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Used point to reserve room now a friend wants to stay for free

Aug 8th, 2017, 10:07 AM
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Substitute "schnorrer" for "friend" and you will have your answer.
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Aug 8th, 2017, 12:15 PM
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Cancel your room...save your points, and tell her you will stay in her room for free... next trip is on you...
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Aug 8th, 2017, 04:30 PM
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Can't you usually buy points? I would charge her for half the points worth. Points aren't free. In fact you have to spend a lot of money to get the points to cover a $200 room.

But for me, it would be a matter of if you are getting two beds anyway. Most of the time, you're either downsizing your own bed or paying extra for the second bed.
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Aug 8th, 2017, 04:32 PM
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Or like Gary said- cancel your room. Offer to split the cost of a room at your hotel, with two beds. Chances are, it saves her money, she gets to stay somewhere nicer, and all that happens is that you get more points.
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Aug 8th, 2017, 05:13 PM
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Points ARE free - that's not to say they don't have a value, but they're free to collect. (If two people stay overnight at a Marriott, one of whom is a member of the rewards program, and one of whom isn't, they both pay $100 for their room, one gets points and one doesn't, no cost).

I would never even consider asking someone to pay me cash for a room I booked with points, but the privacy issue is another matter - I don't like to share a hotel room. It would of course be nice if the person I put up for free offered to pay for a meal or something.
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Aug 8th, 2017, 06:53 PM
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Points have a cost in the sense that you stay at a particular chain to get points rather than just always seeking the cheapest option or an independent hotel/b and b for a particular place.
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Aug 8th, 2017, 07:01 PM
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If you spend money to collect points, they're not free. I don't know how much money it to took to collect my current balance of Marriott points, but it's well over a thousand, probably. You have to deliberately choose to spend the money at that specific chain to get those points instead of just going for the cheapest option. The friend didn't spend that money and if she wasn't staying in the "free" room, she'd be paying for her own room.

I think the meal thing gets messy. If it's an expensive meal; the person who was your "guest" feels shafted. If it was a drive through, you'll feel shafted. Easier to just separate the costs out.
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Aug 8th, 2017, 09:35 PM
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I agree - points are not free. I paid for the rooms on previous trips and was awarded points based on the dollar value I spent. I hate to seem petty but I feel I should be the one to benefit from those dollars spent.

If it were decided in advance that we'd be sharing a room, I would have held onto my points for use when I didn't have someone with whom I could split costs (like she does).

I'd do that now but availability at my hotel at that lower rate is severely limited if not non-existent and her hotel choice is poorly rated and seems to be a bit of a dive.
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Aug 8th, 2017, 09:50 PM
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If she has points too, you can ask her to transfer have of the cost to you. Otherwise you can always tell that there is no second person allowed with your rate if you want to avoid trouble.
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Aug 9th, 2017, 05:18 AM
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Don't bother sharing a room with this person. You don't owe her anything and it sounds like you don't even want to share a room. Why would you rearrange your plans to suit her needs and inconvenience yourself?


"Points ARE free "
" they both pay $100 for their room, one gets points and one doesn't, no cost"

This just makes zero sense. How are they free when someone paid $100 for the room?

I'm going to start calling hotel chains and ask them for my free points, no cost please. Sounds like a great deal.
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Aug 9th, 2017, 05:25 AM
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It doesn't make zero sense. For your $100 you got the very same room as someone else paying $100 and not getting points. But it doesn't matter - the OP doesn't want to share and should just say so. I would and if I didn't I wouldn't "charge" the friend for sharing.
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Aug 9th, 2017, 11:04 AM
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I would shoot her and that would solve the problem.

BTW, how many nights are we speaking about?
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Aug 9th, 2017, 11:20 AM
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"It doesn't make zero sense. For your $100 you got the very same room as someone else paying $100 and not getting points."

Yes, it does make zero sense lol. If points were free, you would pay $0 for the room and collect points. Or do some other random thing which costs nothing and have the hotel magically deposit points into your account. You don't get points unless you spend money....therefore they are not free. This is not rocket science.
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Aug 9th, 2017, 11:33 AM
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"Points ARE free - that's not to say they don't have a value, but they're free to collect. (If two people stay overnight at a Marriott, one of whom is a member of the rewards program, and one of whom isn't, they both pay $100 for their room, one gets points and one doesn't, no cost)"


That's like saying McDonald's Monopoly game pieces are free....

The difference is that the rules state clearly that indeed you can send-in and get two free game pieces... but because you probably cannot do same with hotel points, then there is no way to suggest that hotel points are "free" as well.


McDonald's can literally state: "NO purchase required"


Same is not true of hotel points
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Aug 9th, 2017, 12:10 PM
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The Lord must have said something about it.

Like :
you should not get rich on your friends.
You should choose your friend wisely.
Who can be a friend of somebody when one sees only profit or lack of profit.

Some say your friend is no good friend because she doesn't want to pay you but some should say you are no good friend because you want her to pay you.

So if you drive 200 miles to a place a friend wants to go too on the same day you charge her the fuel or tell her to take a train ?

The Lord will ask you some tough questions before He embraces you in Heavens.

My friends are welcome to share my room for no cost and I don't expect anything. One who expects something in return for what kindness should provide for free will never be a friend of mine.

Amen.
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Aug 9th, 2017, 01:38 PM
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I would either tell her you don't want to share your room. Or I would let her stay for free, since it cost you nothing.
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Aug 9th, 2017, 03:24 PM
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Suze,it's you and me against the world LOL!

(If you pay $100 for $100 room, you didn't pay for the points, you paid for the room. The points are a bonus)
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Aug 10th, 2017, 03:13 AM
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If I hadn't paid for rooms at that hotel chain previously, I would not have the points so I don't consider them free. I specifically choose that chain because I find that it consistently offers top notch rooms and service no matter where I travel. I have yet to be disappointed.

Friend or not, I stand by my position that someone who wants to cancel their reservation at a 2 star hotel to take advantage of my 5 star free lodging should be required to kick in a buck or two.

Nonetheless, I've decided to remove the option from the table and stay solo.

I appreciate everyone's input.
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Aug 10th, 2017, 04:58 AM
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As my previous post would indicate, I agree with your reasoning and your decision. The discussion about possibly sharing this room with another person should come from the "holder" of the room (i.e., you) rather the one who wants to share.

I'll hazard a guess that if this other person had been a close friend, the situation would have been resolved more easily and to both person's satisfaction.
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Aug 10th, 2017, 05:13 AM
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Thanks for the update. Enjoy your 5-star room in good health and without an unwanted roommate.

HTtY
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