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How does one get over the post-vacation blues?

How does one get over the post-vacation blues?

Jul 21st, 1998, 12:36 PM
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Jen Z
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Wow, what a great topic. I, too, had serious post-travel blues. I spent nine weeks backpacking in Europe with a friend when I was twenty-one (1995) and I felt like I needed professional help for about four months after I got back. The first thing I did when I got home was overhaul my closets (luckily I still lived with my parents so I didn't have a whole house to do). I felt like I had too much stuff, and it was all weighing me down, somehow preventing me from getting out there again. I had gotten so used to living out of a backpack. I gave most of my belongings to the Salvation Army. Well, I'm glad I did it, but it wasn't really necessary, just an impulse thing. I also couldn't sleep at night. For two months I had shared a room with countless strangers, and my best friend, and now, in my comfy bed at home with no snoring or coughing or tossing and turning of others, I couldn't sleep! I drove people crazy with my stories, "When I was in Europe...". I wasn't bragging; it was just all I could think about. I even got reprimanded by my boss for being short with people and generally not easy to get along with since my return. It was a nightmare. I did my scrapbook, reread my travel journal about eighteen times, read travel books like _Neither Here, Nor There_ by Bill Bryson. I COULDN'T plan my next trip. I had already taken a semester off from college to take my first trip, and another seemed in the distant, distant future. Thing was, my boyfriend was awfully happy that I was back, and decided he could never live without me again, and proposed! So I got to plan a wedding (we eloped to Maui), and then, with our combined incomes we managed to scrape together enough for a fairly spontaneous honeymoon to Europe, just a year and a bit after I my first trip. If it weren't for the marriage part, I probably would STILL be depressed!!! Now my husband is in school and we definitely can't afford another trip for a long time, and I'm obsessed with travel. It's an itch you can never scratch to your satisfaction. But all the suggestions here will help...even if you plan a trip you can't take any time soon! And this message board sure helps. Good luck!
 
Jul 21st, 1998, 03:47 PM
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I understand your feelings about Europe. I go every year and I have never found it easy to readjust when I come home. Since you plan to be at home raising children for the next few years, I do have some advice on how to keep your trip alive. There are many great books (fiction, biography and travel) with European settings. I don't know where you travelled in Europe, so I can't recommend a specific book. The first time that I visited Florence, I came home and read everything that I could find on Florentine history. It made the city come alive for me. When I visited Florence again this year, I was able to see it in a completely new way. I read before I go and I read more when I come home.
 
Jul 22nd, 1998, 09:54 AM
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I know how you feel, Jen. I have been boring everyone with my stories of "When I was in Europe..." since my return. My husband and I even considered moving to Amsterdam or Florence. I am now reading "Under the Tuscan Sun" about a couple who bought a home in the Tuscan country side. I'll start saving for my Tuscan villa now.
 
Aug 9th, 1998, 03:06 PM
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I know exactly what you are talking about. I took my first European trip (to Rome and Florence) this spring. I was miserable when I had to come home. I watched Roman Holiday and A Room With a View and wept for the first few days. After drying my eyes, I made a list of all the places I've ever wanted to go. I'm headed to Ireland in March. Now when I return from a trip, I can start saving and planning for the next one.
 
Aug 5th, 2000, 09:47 PM
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Be a tourist in your own city- read books about it, find strange restuarants that you've never been to, buy foreign foods and wines.

Learn a language and practise speaking it with your husband- try thinking in it too!

Listen to music in different languages, find penpals in countries you've been to, want to go to, or revisit...

Sigh and dream about beautiful Europe
 
Aug 5th, 2000, 10:10 PM
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Hi Polina, Its been 2 years since you've posted your origional post. I hope you've recovered. If you have already started a family, here is what we did. As our son was growing up we traveled in the US starting with camping trips when he was 9 months old. We've managed to hit 47 states plus some trips to Mexico (Mexico city has a European flaver to it) There a log of fantistic places to visit in the US. No sight in the world matches standing in a grove of Giant Redwoods!! I still pull out my slides occasionally to re-visit places I've been, althouh I now develope to CD's and print using photo paper and put them into a 3 ring binder and can easily look at them any time.
Art
 
Mar 23rd, 2001, 08:00 PM
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interesting topic
 
