Fodor's Travel Talk Forums - Put on your thinking hat fellow Fodorians!!

Whats up folks, here's the deal.. Very Lost, am now turning to my fellow fodorians for some expertise and help as you have yet to let me down :)

Youthful, active and fun early 30's couple with no kids into fun and adventure with sprinkles of rest and relaxation. Looking for a 4-5 day trip (leaving tomorrow) narrowed down to Hawaii, after recently eliminating Jamaica. Flying out from LAX so the shorter the traveling distance, the better. Interested in a refined, upbeat and fun vibe (not spring breaky, binge drinking, jersey shore wannabe's- aka cancunie lol), but want to go out and enjoy ourselves with good music drinking and dancing!

Doesn't have to be overly romantic but would rather not be surrounded in a place with lots of children/families. Someplace nice and intimate but not terribly remote or too quiet. We're spontaneous and fun but we're not the get up at the crack of dawn to chase down beach chairs type of couple. Absolutely NOOOOOOOO mega-resorts or anything that resembles one!!!!!!!! I despise them and refuse to give them my money as I don't like the busy, overly crowded and impersonal feel of them (sorry for the rant but had to get that out of the way :)

Interested in chilling at the beach and do daily activities. Spend some day trips on excursions, and then be able to find a good and safe nightlife.
We are not uptight or fussy travelers, however, we do not want to stay in a dump or adversely, a stuffy, strict place either!

Thank you for wasting 5 minutes of your life on my problems, but if you can be so kind and spare your thoughts, I will be so appreciative and grateful.
Safe travels and One Love!