aileen679

I would feel very awkward if I gave up my bedroom and bath and then had to use the rooms to get our clothing, personal items, etc while they were there. They would have to be Very close friends not to feel out of place.

I think the best thing would be to explain the problem with the guest room, make arrangements (and pay for) a hotel/motel. Give them the option. If they chose the den, cancel the hotel.

JAGIRL

Giving them the bedroom is the right thing to do. It's the most unselfish thing that one can do.
But I don't think that is the question. I suspect the question is :
would the guests feel comfortable about sleeping in the bedroom while you sleep on a cot?
Of course, only you can figure that one out. A simple call to them might indeed solve the "dilemna".

bonniebroad

There is the line of thinking that your guests are going to be sleeping on a "strange" bed (not their own), wherever you put them ... MB or aero-bed/den ... so why should all of you end up on "strange" beds (your moving to the den!) I think the den/aero-bed for your guests ... would be fine; I'm sure they'd be more comfy if you haven't given up your own room. But you are very sweet to want to do that for them!

maria_so

I agree with bjboothman. Frankly, the only people I would give up my bed for are my parents or his parents. Everyone else gets the den (with air mattress). Even then, I doubt very much if my parents or his would allow that to happen. Definitely let them know the circumstances way ahead of time so they can decide. I for one would not be at all comfortable taking someone's bed and would've appreciated knowing the situation ahead of time. So I'm glad you're doing that.

Don't worry about them not having a good time at your place. You sound like a lovely, kind, generous person. They'd be just silly not to want to come visit you again. If a friend offered me what you are about to offer them, I would gladly sleep on the floor in the living room with no air mattress just because you are so kind to think of my comfort before yours.

For what it's worth...

jetset1

Last summer, we put my mother-in-law in our room. She is almost 80, and having the bathroom right there, vs. the hallway one at night, seemed more considerate. We have a Calif. King bed, and she is tall,like my dh, so she loved that as well.
My sister-in-law was comfortably housed in a motor home next to the back door. So she had privacy and lots of space too, as well as the option of sampling as much wine as she wanted once her mom retired,lol.
Family is one thing, but if it were my husband's Neanderthal friends and their mates, forget it. I'd need years of therapy and a minesweeper to recover from the trauma.

nytraveler

Depends on the situation. Is there any reason - as listed above - why the guests needs the real bed vs the aerobed? If so - let them have it.

Otherwise I would explain the situation and offer them the Aerobed - or a hotel. (I've slept on one in an emergency and there's no way the beau and I could do it for more than one night - not even sure he could do it at all - since he's 6'3" - and they're VERY uncomfortable unless you're under 20.)

girlonthego

I have never given my room to friends. I gave up our room once for my brother and his wife and kids because they are all little and were here for one night only. I have also given my parents my bed because it is the most comfortable and the largest. Other than that, the futon is for guests and family visitors.
You can do what is most comfortable for you. I had my brother here that one time and it was just easier to have all the little ones camped out on airmattresses in my room than split up or near stairs. Now that the kids are bigger, they can all sleep on futons or with my kids in their rooms.

GeorgeW

Remember Bob and Carol, Ted and Alice? Natalie Wood starred. Use your imagination.

mah1980

I think having others use my master bedroom would be weird for both parties. Either they sleep on the aerobed, or in a hotel.

karens

If you're going to get an airbed, be careful which one you get. From the rest of the responses, there must be comfortable ones out there. The only one I've used had deep crevices and was really uncomfortable.

We put guests in my older son's bedroom - he has a queen bed. (Our 4th bdrm we use as an office with a futon like sofa, but we've been told it's uncomfortable for "older" bodies, so we never put people in there anymore). My MIL always jokes that when she sleeps at our house she wakes up with black men staring at her. My son is a big NBA and NFL fan and has sports posters, bobble-heads, etc. of his favorite players all over the place. I never paid much attention to this until she pointed it out.

But, I digress. I can't imagine giving my bedroom up b/c all my stuff is in there. Plus, when we have certain houseguests (cough cough MIL), I feel I need my privacy at times to "escape".

jayne1973

I don't like to sleep in someone's master bedroom, and I never give mine up. Just feels wrong.

escargot

Tell them the situation. THey may opt on their own for a local hotel for some privacy of their own.
either way, an airbed is much more comfie than cots and stow away easily. There is also a fairly comfie bed that Ikea has that folds and can be stored under a bed-if you are near an Ikea to sample.

We have both in our rec room. The smaller people don't mind the Ikea beds, - my son (20) and his tall and big male friends, don't mind the air beds at all, and either did my 60 yr old uncle for 3 nights once when we were piling in a lot of relatives for the reunion. Some of my air beds inflate on the floor - but some of them inflate higher - so it is easier for the guest to get in and out of - almost bed height.
look online for all the options, but mind are all aerobed brand.

Suzie

I think you are trying to be a thoughtful and generous host. I would never sleep in someone's master bedroom because I just wouldn't feel right about them giving up their bed. If they insisted I would be really uncomfortable during the trip. I'd be sleeping with all their stuff in the room and what if they needed something in there but didn't want to disturb me so they didn't retrieve it. Someone's bed seems too private to me.

wow

It's only 3 days. Put the guest room bed in the den.

SandyBrit

Agree with those who say call and tell your friends because of the remodel your guest room is not usable, offer the den and go from there. Do not offer your bedroom.

I also would like to have you clarify:

1) Who did the inviting you or them
2) Are you all young and no children

As poster bjboothman said we always get a hotel even when visiting our grown children. I think it works out much better for all of us.

Best wishes for a lovely 3 days visit with your friends.

Sandy

seetheworld

Friends: NO

Close relatives (even an aunt or uncle who are like second parents): Yes

Close relatives who are frail and would benefit from the location of one bedroom over another: Yes

Speak with your friends and explain the accomodations -- let them decide for themselves if the den is the way to go.

Budman

I'm with you, seetheworld. The only time I've given up my Master Bedroom is to my son and his wife with 2 young babies (my grand children).

Now, kids are older, son & wife sleep in guest bedroom, and grand children sleep on day bed in my computer room. Damn, I can't get on line at night.

Intrepid1

So, Sreen Name, now that you've received this absolute wealth of clear and concise advice, what is your FINAL decision or are you afraid you'll be banished if you make the "wrong" one??????

Saraho

We have given up our masterbedroom to relatives or friends when it seemed like the best solution. Nobody ever seemed to feel uncomfortable about it- no big deal.

lynnejoel1015

I've always offered up my own bed in our one-bedroom apt and my hubby and I have taken to the living room on an air matress, however, our guests (unless it were our parents) have always seemed a little taken-aback by this and so we now just started to set up sheets on the living room couch. My brother in law comes into town Friday night for 5 days to find an apt in LA, and he'll be on the couch. Hate to do it, but it's a little too difficult to give up your bedroom for 5 days....

I think you're making a very nice gesture, though!!