Suzie, this baby will definitely change her life, but it is not going to ruin it. We all have dreams and high hopes for our children, but sometimes they get altered. The keyword here is, 'altered'. Try to do some things closer to home, wherever you are. San Diego is not going anywhere...it is just that you will have a stroller and baby car seat the next time you visit... If you start to concentrate on the future, the heaviness in your heart will dissipate.

this is your daughter's problem, not the rest of the family's. make her stay home and take the rest of the family. maybe she will realize the trouble she got herself in. the rest of the family will resent her and the child if you don't take them.

Suzie, glad I could help.

I had a friend in high school who got pregnant when she was 16. She and her boyfriend got married, and they are stilled married (with 2 additional) children) at age 32. She says that of course she wouldn't do it that way again, and they've had some really rough times, but in the end it worked out, and they are a wonderful, happy family. Best of luck to you and your family.

i guess i am not surprised that teenage pregnancy issue hit this board. now where does that leave us: domestic situations about bathing suits, all kinds of raunchy escapades on planes and now this. these are the only reasons i read this!!!!!!!!

Ann is right. Most insurance Cos. will not cover the delivery if it happens outside of the insurance coverage area. My mom had surgery and I travelled to visit her at about 8 mos. pregnant knowing that I would have to pay out of pocket if the baby came early while I was out of town. There are a couple of questions you want to answer before she travels. Is this her first? If not was she early, late or on time with the other pregnancies? If her first, was her mother early, late or on time with all of her pregnancies? Usually the daughter and mother will have similar patterns except where there is an extraneous circumstance. For example, my mom was late with two of her three pregnancies and the one who was on time came after she spent the morning moving heavy furniture around her living room. I was late with all three of my children and I didn't try to move furniture.