Convince my girlfriend to move to Amsterdam!!!
Jun 10th, 2017, 03:12 PM
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I once gave up a job I loved to move elsewhere with a partner and lived to deeply regret it. Thought I was being brave for love, and instead I was being a fool for love. It set off a chain of events that nearly ruined my life. No way would I encourage your girlfriend to move to Amsterdam unless she had a great job lined up there.
Jun 10th, 2017, 03:17 PM
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No way would I encourage your girlfriend to move to Amsterdam unless she had a great job lined up there.>
He says he makes enough moolah for both - first she needs to somehow get work or resident visa though- no way should she move without that -your 15 sec video could be of the Coster Diamond Museum sayindg she can pick out a ring- and help the immigration process perhaps.
He says he makes enough moolah for both - first she needs to somehow get work or resident visa though- no way should she move without that -your 15 sec video could be of the Coster Diamond Museum sayindg she can pick out a ring- and help the immigration process perhaps.
Jun 10th, 2017, 03:18 PM
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"if she really does not like her job "
Reread the OP. No indication she doesn't like the job. Only the OP's view that she really wants to go - could easily be wishful thinking. If she really wanted to go, she would have already agreed.
Reread the OP. No indication she doesn't like the job. Only the OP's view that she really wants to go - could easily be wishful thinking. If she really wanted to go, she would have already agreed.
Jun 10th, 2017, 04:02 PM
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There are so many variables here. How old is she and the OP is a good place to start.
She may have student loans she's paying off.
Family she's hesitant to leave.
Uncertain of the relationship and where it's truly going.
A video may not persuade her because that's just the place. A video might persuade her to come for a visit but to move and make a commitment, quit a job you love for a guy who may or may not want to make a commitment.
Or perhaps she doesn't want a commitment, just a vacation.
If you're serious about the woman, go see her or make it difficult for her to say no. (offer her a round trip plane ticket during her vacation time)
She may have student loans she's paying off.
Family she's hesitant to leave.
Uncertain of the relationship and where it's truly going.
A video may not persuade her because that's just the place. A video might persuade her to come for a visit but to move and make a commitment, quit a job you love for a guy who may or may not want to make a commitment.
Or perhaps she doesn't want a commitment, just a vacation.
If you're serious about the woman, go see her or make it difficult for her to say no. (offer her a round trip plane ticket during her vacation time)
Jun 10th, 2017, 04:14 PM
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Perhaps Chris is a hit and run - publicizing his .com web site mainly on zillions of forums. But if in the house Chris we have questions that need answered (maybe he's only interested in a video as he said in OP and none have offered that as of yet.
Jun 10th, 2017, 05:02 PM
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Not a single word in your post indicated that you love her, that she is wonderful and that you want to make a life with her and care for her.
You are asking her to give up everything from home to financial security. It seems to be all about you and what you want - a GF while you are in Amsterdam. What are you giving up for her? Nothing! Don't try convincing her to move. Convince her that you love her and are committed to her! If she knew you really loved her and she loved you, you would not have to convince her of anything about Amsterdam.
You are talking babies and are not even engaged. Sure, you want to discuss children before marriage, but why should she care if it is a good place to have babies if she has no commitment of marriage from you? I doubt she wants babies on her own. She might not want to have to have a job and have babies.
I have known quite a few women who left family and jobs to follow a man somewhere. Rarely has it turned out to be good for the woman.
I hope your GF finds someone who is more mature and less self centered.
This song is for you. "If you liked it, you should have put a ring on it."
You are asking her to give up everything from home to financial security. It seems to be all about you and what you want - a GF while you are in Amsterdam. What are you giving up for her? Nothing! Don't try convincing her to move. Convince her that you love her and are committed to her! If she knew you really loved her and she loved you, you would not have to convince her of anything about Amsterdam.
You are talking babies and are not even engaged. Sure, you want to discuss children before marriage, but why should she care if it is a good place to have babies if she has no commitment of marriage from you? I doubt she wants babies on her own. She might not want to have to have a job and have babies.
I have known quite a few women who left family and jobs to follow a man somewhere. Rarely has it turned out to be good for the woman.
I hope your GF finds someone who is more mature and less self centered.
This song is for you. "If you liked it, you should have put a ring on it."
Jun 11th, 2017, 07:02 AM
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He says he makes enough moolah for both - first she needs to somehow get work or resident visa though- no way should she move without that -your 15 sec video could be of the Coster Diamond Museum sayindg she can pick out a ring- and help the immigration process perhaps.
