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Mama needs a vacation~Major de-stressing getaway needed. Suggestions?

Mama needs a vacation~Major de-stressing getaway needed. Suggestions?

Jun 9th, 2006, 06:45 AM
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Mama needs a vacation~Major de-stressing getaway needed. Suggestions?

So many of you have given me good advice on family vacations over the past 9 years on this board. Now I need a mom-getaway in the worst way! I have a high stress, deadline-riddled job and am feeling some burnout recently (even though I love my career). My daughter is a wonderful 14 year old--but she's a 14 year old girl, which is an adventure in and of itself. My son will be a senior in high school this fall and it's leading to a whole host of emotions that I hadn't anticipated (I'm so proud of the wonderful person that he's becoming and am thrilled that he'll soon be going to college but on the other hand the thought of graduation and sending him far away to school is difficult to think about).

My husband just started a demanding new job and doesn't think a family vacation is in the cards this summer. Instead, the four of us will probably follow our Nebraska Cornhuskers to a bowl game during Christmas, plus sneak in a long weekend in Vail and Denver before school starts. DH, being a great guy, suggested that I go somewhere 'just me' and recharge my batteries. The endless possibilities have me giddy but indecisive. I'd like to go in July but have no idea where to start.

My first thought is a spa somewhere. I would fly out of Denver and have looked at several Arizona spas--does anyone have a particular one they'd recommend? Another thought is to hop on Amtrak and head to San Francisco. Of course, there's always Las Vegas. I'd like to go somewhere that doesn't involve a lot of driving to the actual destination.

In my mind, the perfect trip includes spa time, reflection time, time for reading a good book and sitting by the pool.

Long post but I'd love your suggestions.
Jun 9th, 2006, 07:02 AM
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Ok, I feel like a walking billboard ad for Red Mountain Spa, lol! But seriously, I have been there several times for exactly what you are looking for. I go with girlfriends who all need to unwind. It is in SW Utah (St. George area), only 2 hours from Las Vegas. There is a small airport in St. George, so you could fly there for a bit more money. We always fly into Las Vegas and either rent a car or take a shuttle. The spa itself has everything...all sort of guided hikes, biking trips, fitness classes, several pools, and a brand new spa that has everything you can imagine. Check out the website, www.redmountainspa.com for other details. Anyway, this place is a favorite of ours and I was just there in late January.
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Jun 9th, 2006, 07:32 AM
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I just got back from the Oaks at Ojai and absolutely loved it. SO relaxing and healthy and friendly and comfortable. If you are looking for luxurious then this is not the place -- the Oaks is wonderfully low-key and reasonably priced. About half of the guests were repeat visitors, one came all the way from Jordan. A terrifically diverse group of mostly women, ranging in age from 23-80! Everything from super-fit pilates instructors to women who had never exercised before in their lives. Fantastically supportive environment. Great hikes and walks and classes (everything from yoga and pilates to cardio hoop and belly dancing), good food, very cute town with lots of shops and galleries. If you stay 5 nights you get a free spa service and if you stay 7 nights you get two spa services. I had two massages which were literally the best I've ever had -- I've had back pain for years and now it is gone. I can't wait to go back. Highly recommended. The website is oaksspa.com.
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Jun 9th, 2006, 07:48 AM
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Sweet Tess, I just want to wish you a relaxing time. The above suggestions from mms and lisa sound heavenly!

Happy Spa Getaway to You!
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Jun 9th, 2006, 07:57 AM
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Tess, don't you think going to a big city like San Francisco may not be a de-stresser?

Can you fly to Reno, take the shuttle to South Tahoe, and stay in one of the casinos? I know Horizon has a nice pool area. Harvey's pool is plain ugly.
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Jun 9th, 2006, 08:09 AM
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Why don't you check yourself into a 5 star resort in Phoenix that are cheap right now and they have fab spa's..
On Expedia.com they have some great deals at the Phoenican Resort for $229 and the Boulders Resort and Golden Door in Carefree for $125 a night..
Lay out by the pool and swim and relax and just chill.. good for the soul.
Also, I got a great deal from the
Wynnlasvegas.com for $119.00 and they have a wonderful 5* Hotel and spa too..
Have a relaxing time!
Jun 9th, 2006, 08:17 AM
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Along the line of TahitiTam's suggestions Tess, I will say that I just returned from the Westin Kierland Resort and Spa and it was lovely. Great pool, great spa, beautiful grounds and rooms.

Plus, as an added bonus you are across the street from the Kierland Commons that has shopping and dining.

Also as far as resort food goes, the Westin Kierland was some of the best DH and I have experienced.
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Jun 9th, 2006, 08:45 AM
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New Plymouth Inn on Green Turtle Cay, Abacos Islands, the Bahamas.
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Jun 9th, 2006, 10:44 AM
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Tess - I had the most amazing time - all by myself - in Waikiki. Yes, it is a longer flight than any of the other suggestions, but for me that was part of de-stressing - getting into the whole "getaway" part of it. I stayed at a wonderful little hotel less than a block from the beach which didn't cost a fortune, but you could stay somewhere with a spa and get that too.

Waikiki is a great place to be alone in because there is so much to do - or not do - whatever you choose. And you would really feel like you "got away from it all" and what better place than somewhere where it is so laid back and relaxed?

Good luck on whatever you decide - hope you realize what a lucky girl you are to have such a thoughtful husband.
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Jun 9th, 2006, 10:58 AM
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BashfulLV, believe me, I do know how lucky I am. After 22 years of marriage, I still can't believe that a 21 year old (yikes--that's too young to get married!!!!) made such a good choice in a spouse

I appreciate everyone's kind ideas and suggestions. I get the feeling that some of you know exactly how I'm feeling right now--somewhat emotionally fragile, if that's not too dumb to say. I've been 'strong' all my life and as my children grow and my parents age (and pass away, in the case of my wonderful dad), the vulnerability of life is a little more real. AGH--stop me before I get too sappy on this gorgeous Friday afternoon.

