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Gretchen Jan 3rd, 2006 07:40 AM

GoTravel's idea is on point--beautiful. However, they have a beach club on Pawley's Island where you can get married right on the beach. The plantation house is SO pretty, and there is a connected restaurant. We went to a wedding doing just this.
But since there will be just 4 of you, you do have a pretty wide open field, assuming they can handle the fares.

fiestygoat Jan 4th, 2006 09:26 PM

All of you are so awesome!!! I appreciate all the ideas and will continue to update you on where we chose.
Again thank you so much. Forget these bride books and such-when I have you all.
Thanks again!!

beanweb24 Jan 5th, 2006 04:37 AM

How about Napa Valley...

http://www.aubergedusoleil.com/

sylvia3 Jan 5th, 2006 06:51 AM

By the way, I think it takes more than "one of you" to be Catholic to get married in a Catholic church. Rules have changed since the (late 70s, I think) church started recognizing other religion's marriages...but call your local CC to check before you start looking for a place you want but can't have...

LLindaC Jan 5th, 2006 09:38 AM

Sylvia, non-Catholics can marry in the church provided that they haven't been married before or if they have, that they've received an annulment. They often skip the full mass in that case. However, most Catholic churches require a couple to go through training/counseling prior to the wedding, so that might be a factor.

GoTravel Jan 5th, 2006 09:40 AM

Linda, I just thought you could not have been married in the Catholic Church previously. I didn't think the church cared if you were previously married in another religious or non-secular cerimony.

sylvia3 Jan 5th, 2006 09:48 AM

Nope, you most certainly have to get an annulment these days if one of you was ever married non-Catholic. PLUS, that annulment has to be through the Vatican (!) and costs a pretty penny. AND the ex of the annuled-to-be has to agree the marriage was never a true marriage. Good luck with that, especially if there were kids. How do I know? I haven't stepped foot into a Catholic Church since they told me all this, and I decided to go to another faith for my ceremony.

mah1980 Jan 5th, 2006 09:56 AM

It actually makes it worse if you were married before in a civil or non-Catholic ceremony.

Getting an annulment in the Catholic Church is nearly impossible. It takes years upon years, which has angered some politicians (i think ted kennedy got an annulment).

yale Jan 5th, 2006 10:22 AM

I'm in Colorado and would not recommend Saint Malo - sorry, I thought it looked intriquing too until I visited. It's rather dark inside and right off the highway.

You'll only have 2 other people with you? You could get married anywhere... are there any places you've always wanted to visit? I think Hawaii would be great for a small wedding like that.

Here are ideas on locations in Colorado.

This one is probably good for your small group size and they do weddings.
Romantic Riversong B&B
http://www.romanticriversong.com/

For more traditional sizes:
Arrowhead Golf Club - this is a public course, but seems private. The scenery is awesome and they will marry you outside the clubhouse. The clubhouse is small and holds smaller groups well. The food is excellent.
http://www.golfcolorado.com/linkfram...-frameset.html

Evergreen Lake House - beautiful location and log home feel. Kind of a pain to reserve I think.
http://www.evergreenrecreation.com/elhc_rental.html

Beano's Cabin - Beaver Creek - http://beavercreek.snow.com/info/win...din.beanos.asp





wtm003 Jan 5th, 2006 11:04 AM

Mah1980, I have to disagree with you that it is nearly impossible to get an annulment in the Catholic Church. I have had friends that have received annulments from the Catholic Church in 6 months or less. In fact, the Vatican has been unhappy with the number of American Catholics granted annulments.