Because that's what women may aspire to nowadays, to be totally dependent on a crackpot husband.
http://www.expatica.com/nl/visas-and...UfamilyMembers
You'd have to marry her first and even then, IND are weary of recent marriages
"For your appointment, you should prepare the following documents:
your valid passport/travel ID;
proof of your relationship with the relative who is the EU/EEA/Swiss citizen (eg. a marriage or partnership certificate, a tenancy agreement to prove you have lived with your partner for at least six months before applying, or a declaration from a recognised authority regarding your relationship);
proof of your relative's lawful residence in the Netherlands (eg. EU registration);
proof that your relative has sufficient funds to cover your stay – see the income requirements here;
proof that you are registered in the Dutch municipal personal records database (BRP).
Foreign documents must be legalised (authenticated) and in Dutch, English, French or German. For information about legalising documents and translation, read how to prepare supporting documents for Dutch visa and permit applications."
Because that's what women may aspire to nowadays, to be totally dependent on a crackpot husband.
http://www.expatica.com/nl/visas-and...UfamilyMembers
You'd have to marry her first and even then, IND are weary of recent marriages
"For your appointment, you should prepare the following documents:
your valid passport/travel ID;
proof of your relationship with the relative who is the EU/EEA/Swiss citizen (eg. a marriage or partnership certificate, a tenancy agreement to prove you have lived with your partner for at least six months before applying, or a declaration from a recognised authority regarding your relationship);
proof of your relative's lawful residence in the Netherlands (eg. EU registration);
proof that your relative has sufficient funds to cover your stay – see the income requirements here;
proof that you are registered in the Dutch municipal personal records database (BRP).
Foreign documents must be legalised (authenticated) and in Dutch, English, French or German. For information about legalising documents and translation, read how to prepare supporting documents for Dutch visa and permit applications."
Jun 11th, 2017, 07:09 AM
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Well with these replies I'm not sure Chris will ever return, but I for one am extremely interested to know if he convinces her to move with him.
Please tell us if your video works & you get her to move to Amsterdam with you for a year!
Please tell us if your video works & you get her to move to Amsterdam with you for a year!
Jun 11th, 2017, 09:39 AM
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Well with these replies I'm not sure Chris will ever return, but I for one am extremely interested to know if he convinces her to move with him.>
who knows if he/she even has a girlfriend but is making it all up for publicizing his web site?
Do we even know if Chris is a male or female or ???
But, a very interesting discussion nevertheless - too bad Chris won't see it - I did not click on the link - is it filled with 15 second sob stories?
who knows if he/she even has a girlfriend but is making it all up for publicizing his web site?
Do we even know if Chris is a male or female or ???
But, a very interesting discussion nevertheless - too bad Chris won't see it - I did not click on the link - is it filled with 15 second sob stories?
Jun 12th, 2017, 05:12 AM
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I'm here!
I did come back.
Yes, that's my website. Fixingthebug.com, I'm a freelancer web app developer. The pic you see it's me and my girlfriend in front of Prada Marfa in Texas, we went there last month.
I'm not a hit and run and I don't need to publicize my website. I have so many paid projects to work on, I don't need more, lol.
However, I wasn't expecting so much disappointment from you.
I thought it was a good idea, and I still think it is. I can work for a good company there while she could relax and enjoy some course at the uni to find a better job when we are back to the US.
That's it!
I did come back.
Yes, that's my website. Fixingthebug.com, I'm a freelancer web app developer. The pic you see it's me and my girlfriend in front of Prada Marfa in Texas, we went there last month.
I'm not a hit and run and I don't need to publicize my website. I have so many paid projects to work on, I don't need more, lol.
However, I wasn't expecting so much disappointment from you.
I thought it was a good idea, and I still think it is. I can work for a good company there while she could relax and enjoy some course at the uni to find a better job when we are back to the US.
That's it!
Jun 12th, 2017, 05:14 AM
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And, of course, the page I've created is here: http://fixingthebug.com/convince-my-girlfriend . There are no virus or malware. At this point, if you don't want to help me at all, don't bother opening it.
Just to make it clear, I'm a real person, and this is my Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/chrisinthedark
Just to make it clear, I'm a real person, and this is my Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/chrisinthedark
Jun 12th, 2017, 05:34 AM
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Hi Chris - I think it cones down to this: Are you thinking of what's good for your girlfriend or just what you want to happen?
Why talk about Amsterdam as being a good place yo have a baby? Especially since you'll be there only for one year, then what? Does your gf want a baby or if so, want to stay home and take care of it in a foreign country and then forever somewhere else? IOW has she stated it's time to start having kids?
Why don't you stay in the US where she has a great job and you can stay at home?
Why talk about Amsterdam as being a good place yo have a baby? Especially since you'll be there only for one year, then what? Does your gf want a baby or if so, want to stay home and take care of it in a foreign country and then forever somewhere else? IOW has she stated it's time to start having kids?
Why don't you stay in the US where she has a great job and you can stay at home?
