<<Barbados is where the person who is paying wanted to go.>>>
Then that's where you should go. If someone was paying for my trip I would expect them to have the final say!

steviegene-
some friends of ours took a trip with extended family like you are planning and used the website below which you might check out if you have not found it already.

I asked her about it today and she said the house they rented (in Mexico but there are listings in many countries) " had a cook,housekeeper , and a hostess" .

www.luxuryretreats.com (they used someone named Marco to help them book something)

schmerl, I agree completely!

ishkribbl, thanks very much for the suggestion! The website is gorgeous!