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What state/town in America is it easiest to strike up a conversation with a stranger?

What state/town in America is it easiest to strike up a conversation with a stranger?

Apr 4th, 2003, 02:34 PM
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Sorry. I forgot to take my meds today. I'm a nice guy. I swear! Just ask my therapist.
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Apr 4th, 2003, 02:47 PM
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I think the easiest place to start up a conversation is definitely in a hotel bar! I travel for work often, and after a long day I don't necessarily want to spend my last few waking hours in my room watching TV. I sometimes just want some friendly conversation. I can go OUT to a bar, yes, but then I can't drink more than one if I want to be able to drive back. So the hotel bar is ideal. I meet people from all over, and hear some interesting stories.
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Diana, where are you from in NC?
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Apr 4th, 2003, 03:48 PM
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Smokyboy, orginally from Wilmington (now overrun by the Late Unpleasantness) and currently living in Raleigh(even more inundated).
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Apr 4th, 2003, 06:57 PM
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My hometown, New Orleans is very friendly, but I have some other favorites: Charleston,SC Beaufort,SC
Nantucket,MA Hanover,NH OKC,OK. The least friendly (in my experience) Baltimore/DC although when I lived in DC for a short time it was much friendlier than when I just visited it.
Theres also Dallas,Tx which is TOO friendly I imagine there are friendly people everywhere but certain places often stand out based on experiences we've had at certain times.
I can tell you the rudest person I ever met in my life was from Barrington, RI but that doesnt mean I think all of RI is socially inept. This is funny now that I think about this, but having said Baltimore was one of the least friendliest places, while I was there it seemed the really nice people all came from the same little area, Anneslie. I was on a flight not long ago and struck up a conversation with a very nice couple next to me who happened to be from Baltimore. Well, it turns out they too were from this little neighborhood, Anneslie! What are the odds!
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Apr 4th, 2003, 07:06 PM
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Born in Bryson City, home is in Franklin. Small town, nice people, great area. Used to go to Wilmington alot when I was stationed at Ft. Bragg. Also visited the Triangle area quite a few times.
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Apr 4th, 2003, 07:16 PM
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My impression is that the South is more racist than other parts of the US
(sorry!). Southerners tend to be more polite but mock you behind your back. Americans from the East Coast and Midwest tend to be emotionless at first but later invite you to their homes, unlike Southerners. These are my experiences, at least.
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Apr 4th, 2003, 07:28 PM
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I'm a born/raised Boston and area person, and am amazed when anyone says we are unfriendly. Unfortunately we are Medical/uni center so people are here from all over and some are up-tight. I worked where everyone was a non born in state personel place and those others gave us the rep of being aloof.But then again, it's all luck who you encounter.
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Sorry to all who said that DC was full of friendly people. When I visited a couple of years ago, I encountered brick walls whenever I asked a question, even of those who were in the visitor industry -- at the Smithsonians AND the hotel we stayed at in Alexandria.

When I returned to Kernersville, NC, I drove to the drug store and as I waited on someone to back out of a close parking space, someone else darted in front of me and I ground my teeth and said to myself "People are just rude wherever you go."

As I walked to the store after finding an alternative parking space, there was a woman waiting in the parking lot for me who said that she was very sorry. She did not realize that I was waiting for the parking space and she felt very badly that she rudely parked there. I replied to her that it was soooooo nice to be back in the realm of manners and not to worry. That made my day.

I don't mean that all DCers have no manners and that all NCers are full of manners. I don't believe that is the case at all. I just observed it as an interesting contrast.

Apr 5th, 2003, 06:42 PM
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I agree with the post about NYC. People love to talk about anything - even without asking their opinion.

I don't recall a lot of rudeness in DC during my many visits.

I think it is hard to pin down an area of rudeness or niceness. Why don't you just visit random places and report your findings?
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Apr 5th, 2003, 07:35 PM
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The easiest place to talk to people is on line. And by that, I mean while standing in the queue not on the computer (although that works, too). You can talk to anyone about anything while standing on line. The best conversations I have had with strangers were when I was waiting on line for something - a movie, a cashier, a ride. Generally, the best conversations have been about something that just happened or something someone else on line was reading.
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Apr 5th, 2003, 07:46 PM
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I agree that nice friendly people exist everywhere. I travel w-a-y too much (business) and I have never been to a place that was totally unfriendly.
Just got back from San Francisco today. Talked to people in the Haight/Ashbury area yesterday, extremely friendly.
Palo Alto the day before... ditto.
The people in DC are consistantly wonderful... one of the few places I have personally been the "victim" of random acts of kindness. I go back Monday morning, so if things have changed I'll be sure and let you know.
Ottawa has some great people too... I'll broaden that and say Canada in general.
I don't bother people with chit chat unless it is an appropriate time and I always allow them a way out. They let you know if they are not in the mood to talk. I am most interested in other peoples lives and I am really interested, not just asking.
... BTW, it is hailing something fierce in Dallas at the moment. Hail the size of baseballs!
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Apr 6th, 2003, 03:51 PM
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I've lived in many cities but have found it is eaisiest to strike up a conversation with, or get to know a person from Wisconsin and Minnesota.
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Apr 6th, 2003, 07:46 PM
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I forgot to add Utah earlier. Lots of people seem to vote for New England and New York City as unfriendly, but that honestly hasn't been my experience espescially New England. I still cant get over how friendly Nantucket was, I mean we're talking almost Texas level.
I dont think I have ever connected with so many people so easily before in my life, it was almost erie. That and everyone kept saying I looked familiar That was espescially helpful when I wandered into a private home (I couldve died!) that I thought was an inn! The people just laughed and yes, thought I looked familiar
During my college years, Hanover, NH was another delightful place with great people.
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Apr 6th, 2003, 07:55 PM
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Most places in the U.S,A. are friendly but I think Chicago by far has the most friendly people.
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Apr 7th, 2003, 12:25 AM
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I live in the NW so I might be a bit biast but I feel like you cant beat Washington State, Seattle. The pace is a bit slower here but everyone is friendly and always willing to give a hand. I have been to other parts of the country and I feel the NW is a special place. It does not rain as much as people think!
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Apr 7th, 2003, 07:16 AM
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I lived in Midland, TX for a short while. I think the people there are the friendliest I've ever met. You could strike up a conversation easily with just about anyone there.

Whether you'd want to visit that place is another story....
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