Mar 24th, 2001, 04:52 PM
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Isn't it like a drug?? I mean, my first trip to Europe was only 8 or 10 days. So getting over it was nothing. But my subsequent trips there were all at least 3 weeks long, and every time I come home it's like trying to get over a bad relationship. Now, every time I SEE a photo of Paris (even one of those Madeline books), I get all weepy. I'm not scheduled for a EuroVacation this year since I changed jobs, so now my system is in total withdrawal mode. boo hoo
 
Mar 24th, 2001, 06:06 PM
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I am going to Paris in two weeks,and as far as what follows, there is not much after. However, the best way to get over the depression of returning to normaility is to change one's view of travel. Rather than seeing travel as escaping reality into another world, and then coming back into it, travel should be seen as moving from one part of the Earth to another. Coming back home, is just moving right across an ocean into an interesting region that has it's own charcteristics, just as the other place did. A traveler from that country would be just as excited going to your house as you would be going to their house.
 
Mar 24th, 2001, 06:38 PM
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Just having returned, I can't say this or any other time have I been depressed. Maybe because I never got to travel or think about myself and my own "choices" when I was young, as those who are young today do- maybe that has made the difference. Maybe not! I look upon every vacation as a great gift given to me and try to plan another, but realize that my greatest gift is here at home. I tell people who do not travel about my trips. Just think of all the positive good will that you can pass along from your experience with another culture. The best way of getting over any blues is to volunteer in your own community and reach out to the lonely.
 
Jan 16th, 2002, 12:33 AM
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to the top!
 
Mar 29th, 2002, 01:25 PM
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Topping for a "blue" friend
 
Mar 29th, 2002, 01:54 PM
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Thanks, Sweet Sal. This was fun to read.
 
Mar 29th, 2002, 02:52 PM
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Thanks, Sweet Sal. This was fun to read.
 
Mar 30th, 2002, 12:36 AM
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Hello, I am sitting at my desk drinking tea and eating buscuits I brought back from London AND reading this and other travel forums. I find using things I purchased, eating goodies I brought back and starting to plan my next trip help. I always love returning to my home, my pets and especially my wonderful bed even though I really enjoy my travels. I also look at real estate in France and dream of a small place there to call my own. I love to travel but at about two weeks start to get homesick. Then I am home about two weeks and want to travel again. Therefore, if I had two homes... or would it not feel like an adventure but just being at home. I still did not have the disipline to get together a travel journal. All my stuff it lumped into various drawers and when I happen across it I stop and look at it with love and longing. I really need to make an albumn. I also found that when I worked five days a week and returned from vacations I really felt down getting back into the rut but when my schedule changed to three days a week and I had more free time, it was much less of a struggle when I returned. I work longer hours but have more days off. Happy travels and just remember to be so thankful for the travel you do get to do.
 
Mar 30th, 2002, 06:06 AM
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Thanks, Grant.
 
Mar 30th, 2002, 07:07 AM
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Boy, this is coming at a time when I have been feeling the same way. I have travelled extensively throughout the US but finally had the chance to travel to europe this past summer. My son had gone to finland the year before on an interchange program with 7 other kids. We were lucky to have their son from finland here first so we grew to appreciate his interests, excitement about the us and fondness for his country so when my son went back with him to his house, he felt pretty comfortable (more so than mom). The best part of the whole story is that the finnish boys mom and I had emailed each other every week before the interchange and continued to do so long after. My son swears that we were "evil twins separated at birth" as Calvin and Hobbs would say. He could not believe how similar we were. Well we continued finding out that we had so much in common that our family decided to visit this past summer. I read this forum religiously, read every book I could, planned everything on the internet and went to denmark, sweden and finally Finland . It was truly the most wonderful experience. The family dicided to drive 2 hours to pick us up from Helsinki and as I got off of the boat from Stockholm, the other mom had the exact same clothes on that I did! We WERE "twins separated from birth!!" This continued the entire wekk. We dressed almost identically every day; it was very strange. They took us everwhere from musuems, to parks, cathedrals and even to the Savonlinna opera in a castle from the 1100's. It was so magical. We cried our eyes out when it was time to go. We agreed that they would visit us this summer but after 9/11, they are going to postpone. Coming home was very strange but we looked at our pictures over and over again, emailed very frequently and tried to also incorporate Scandinavia design/unclutteredness in our home as well as displaying all that we have bought. I am hopeful that we will return because our memories are very special. Thanks for the thread.
 

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