NeoPatrick's month in Manhattan
May 21st, 2007, 10:29 AM
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Sure, the theater and the restaurants are great, but what really makes New York fun are the things like the dance parade you stumbled into. All this and the Staten Island Ferry, the Bronx Zoo and Coney Island in one week! Let the good times roll.
May 21st, 2007, 10:33 AM
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SO glad to see this up today !
I love it when I hear things like "contrary to what the experts say" regarding caring for a loved one - - no one, not even the experts, knows exactly what will and won't work for each person b/c each person is different and unique and when a loved one is lucky enough to have a caretaker like you, no one can read that loved one better or give better care - you have no idea how many people I see in my work who follow many of the generalizations and categorizations of people with certain issues
b/c the 'experts think' and never even try - say traveling, eating out, vacations, going to a new place...... I'm so glad you are both enjoying it !
You know how much I love reading your adventures and suggestions -
of course, I am, as you can imagine, drooling that you were at Roberto Passon, I can taste my favorite mouth watering, wafer thin veal as I type this....
I will likely print out your entire month in NYC for my folders! - I am helping my daughter move into her new apt late May and maybe we can try some new restaurants from your list - keep 'em coming!
Or maybe if you are still there I can have the pleasure of meeting you for a cup of coffee -
I love it when I hear things like "contrary to what the experts say" regarding caring for a loved one - - no one, not even the experts, knows exactly what will and won't work for each person b/c each person is different and unique and when a loved one is lucky enough to have a caretaker like you, no one can read that loved one better or give better care - you have no idea how many people I see in my work who follow many of the generalizations and categorizations of people with certain issues
b/c the 'experts think' and never even try - say traveling, eating out, vacations, going to a new place...... I'm so glad you are both enjoying it !
You know how much I love reading your adventures and suggestions -
of course, I am, as you can imagine, drooling that you were at Roberto Passon, I can taste my favorite mouth watering, wafer thin veal as I type this....
I will likely print out your entire month in NYC for my folders! - I am helping my daughter move into her new apt late May and maybe we can try some new restaurants from your list - keep 'em coming!
Or maybe if you are still there I can have the pleasure of meeting you for a cup of coffee -
May 21st, 2007, 12:23 PM
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Great report, I am envious that you can spend one month in New York City, something I am hoping to do someday when I retire.
I had to chuckle when you described Lee having to choose just one dessert. Before my mom went into a long term care nursing facility for Alzheimer's, we used to take her out to some of her favorite restaurants. One night we ordered some beautiful, fresh sashimi as an appetizer, a favorite of hers, served family style. The waiter placed it down and I turned to my wife to ask her a question about the menu. When I turned back, the plate was empty and my mom was sitting there with the most angelic smile you can imagine. Everyone laughed, no way we could get angry about that.
Enjoy the rest of your visit.
I had to chuckle when you described Lee having to choose just one dessert. Before my mom went into a long term care nursing facility for Alzheimer's, we used to take her out to some of her favorite restaurants. One night we ordered some beautiful, fresh sashimi as an appetizer, a favorite of hers, served family style. The waiter placed it down and I turned to my wife to ask her a question about the menu. When I turned back, the plate was empty and my mom was sitting there with the most angelic smile you can imagine. Everyone laughed, no way we could get angry about that.
Enjoy the rest of your visit.
May 21st, 2007, 12:50 PM
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Patrick,
What a wonderful report. I'm so glad you and Lee are enjoying your stay so far.
I agree, Lee is so lucky to have such a caring, patient partner.
I really don't think there's anything wrong with wanting the entire dessert tray. Isn't that normal!!??
What a wonderful report. I'm so glad you and Lee are enjoying your stay so far.
I agree, Lee is so lucky to have such a caring, patient partner.
I really don't think there's anything wrong with wanting the entire dessert tray. Isn't that normal!!??
May 21st, 2007, 02:01 PM
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Wow. Thanks for all the comments. We had a busy day (but you'll have to wait till next week to hear about it). To those who have met Lee and are surprised he qualifies for a 65 year old discount -- he's qualified for almost 12 years now, but we've never bothered to get one before in NYC.
And escargot, you are so right about ignoring the "experts". I went to only one support group meeting and one thing everyone was firm about -- never give them any choices as it will frustrate them. Nonsense. Lee sometimes needs a little nudging to make up his mind, but I believe it's very good for him to still decide which entree he wants or what he wants to do today. He doesn't seem to get frustrated or angry at anything -- and for that I'm extremely lucky and thankful.
Escargot, let me know if you have some free time and sure, we'll do coffee.
My email is patash2atearthlinkdotnet -- you know what to do with that.
And escargot, you are so right about ignoring the "experts". I went to only one support group meeting and one thing everyone was firm about -- never give them any choices as it will frustrate them. Nonsense. Lee sometimes needs a little nudging to make up his mind, but I believe it's very good for him to still decide which entree he wants or what he wants to do today. He doesn't seem to get frustrated or angry at anything -- and for that I'm extremely lucky and thankful.
Escargot, let me know if you have some free time and sure, we'll do coffee.
My email is patash2atearthlinkdotnet -- you know what to do with that.
May 21st, 2007, 03:28 PM
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NeoPatrick: How lovely to come home from work and find you have started your NYC trip report.
The next time we visit our son and he says what would you like to do this time - I'll say 'hop on a subway to Coney Island, sit outside and eat a Nathan chili dog, fries and drink lemonade'. Can not wait.
My mum who lives in the UK is in the early stages of Alzheimer's so very much relate to what you are sharing about Lee. I am so glad you are both having a wonderful time.
Take care and thank you for sharing all the details.
Sandy
The next time we visit our son and he says what would you like to do this time - I'll say 'hop on a subway to Coney Island, sit outside and eat a Nathan chili dog, fries and drink lemonade'. Can not wait.
My mum who lives in the UK is in the early stages of Alzheimer's so very much relate to what you are sharing about Lee. I am so glad you are both having a wonderful time.
Take care and thank you for sharing all the details.
Sandy
May 21st, 2007, 04:36 PM
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Neo, I think there should be a remake of the film It's A Wonderful Life starring you and Lee--you both are an inspiration to me.
As an aside, I'm currently reading an interesting book entitled, "Mindfulness" that speaks to the mind of the elderly and how, when given choices to make for themselves, as opposed to having everything done and decided for them, they live longer, healthier lives. While the book does not reference alzheimer's your assesment of Lee's behaviour is in line with everything I've read.
I look forward to reading more about your trip(s!).
As an aside, I'm currently reading an interesting book entitled, "Mindfulness" that speaks to the mind of the elderly and how, when given choices to make for themselves, as opposed to having everything done and decided for them, they live longer, healthier lives. While the book does not reference alzheimer's your assesment of Lee's behaviour is in line with everything I've read.
I look forward to reading more about your trip(s!).
May 21st, 2007, 06:36 PM
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"he LOVES to travel and seems to do even better when we’re traveling" I cannot help but think that the travelling you two are doing will in some way alleviate the Alzheimers Lee is experiencing. Keeping an active mind and body must surely help. I wish you both a wonderful trip and look forward to hearing more.
May 21st, 2007, 08:10 PM
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Hello Patrick, I just came on to Fodor's tonight and what a joy to read your report of your and Lee's first week in NYC. I love the fact that dear Lee wants all of the desserts, lol, smart fellow our Lee. Thank you for sharing your delightful and fun week with us..your post was such a joy to read. I send a hug to you and to dear Lee.
