Does anyone know of / recommend any lodging (hotel, B&B) on Cape Cod near Provincetown that is pet friendly?

you could try www.takeyourpet.com. Costs a whopping $1.95 to join but lists pet friendly places.

Newt,
According to a 1998 Mass. Tourist Guide the following accept pets:
Holiday Inn, Ptown 508 487 1711, Town Crier Motel, Eastham, 508 255 4000 and Sea Lord Resort Motel, Dennisport 508 398 6900.
Enjoy your trip -
Sandra

any B&B or resorts that people have stayed at with pets? town crier and sea lord sites say they don't take pets, will call to check. thanks.

The Outer Reach Resort in Provincetown is pet friendly. I have never been there, but came across it when looking for a place to stay.

I have family in Ptown and we always stay at the Outer Reach when we descend on them to enjoy their gorgeous part of the world. The location is superb with amazing views of dunes, sea and Ptown itself. Ask for a room in the 30's for the best views - some of these rooms have little decks- but even without one you can walk right out to the lawn and enjoy the view from an old wooden swing. The motel is clean and well run - nothing fancy, but has a very nice outdoor pool and there is a good little restaurant on the property. You are an easy drive to various beaches and in to town. We love this place and would stay there even if we weren't visiting family - enjoy!