5-6 months to live, wants to spend month on Maui
Dec 28th, 2013, 11:34 PM
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5-6 months to live, wants to spend month on Maui
Daughter, age 54, has 5-6 months to live. Wants to spend month on Maui.
i cannot afford 'usual" motel prices. Her illness has used lots of our money for things not covered by insurance. A friend will pay her airfare. Regular travel agents are not much help.
Don't know where to begin..
i cannot afford 'usual" motel prices. Her illness has used lots of our money for things not covered by insurance. A friend will pay her airfare. Regular travel agents are not much help.
Don't know where to begin..
Dec 29th, 2013, 07:00 AM
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my heart goes out to you ...
my husband has just been looking at condos in waikiki through vrbo site and has used them when skiing in canada so is happy to recommend the site
definitely reach out to the individual owners...some may have more of a heart than just a head for business
condos are definitely cheaper than hotel rooms
every good wish to your daughter and you and loved ones
theres nothing anyone can say really that doesnt sound trite or cliched...just know that this sort of story stirs us all..strangers or not..we are all touched by your circumstances and send you strength love and healing
my husband has just been looking at condos in waikiki through vrbo site and has used them when skiing in canada so is happy to recommend the site
definitely reach out to the individual owners...some may have more of a heart than just a head for business
condos are definitely cheaper than hotel rooms
every good wish to your daughter and you and loved ones
theres nothing anyone can say really that doesnt sound trite or cliched...just know that this sort of story stirs us all..strangers or not..we are all touched by your circumstances and send you strength love and healing
Dec 29th, 2013, 02:18 PM
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Tough time of year, Jan and Feb is popular for whale watching, March brings the spring breakers. Here is one that apparently has the month of March open:
http://www.homeaway.com/vacation-rental/p12777vb
http://www.homeaway.com/vacation-rental/p12777vb
Dec 29th, 2013, 02:44 PM
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This site has aerials and reviews of most lodgings in Hawaii: www.hawaiirevealed.com Good idea to contact a realtor or vacation rental agent. Also look on www.vrbo.com to rent from an owner.
Bello Realty is good in South Maui. Chase 'n Rainbows is good in West Maui. Look at this agency for South Maui: www.crhmaui.com
Three areas with less expensive lodgings are Kahana in West Maui and Maalaea and North Kihei in South Maui.
Rates are high for condos and rental cars through mid-April due to Whale Season.
Bello Realty is good in South Maui. Chase 'n Rainbows is good in West Maui. Look at this agency for South Maui: www.crhmaui.com
Three areas with less expensive lodgings are Kahana in West Maui and Maalaea and North Kihei in South Maui.
Rates are high for condos and rental cars through mid-April due to Whale Season.
Dec 30th, 2013, 10:21 AM
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I am sorry to hear you very sad news.
You can check the Trip Advisor Maui forum (not the "reviews" section, but the regular forum like this one).
VRBO (vacation rental by owner) is the website most often mentioned for renting an apartment.
Because of your special situation I think contacting a local agent is also a good idea.
You can check the Trip Advisor Maui forum (not the "reviews" section, but the regular forum like this one).
VRBO (vacation rental by owner) is the website most often mentioned for renting an apartment.
Because of your special situation I think contacting a local agent is also a good idea.
Jan 4th, 2014, 07:55 AM
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Many condolences, as this must be a very difficult time for all of you.
I don't mean to sound like the only naysayer here, but I have extensive experience in this arena. My husband and I both work directly with cancer patients every day so we have seen first hand how much they suffer, and also what happens at the end of their lives. Many people like to take end of life trips but a lot of times those trips end up in disasters. The smoother experiences are those where family and friends have time to visit and revisit and reminisce old memories fondly, until it is just time to rest it out at the end.
Some things to consider might be medical care when you are there. We once had a patient who did something similar to this exact idea. She knew she was approaching death and took her "last vacation" to Hawaii. While she was there, she suffered extreme difficulties with her health. She ended up having to go to the hospital while there and although the medical resources there were adequate because of her extensive medical condition and prior relationships with her doctors and staff throughout her illness, she did not receive the care she might have otherwise received closer to home. Difficult decisions had to be made far, far from home without the input of trusted individuals, or at least without their informed input (being able to look at her actual vital signs, records, etc). It was a trying time for all.
