. Then I tiptoed upstairs and got in bed with my husband and the bed collapsed in a heap! The "gourmet" breakfast that looked like last week's warmed-over hash, served by a hostess with pink foam curlers in her hair and whose potbelly peeked out from under her tight t-shirt (I am NOT making this up). Then there was the time on P.E.I. when we paid $110 to stay in the last available room - a tiny cluttered bedroom, complete with a crocheted doll toilet paper cover, the bed slanted down at the head, and baby diapers on the stairs. Granted, that one was our fault, we didn't plan ahead. On the plus side, if you are sincerely interested in people and getting the feel of an area this is definitely for you.
 
Old Nov 6th, 2000, 07:15 AM
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MMM and Maggi bring back memories of the one trip my dear husband and I took to a B&B. We thought we were going to have a romantic getaway away from all the cares of the world. We picked an "adults only" place that would not accept pets (hubby has cat allergies).

Well, the policies were for the guests only. The owner's child was in the middle of a tantrum when we arrived and my husband almost immediately said, "there's a cat here" as he was swelling up and turning red. Hubby went outside as I tried to explain we couldn't stay there because of the cat. Owner didn't understand why we didn't like fluffy (gee, a nearly dead guest???) and refused to not charge us for evening. I asked why it wasn't mentioned about house child since children weren't allow and about the cat too. At that point all I cared about was my husband's health and said something to the effect of keep the stinking money, my husband's life is more important.

After the two hour drive back home, we did enjoy quiet time together since everyone thought we were away.
 
Old Nov 6th, 2000, 09:58 AM
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Though this is very unscientific, many people here have had bad expericences with B&B's. The people who responded with favorable experiences state they did HUGE amounts of research. That might be fine for a honeymoon or something, but my guess is most people on vacation don't want to worry about accomadations in addition to everything else.

What does it take (besides local zoning and an advertising budget) to operate a B&B? What should the B&B disliking public look for if we ever decide to change our minds and stay the night at a B&B?
 


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