Message from CAPH52 on FFRR
 

Thought many of you would want to know the update.

I saw her update and noticed the thread was shut down, so I'm glad I can respond here.

Thanks for the update CAPH and although you do have a battle ahead of you, at least you have the knowledge that it can be treated and look forward to many future travels.

We'll be thinking of you.

I know it was not about travel per se, but it is weird that they freeze a post of good wishes to a fellow Fodorite but leave threads like what to do in a bidet running..all a matter of taste I guess, but I don't see why the FFRR was frozen.
Good Wishes to Mr CAPH52!

Yes, CAPH, and here's another one:

My partner in the late '90's when I was finishing a M.Counseling degree program was a beautiful 25 year old red head who got this diagnosis half way through our rotation. I worked with her in our clinical partnership through it all for 2 years after that, and saw her weekly through her treatment.

She now just had a little girl of her own. And she is as happy as a clam.

Thanks, Statia and JJ5. As I told Scarlett, I love hearing those survival stories!

I missed this thread's subject But I hope that CAPH52 will sail through as others I know have.

Hi CAPH, I do not know why FFRR's was frozen, very strange.

CAPH, we had a family member with the same problem and the Dr's actually told her she did not have long to live. Well how wrong they were! She lived to a grand old age. And you cannot imagine how many trips she took over the years. Each trip we received a letter from her advising where we should travel to next. How she would have loved Fodors, and how you would have loved her! And she saw her children married, saw grandbaby's born and graduating from H.S.

Again dear one, you are in my thoughts and prayers - you all are. And I will say to you again, I am in awe of you, you are a very strong woman. Peace.

Thanks, cigalechanta and LoveItaly. LoveItaly, let's just say I'm doing everything in my power to pretend to be a strong woman right now. I certainly appreciate your words of encouragement!

And, as it turns out, I can make this travel-related! Two or three months ago, before this nightmare began, my son went online and ordered tickets for the Brewers/Twins game in Milwaukee this coming Sunday. Last weekend, in an effort to be optimistic, I spent hours trying to find us a room in Milwaukee for Saturday night. Wound up with two reservations! My apologies to the people who feel that's unethical. But there was very little available. These are in two very different areas, didn't know which to go with, etc. Anyway, the plan was that we would drive up on Saturday and have a belated Father's Day dinner at one of the great German restaurants in Milwaukee (as I mentioned somewhere on this board, my son had two baseball games this past Sunday), spend the night and go to the game on Sunday.

As we were leaving the doctor's office today, having decided that my husband would start chemo on Friday, I said that I guessed we'd better cancel the reservations for Saturday. My husband said, based on what the doctor had said, he thought we should still plan on going! We talked about it and decided which one to cancel right away. And, of course, I can cancel the other up until 6:00 Saturday if need be. But I'm very encouraged that, at this point, my husband still feels he wants to go! If, indeed, he still feels up to it come Saturday, I think the mini-vacation will do us all good.

That is fabulous that he's up for the trip. Have a wonderful time all together.

I wouldn't worry for a second about a 6pm courtesy hold.

Hope all goes smoothly for this belated Father's Day/ mini-vacation!

Oh CAPH, your weekend away sounds wonderful, and your husband sounds like a great man! With his attitude and yours you two will overcome a lot of problems. My sincere best wishes for a beautiful time this weekend. Enjoy every precious moment! Hugs to you.

Caph, i'm just now seeing this thread but i've been thinking of you aLOT and will continue praying. Remember there is nothing that God and Science (medical docs) can't do together! Together, an awesome team. Hang in there and i hope you have a great weekend!

CAPH
'Hope' is such a joyful feeling, so that is what I pray for you and your family, that you not lose hope but continue to look forward to that day of healing. Bless you all.

Thanks so much for all the kind words and ecouragement!

I'm just now catching up with posts. So sorry to here about Mr. Caph52. A co-worker of my brother's went through this. Wasn't fun at the time, but is now 7-8 years in remission.