In the end she was transferred back to the mainland a week before her death. Getting her transferred was a sticky situation because she had to be stable enough for the transfer and that alone was a difficulty. While on the long plane ride she experienced health problems. Once home she was too sick to receive any "last days" visitors and passed away within a week.
In the end, what was supposed to be a last vacation ended up being three days of "becoming gravely ill" - she did not get to enjoy very much of Hawaii -- and an extended stay in an ICU unit far away from home.
I don't know what your daughter's condition is, but I would make sure you have consulted her physicians about this plan and thought carefully through the "what ifs."
If you do decide to take our trip anyway, I wish you a smooth and relaxing time, and I hope your daughter has plenty of time to soak in every ounce of God's beautiful creation before the end of her life. And I hope every thought of her will be preserved brightly in your memory forevermore. Much love to you.
I don't mean to sound like the only naysayer here, but I have extensive experience in this arena. My husband and I both work directly with cancer patients every day so we have seen first hand how much they suffer, and also what happens at the end of their lives. Many people like to take end of life trips but a lot of times those trips end up in disasters. The smoother experiences are those where family and friends have time to visit and revisit and reminisce old memories fondly, until it is just time to rest it out at the end.
Some things to consider might be medical care when you are there. We once had a patient who did something similar to this exact idea. She knew she was approaching death and took her "last vacation" to Hawaii. While she was there, she suffered extreme difficulties with her health. She ended up having to go to the hospital while there and although the medical resources there were adequate because of her extensive medical condition and prior relationships with her doctors and staff throughout her illness, she did not receive the care she might have otherwise received closer to home. Difficult decisions had to be made far, far from home without the input of trusted individuals, or at least without their informed input (being able to look at her actual vital signs, records, etc). It was a trying time for all.
In the end she was transferred back to the mainland a week before her death. Getting her transferred was a sticky situation because she had to be stable enough for the transfer and that alone was a difficulty. While on the long plane ride she experienced health problems. Once home she was too sick to receive any "last days" visitors and passed away within a week.
In the end, what was supposed to be a last vacation ended up being three days of "becoming gravely ill" - she did not get to enjoy very much of Hawaii -- and an extended stay in an ICU unit far away from home.
I don't know what your daughter's condition is, but I would make sure you have consulted her physicians about this plan and thought carefully through the "what ifs."
If you do decide to take our trip anyway, I wish you a smooth and relaxing time, and I hope your daughter has plenty of time to soak in every ounce of God's beautiful creation before the end of her life. And I hope every thought of her will be preserved brightly in your memory forevermore. Much love to you.
Jan 4th, 2014, 10:41 AM
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Like Sanibella, I have had reservations about your daughter's plan.
We've been visiting Maui to escape Chicagoland winters for many years -- the last 15 years on Maui. Although this is a state, it doesn't have great medical facilities; many people return to the mainland for any major medical needs. People on the outer islands go to Honolulu for even minor things.
My mother suffered an extended death due to leukemia before excellent hospice services were available. She was in and out of hospital frequently during her last six months. As much as she enjoyed Hawaii, we would have been frantic out here. Although I see many frail Seniors here, I don't know what facilities exist today. This is the sort of thing I would check out before making plans to come. I know hospital equipment can be rented, but I don't know about nursing or other home care services.
I hope your family can draw together as your dear daughter passes. Slower deaths at least provide some *time*. Our son's best friend since childhood died suddenly this autumn of a blood clot in his brain. He left a wife, two children, and his parents to grieve in shock, with much left unsaid.
We've been visiting Maui to escape Chicagoland winters for many years -- the last 15 years on Maui. Although this is a state, it doesn't have great medical facilities; many people return to the mainland for any major medical needs. People on the outer islands go to Honolulu for even minor things.
My mother suffered an extended death due to leukemia before excellent hospice services were available. She was in and out of hospital frequently during her last six months. As much as she enjoyed Hawaii, we would have been frantic out here. Although I see many frail Seniors here, I don't know what facilities exist today. This is the sort of thing I would check out before making plans to come. I know hospital equipment can be rented, but I don't know about nursing or other home care services.
I hope your family can draw together as your dear daughter passes. Slower deaths at least provide some *time*. Our son's best friend since childhood died suddenly this autumn of a blood clot in his brain. He left a wife, two children, and his parents to grieve in shock, with much left unsaid.
