Where to live? New york or Florida

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Aug 2nd, 2005, 11:53 AM
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I would move to NY, because we have a vibrant social scene for single 30-something women. (Most of my friends wouldn't even think of getting married until they are at least 30. We often joke that we can never leave NY bc we would be old maids anywhere else!) That way, you can have a lot of fun while waiting for Mr. Right to come along (and, if you are having fun, finding Mr. Right starts seeming a lot less important Which is when you meet someone. Or so they say. I'm still waiting).

While there are obviously exceptions, for the most part men in Manhattan expect women to be independent and successful. (heck, if you weren't, how would you afford to live here?)

Keep in mind, of course, that there are more single women than men in NY. I've heard 400,000, though I think that may be a number we've made up to justify the extra glass of wine and chocolate when the social life isn't going our way...

And yes, it is expensive to live here. But worth it.

(Personally, I wouldn't choose Hoboken if I were you. It's a very cute town, but it seems to be full of single twenty-somethings and young couples with babies. No need to feel old AND alone.)
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Aug 2nd, 2005, 12:14 PM
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OWJ, did you maybe misunderstand me?

I have two kinds of girlfriends, one type always has a boyfriend or a date and is never single. The other has very few dates and constantly bitches about the lack of single men.

I think I was trying to say that it is more the person than the location.

I wasn't trying to imply that those who date are always single.
 
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Aug 2nd, 2005, 12:17 PM
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I really appreciate everyone's input.I am not just looking to get married. If I just wanted to do that, I would stay here and marry someone. I actually want the best place to live, have fun, meet even more friends, and when the time is right, find that other person.
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Aug 2nd, 2005, 12:32 PM
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I've read that the proportions in NYC are heavily in favor of the men.

IMHO neither place would be first choice for finding mates. I think there might be a Cosmopolitan study on this from a couple of years ago. But I know percentages per age groups etc. has more to do with it than you would think. Of course you can meet the "right" person anywhere.

I do know that I have read several times that the best pick of men is in Alaska.

As you get older, it gets harder across the board to meet a larger variety of eligible men/women for both sexes- but especially for women.
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Aug 2nd, 2005, 01:23 PM
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<I do know that I have read several times that the best pick of men is in Alaska.

JJ5, I've heard that too but how many of us are cut out to live there

GoT--I think I did misunderstand you and do agree it depends on the person and their attitude toward life in general...That said, sometimes this dating thing is rather unpredictible. There were times where my friends and I felt like men magnets with the greatest dating lives and then all of a sudden the man drought hit and it could last for awhile. What was up w/that? LOL
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Aug 2nd, 2005, 01:31 PM
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I think that's caused by a change in chemicals at the water treatment facility...
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Aug 2nd, 2005, 01:33 PM
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How about Boston?
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Aug 2nd, 2005, 01:41 PM
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To have fun and meet somebody interesting, that is.
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Aug 2nd, 2005, 01:50 PM
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A good read upon this topic (a girl leaving NYC because she is sick of competing for men/fashion "musts" etc. etc.) and it is funny in its own way-

"Quality of Life Report"
By Meghan Daum
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Aug 2nd, 2005, 01:50 PM
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Stay where you are and try Eharmony.com. I know people that have had tremendous success.
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Aug 2nd, 2005, 01:56 PM
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Very funny uhoh! I had a guy friend who was a chemical engineer for the Palm Bch co. water department...now I know whose fault it was! [email protected] him!
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Aug 2nd, 2005, 04:28 PM
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snowroosterquot;...she was a bit sickened at the huge amounts of single women looking for a "good man." She said it was very competitive and you were looked down on for not having THE best shoes, THE best bag, The best everything."

That is just ridiculous...she was obviously hanging out with the wrong crowd. I never had someone look down on me for not wearing designer anything. My friends are also very nicely dressed but if their clothes, shoes, purses, etc. were expensive I would never know it. And designer duds have absolutely zip to do with attracting a man...a straight one, that is!
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Aug 3rd, 2005, 02:29 AM
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I talked to my cousin who is a United Airlines pilot and lives in NYC and is involved romantically. He told me "Sex and the City" is a very realistic view of what being single in NYC is really like for women and single people in general. To me, that cynicism isn't for me.

I remember going to Ft. Lauderdale area twice in the past and being approached by men all the time. No kidding. Men there aren't spoiled and are pleasantly surprised by a young woman who has some class and is under 50 or at least under the Geritol age.
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Aug 3rd, 2005, 05:50 AM
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As a single woman who actually lives in NY, I STRONGLY agree with Suzanne. There are millions of people in Manhattan - you can find whatever scene you'd like. If you want pretension, sure, we've got it, there's always a new club or hotspot opening, where you can show off your new $2000 bag. But if you want to swill beer and eat burgers while wearing flip-flops at the local Irish pub - hey, we've got that too.

For example, I had drinks last night with 6 girlfriends, all of whom live in Manhattan and work in fashion (buyers, planners, etc.). They spent 20 minutes complementing my new jacket, because, well, they work with clothes and actually care about that stuff. But they were most impressed by the fact that I had purchased it for $20 on sale at Target in the 'burbs.
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