Find a good support group and now is the time to lean on your friends and family.

Dear Caph52,

Just heard, and while you will be strong for Mr. Caph52, WE will be strong for you!

Many hugs and positive thoughts are coming your way to allow you to continue with the good attitude that you and he already possess.

Strength! And remember we are here for you!

((L)) Tiff

CAPH52, in case you didn't see my post on R&Rs let me tell you about this now. A few months ago a friend of mine got the news that she had a very rare and fast-moving form of breast cancer. By the time symptoms appeared, she was already in an advanced state. She started chemo right away and the mastectomy was scheduled. The prognosis was grim and weren't sure she'd still be here by now.

Last week she got her test results after finishing 8 rounds of chemo. They found not a single cancer cell remaining!! She is in remission. It was a miracle, but miracles happen every day.

Hugs and prayers for you and yours.

caph--i'm sorry to read of the diagnosis but happy for you that it is hodgkins and not lymphoma. one of my closest friends was diagnosed with stage 3 or 4 hodgkins 2 weeks after having her 2nd child. and she is fine now. my father was a top guy at NCI for 30 years. he told me that hodgkins has close to a 100% cure rate. and while the next 18 mos won't be fun, he will be cured. it grows in a very predictable pattern (as opposed to lymphoma) so they know how to treat it successfully at every stage.

i hope he flies through treatment and all turns out well. have a great time in milwaukee!

Fodors.com created Travel Talk as a place for participants to get and share advice about travel. To provide maximum benefit for travelers -- and to ensure that text and subject searches contain useful trip-planning information -- we restrict the discussion to travel. There are numerous venues all over the Web for conversations about politics, world history, and religion, or for parodies and salacious humor. The focus here is travel. I think they made it clear.

CAPH52...we will keep your family in our prayers. As others have said, this has become a very curable disease. Dealing with the treatment will be rough on each of you, but the start of the healing will begin this Friday. It feels good to be acting...so much better than waiting and wondering. Now you have the facts--take them by the horns and <i>swing</i> them!

Hugs to your whole family. You will find yourselves regrouping, drawing together even closer than you have been and will find new appreciation in everyday things we all begin to take for granted. Let us know how <i>you</i> are doing, too...you'll need an outlet and we are good listeners!

CAPH52, Have a fun belated Father's Day travel weekend, post upon return.

There IB14U2NV, you sorry excuse for a human, we discussed travel.

IB14U2NV, if you don't care for this thread, there are thousands of others for you to enjoy. This is not just a travel message board, it's a community.

Godbless and Godspeed to your husband, you, and your family, CAPH. Try to remember that though it's a battle, it is treatable, and that in itself is a blessing. I'm going to find my Livestrong bracelet and wear it tomorrow for you!

I'm wearing one too, AHaugeto, and haven't taken it off for any reason since our daughter was diagnosed with thyroid cancer last year, then my brother with CLL, and adding names as we go unfortunately.

CAPH52, you may be interested in the LiveStrong website...all sorts of good information, survivor stories, ways to be proactive--just one of many resources available to help you all through this. http://www.livestrong.org/site/c.jvK....CC7C/Home.htm

And a somewhat vicious &quot;community&quot; it is. I guess I'll take your advice P_M. Seems like the &quot;community&quot; on certain posts are not very inviting. Sorry to invade.

This is not a community. A community is too cultish. If it were a community, any topic would be fine, which it is not.

There do seem to be plenty of regulars here who seem to use this forum as a substitute for real, non-virtual relationships. Guess that's just a reality in today's internet age.

I do wish this site was more limited to actual travel questions. Oops, guess I'm not helping that cause . . .

Brian, IMO most posters here use Fodors in addition to their real life relationships. Most posters here have lifes that seem more fullfilling than a lot of people and have an abundance of care and thoughtfullness toward others, whether they have met them in person or not. And a lot of people here have met others here in person and have developed very strong friendships.

With so many things going on in the world that is so ugly and depressing I just can't relate as to how anyone can &quot;complain&quot; because a thread is started to give support to a poster and their family when they are going through a difficult time.