FainaAgain, yep, you're right, San Francisco probably isn't the destination for me on this trip.

Actually, I'm loving the idea of a spa close to Vegas. I can stay one night in sin city and get my gambling fix (those high roller quarter machines, LOL) then head to a spa like Red Mountain.

Question Mms, I read a bunch of reviews on tripadvisor and it sounds like hiking and like activities are a prime focus at Red Mountain. Will I feel out of place if I basically just want to be spa'ed and do casual walks at the most? Usually I'm fairly outgoing but don't want to do a lot of socializing on this trip. Please tell me they don't do mixers and lets-get-acquainted activities~horrors.

Keep those suggestions coming!
Jun 9th, 2006, 11:09 AM
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Hey Tess,

An idea that is not a spa....but is something I am doing at the end of July without my boys or DH, but with one girlfriend.

We are flying into Seattle and heading to the San Juan Islands for a 3 day/2 nights women's only sea kayaking trip. It is not hard core and also has a hike or two AND we stay in a B&B overnight as opposed to camping. We happen to be going on for a few days on the Olympic Peninsula before spending 2 nights in Seattle. I am really excited for a few days of nature watching, some exercise, and relaxing at a B&B. Anyway, I'm not sure if that is the kind of thing you might be interested in, but was just looking to give an idea other than a spa (of course, the spas sound lovely and I'm taking notes for the future ).
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Jun 9th, 2006, 11:13 AM
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Go to RANCHO LA PUERTA in Baja California Mexico. I went with my mother in April and we had a blast. It's great for exercising and spa treatments but really you can do whatever you want. In the morning there are several hikes to go on and some you can do on your own. You can take a class in a variety of areas like yoga, pilates, boxing, stretching, or just sit at the pool and veg out. The food was also good and I felt awesome at the end of our week. The other people there were so nice and we met heaps of great people from all over the country. There are also really fun dance classes but again, you can do as little or as much as you like. The spa treatments were affordable and plentiful, and as I said my mom and I had such a great time. You fly to San Diego and then there is a bus that picks you up. I've been to Canyon Ranch in the Berkshires and while that was great, this was FABULOUS!!!!
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Jun 9th, 2006, 11:53 AM
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A cruise. Fly to the port and you will never have to lift another finger all week.

As you requested, " the perfect trip includes spa time, reflection time, time for reading a good book and sitting by the pool. "

A cruise has it all and you will have plenty of opportunity to either meet nice people or keep to yourself.
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Jun 9th, 2006, 12:01 PM
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I hear you, Tess! My de-stressing solo trips are what keep me (and my family) sane, and I feel lucky that my husband and daughter are both understanding and supportive. (And I picked my spouse at 22 - considering how dumb I was then, it's one of the smarter things I ever did!)

Have you considered Yelapa? While my getaways tend to be the some island somewhere (vegetating at its finest), I'm considering Yelapa as a closer alternative. Faithie's trip report from earlier this year inspired me!
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Jun 9th, 2006, 12:01 PM
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Hey, fun4all4! Is that the kayak trip I told you about a couple of months ago? I am thrilled you are going! Be sure to tell me (us) all about it. I want to do it when I head out to visit a friend in Seattle - but have no idea when that will be.

Tess, Sedona/ Enchantment Resort might be a good choice. I love the area around Sedona.
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Jun 9th, 2006, 12:37 PM
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Funny you mentioned Las Vegas..one year, in Aug, we just needed to get away, something bad!
So we hopped on a plane to LV and stayed at the Bellagio.
Spa, sleep late in huge comfy beds, eat in wonderful restaurants, gamble, giggle, etc.
It worked for us~
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Jun 9th, 2006, 01:34 PM
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I think you have received some good suggestions - one thing I suggest adding to your planning is the trip there - air travel can be a big pain these days, so fly someplace easy to get to - non-stop preferrably (should be possible out of Denver).

PS - you have my empathy - I also have 15 year old dtr and 20 year old son.
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Jun 9th, 2006, 02:55 PM
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My oldest son has just completed his freshman year of college, I also spent his senior year of highschool dreading his leaving for college. I am not going to lie it was very, very difficult, but in time you will adjust. Now he is home for the summer and he's driving me CRAZY already!!! LOL During his senior year we took a family trip to St John USVI snd rented a villa, he couldnt escape us and go to his friends house, he couldnt call anyone or spend time on the computer, we had great family time together which I will always cherish.
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Jun 9th, 2006, 06:24 PM
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Great spas, nothing beats the spiritual healing atmosphere. If you don't want "real" hikes, try a yoga hike with Sedona Spirit Yoga, and definitely stay at the wonderful Adobe Grand Villas.
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Jun 9th, 2006, 06:46 PM
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Tess--No, you would be perfectly fine there I would guess that about half the guests there were for the exercise, but the other half were there truly to unwind and relax. I personally love to hike, the harder the better, but there were people didn't at all and it was no big deal. We saw some of them walking the paths, but that was as much exercise as they wanted. We met a few solo travelers and they were so happy with the entire spa. There is a Captains table each night in the dining room, where many of the solo travelers would dine together. The spa has hammocks all over the property also, which was great for afternoon naps. The spa has other activities as well. One time we went off site and did a pottery class. There are cooking demonstrations with the chef each day (really good!!!). There are moonlight walks and star gazing walks. I can't remember all the things, but it is a wide variety. There are two shuttles that go between the Las Vegas airport and the spa, but we used Dessert Shuttle. The owner/operator is a lady and is really nice and went out of her way for us.
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