yes emma, tipping a server in a restaurant is appropriate. It is never appropriate for a guest to tip a server. It is the responsibility of the host to tip or to not tip. If you do not receive a tip at a wedding or banquet you should have a discussion with your employer but you should not have an issue with the guests who are at the mercy of the hosts catering decisions.<BR><BR>I didn't compare waiters to tlelmarketers. I compared YOUR argument that &quot;It's the only job I can get so I'm entitled to whine about it if it doesn't work to my advantage&quot; which is the SAME argument telemarketers use. If you learn to comprehend the written word you may get out of college sooner and into a job with a salary and no tips. I assume you'll then complain that your salary isn't enough to cover all the bills you have. Ok, in that case welcome to the world's not-so-exclusive club!! ; )

Yes, I tip my server in a restaurant. But, at an event where I am paying the caterer THOUSANDS of dollars to handle my busines, I don't expect to have to worry about tipping his employees, which in this case would have been about 40 people between the waiters and bartenders. In addition, restaurant waiters make below the minimum wage, and rely on tips. I guarantee you that if I called my caterer now he would tell me that his event servers earn far more than that and that they are NOT ALLOWED to accept tips. So here is a tip for you. Grow up and lose the attitude. You will be out of a job in no time. And by the way, babysitters in my area make $10 an hour, off the books, and are in HUGE demand nights and weekends. As an added bonus, you will have time to do your homework after the kids are in bed. If you want to earn more money, why don't you look into that while you are still in school?

Emma, you are a very young girl and obvioulsy were not born with the silver spoon in your mouth. Your parents are not &quot;footing&quot; the college expenses, etc. You are entitled to medical insurance while still a student and only 19 years old. I don't get that one. But at any rate, life is tough honey. The person you are waiting on may have problems also that you do not even understand. Maybe he has college costs,medical costs or financial issues as well. I only know, at a wedding, guests do not owe a tip to the server. It is suppose to be taken care. I at my own wedding would not have allowed that to happen. Perhaps banquet waitressing is not a good idea for you to do. Maybe only when you do recieve a tip would make you feel better. Restaurants etc.

Tell the tour guide that you will do more than hand out a tip. Tell him you will talk to the tour company owner in person about not paying his tour guide enought money so that he won't have to guilt trip and hassel the tourists into handing over more money.<BR><BR>I think he will get the message and he has probably already been warned about begging for tips.