When I have gone on Boards I didn't like I just stopped going on them. And if I don't like a thread I don't read it.

I don't usually have time to read all the threads on Fodors, much less reply to them, but this one totally piqued my interest.

First of all I too wish you and your husband the best CAPH52. Know there are new therapies every day and never forget too that with God all things are possible.

In regards to those who think we Fodorites have no lives, or such little lives outside of cyberspace - seems to me a case of the *pot calling the kettle black*.
Why do you care?
If you don't like them don't read them.
As we travel down life's roads, one can never have too many friends, cyber or otherwise.
(is that travel enough related for you?)

I hadn't read about Mr Caph52's illness until this thread. I want to join the other well-wishers. I'll be thinking of your family as you slog through the treatments in the weeks ahead. I understand your husband has Hodgins lymphoma, which is one that is often responsive to treatment. That is a relief! I want to say, though that there are amazing new treatments for non-Hodgkins lymphoma now, and people should be aware of the great progress that is being made. My Mother was diagnosed with stage 4 non-Hodgkins lymphoma (type B) 2 1/2 years ago. She went through the chemo and is taking a newer medication called Rituxan periodically now and is in complete remission. This would not have been likely 10 years ago. Getting through the treatments can be rough at times, but the dark memories quickly fade as life blooms again.

And, back to travel, my Mom is currently in the air, returning to Chicago, after having attended our daughter's high school graduation this week in Washington. She had a lovely visit and particularly enjoyed going to the Jazz Alley, now one of our favorite nightspots in Seattle.

CAPH,

Best wishes to you and your family! Keeping this travel related - Lake Dillon is full and going over the spillway for the first time since 2001. Maybe a visit to Colorado is in order after treatment is completed. Good Luck!

IB14U2NV you must be a miserable person to be so put out by the good wishes sent to a fellow poster.

<i>Oops, guess I'm not helping that cause . . .</i>

What cause would that be?
to wish a person well, or to give an impression of being an unkind poster who was not forced to read or post on this thread?
I don't understand anyone who feels the need to make these unpleasant remarks when they can so easily move on.
IB14U2 is just an old poster with a new screen name..he is just as nasty as always, I see.

Complain if you must about threads on The Amazing Race, sports, recipes, wine -- but to complain on a thread that offers support to a member of our community who is dealing with serious illness is simply the height of heartlessness. You certainly are <i>not</i> one to envy, IB.

CAPH, all good thoughts to you: hope, strength, love, and enjoyment of every little thing.

I find it particularly amusing when posters try to educate others on the &quot;rules&quot; of Fodors. Here's a newsflash for ya . . . fodors is in control of this site! Yup, that's right. They can delete and stop threads as they feel necessary. No reason to tell others what they can or can't discuss - I think fodors is perfectly capable of making that call without the help of random individuals.

This board fosters such a wonderful group of caring, concerned and seemingly kind and intelligent people that I think it would be a shame for anyone to begrudge them the chance to offer kind words and encouragement to a frequent poster who is going through some personal difficulties. It's the relationships that have developed on this board that keep many of the posters coming back so frequently, I think, and, in turn, those posters provide a wealth of travel knowledge. I am hopeful that the Fodor's editors understand this. The existence of FFRR and What's Your Poison suggest that they do.

CAPH52: My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, as well. The odds seem to be with your DH, and I am certain that you and he have many, many wonderful years and vacations ahead of you. And we look forward to hearing about them!

((L)) CAPH52, you and your DH BOTH sound like amazingly strong people, and I am certain that this combined strength will be invaluable in the challenges ahead. As I mentioned in last Friday's FFRR, just make sure that you are taking good care of yourself, which it appears you are doing by leaning on the fabulously supportive Fodors community. Hang in there! ((Y))

IB14U2: Funny, there you are again. What was it you said on the &quot;Fodors Posters New and Old&quot; thread? I guess you had a hard time following your grandmother's advice again...