LLindaC Jan 5th, 2006 04:46 PM

Oh gee, this is a travel link, but friends, I am a former Protestant turned Catholic who got Archdiocese music certification so I really am an expert at this! I got an annulment in one year. I paid about 200 dollars for processing fees, etc, which was entirely voluntary and isn't really bad because they literally contacted every person who knew me or was related to me when I got married to a Catholic in 1977. Many of them chose not to cooperate. They never tell you that info. The questions they ask you are brutal, but it was an experience which caused me to look into my soul. Annulment is misunderstood by most. It doesn't mean your children are illegitimate, etc. It means that you weren't fully prepared or committed to the responsibility and many, many more things. Until you talk to a very good priest, you may not understand. I got an annulment not to remarry, but to join the church! my husband isn't Catholic, we weren't married in the church, but I am a Catholic and can receive communion. Okay, that's enough, LOL! if anyone has questions, email me at [email protected] and i will happily answer them.

sylvia3 Jan 5th, 2006 05:43 PM

The problem is, many are indeed fully prepared and/or committed when they first marry, but things change(esp if you marry as a young person). As a Catholic trying to marry a divorced non-Catholic, I can say, from experience, it was no simple $200 and 6 months. It was a ridiculous, money-centric, STUPID procedure that involved trying to get people to say things that weren't true. It caused me to bail, and I was raised strictly in the faith. Opened my eyes. (But I suppose everyone's experience is different--I, for example, only had yardsticks broken on my desk by irate nuns, never had my ears pulled as my brother did. Did him good.)

sylvia3 Jan 5th, 2006 05:45 PM

p.s. If you can buy an annulment to a sacred solemn ceremoney, just a different faith, in 6 months with $200, what does that tell you?

virginia Jan 5th, 2006 06:12 PM

sorry for any confusion re saint malo. i am not catholic and was reporting the information they have posted on their website. it is not a church with a congregation rather a chapel for retreat, roadside stops to reflect and weddings.
the road is a quiet one even by colo standards and i found the relative darkness to be cool and comforting on the hot summer day i was there. i am accustomed to the older, darker churches of he east coast.
i personally would opt for the islands.

sobolik Jan 5th, 2006 07:01 PM

MAMMOTH CAVE, a cave in Kentucky, U.S., about 10 m., the largest in the world, and rising at one point to 300 ft. in height, with numerous side branches leading into grottoes traversed by rivers, which here and there collect into lakes; name also of another of smaller dimensions in California.

wtm003 Jan 5th, 2006 07:15 PM

Fiestygoat, I can't recommend a specific cabin etc., but if you are looking out west, Jackson Hole, WY is gorgeous. One of my favorite areas!

Virginia you are right St. Malo is a beautiful chapel. When I attended summer camp there many years ago we had to attend morning mass every day. What torture for pre-teens!

Sylvia, the price of an annulment has gone up. I was a witness several years ago and my friend paid $600. The questions I had to answer were inane.

LLindaC Jan 6th, 2006 05:59 AM

Mammoth Cave is really awesome, but I'm not sure if that would work. They have scheduled tours and times and only use the lights during those times. Also, the temperature is 55 degrees year round, so wear long sleeves!

sylvia3 Jan 6th, 2006 06:03 AM

For the record, I was quoting another poster's price of $200; it would have cost me WAY more than $600, even way back when, and it would have taken (according to my priest) about a year. IF it was approved. Ah, the price of love...

finngirl2 Jan 12th, 2006 10:51 PM

How wonderful to be so flexible!! If you are looking for natural beauty, here are the places that spring to my mind:

Moraine Lake in Banff (Canada)
http://www.morainelake.com

Yosemite - in the Chapel, at the Ahwahnee, at Glacier Point - all beautiful. . .
http://yosemiteweddings.com/locations/ywlocations.html

Big Sur (I agree with the post about Ventana and the Post Ranch, but you could also consider the Ragged Point Inn, which also has a gorgeous setting and is a bit less pricey.)
www.raggedpointinn.com

Lake Tahoe
http://www.edgewood-tahoe.com/

Princeville Resort in Kauai (photos cannot do this place justice)
http://www.princeville.com/index-flash.html

I am also planning my wedding and would LOVE to get married in any one of these places, but have too many out-of-town guests to consider. Best of luck to you!!


fiestygoat Jan 16th, 2006 02:14 AM

Thank you so much for all your replies. We have settled on a location in Canada:
Moraine Lake in Banff (Canada)
http://www.morainelake.com

finngirl2 sent this to me and we have fallen in love with this location.

Again thank you.


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