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I just won a trip to Hawaii foe two and I have no one to take with me, Help!

I just won a trip to Hawaii foe two and I have no one to take with me, Help!

Old May 27th, 1999, 03:12 PM
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I just won a trip to Hawaii foe two and I have no one to take with me, Help!

This may read like a singles add, but I really don't know what to do. I'm a 30 year old guy who works hard for a living, and for my hard work I've received a bonus from my company- a two week trip to Hawaii, staying at the Grand Wailea Resort. I don't know crap about Hawaii other than what I've read here and in some magazines and books. I'd just like some advice. Also, how in the hell do you ask someone you barely know (but really like) to go with you on a trip for two weeks? I mean- wouldn't sound like I was expecting something in return? All I want is to go and have a good time, but not alone!
 
Old May 27th, 1999, 03:15 PM
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Ian
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foe two? FOE two? Aw, man- I meant FOR two! Oh well...
 
Old May 27th, 1999, 04:05 PM
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You are going to paradise. Maui is the best. Good luck finding a travel companion.

LOTS of info about Maui restaurants, hotels, activities, sights, etc, at this web site:
http://www.mauihawaii.org
(note it ends in org, not com)
Jon
 
Old May 27th, 1999, 08:20 PM
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Honesty is always the best policy as far as getting someone you barely know to go with you. You will absolutely love the Grand Wailea Resort. You can see whats its about at www.grandwailea.com. Anyway, I'm sure you'll find someone to go with you. e-mail me a picture, a credit report, and your resume, and I'll think about going with you...Just kidding.
 
Old May 28th, 1999, 08:59 AM
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Why do you need someone to go with you?! Some of the best times I've had have been on my own (I'm single, female and 27) and no I'm not the reclusive type either. In fact, what's most important is not being withdrawn or untalkative because you are by yourself. You'll find that its much easier for you to get to know strangers if you are on your own. They don't feel as intimidated and if you are with a group (even just one other person) they figure you don't want company. I've had people invite me to stay at their homes as well as visit with them later on when passing through again. My advice to you is go without someone and to buy a true Aloha shirt. You'll meet people on the plane, you'll meet people when you go to Lahaina etc and through it sounds silly, a REAL aloha shirt with khakis will make you more appealing to the locals (I should know I grew up there) and they will go further for you. Reyns is no longer around but aloha shirts can still be bought at Liberty House in Kahului. Get the kind that are more "faded" on the outside,with the brighter colors on the inside. Remember there aren't only tourists on Maui and while tourists tend to go in groups, the locals there are just like those on the Mainland, some single, some not. I hope this helps you get beyond your fear of traveling on your own. It will leave all possibilities open and you'll be receptive to others and new experiences. Good luck and aloha!
 
Old May 28th, 1999, 10:03 AM
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I agree with Shannon, go alone! I traveled alone when I was single, and sure there were some times that it wasn't so great, but there were many more when it was!
 
Old May 28th, 1999, 10:11 AM
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While I agree with the above that you should just go by yourself, if you're like me though you'd want to take advantage of the freebie for a second person. So, how about a best pal, favorite cousin, a parent, a co-worker...just some suggestions. Have a terrific time.
 
Old Jul 15th, 1999, 11:13 AM
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I agree with Cheryl above, it would be terrible to go totally alone and waist a free trip, ask a brother, sister, parent, grandparent, someone that would love or need the break, you could still do any thing you want ALONE, but there might be times you won't want to be alone, I'm sure who ever you ask would agree and would probably like to do the ALONE thing too. As said earlier, be honest, who ever you ask is certainly not going to hold honesty against you, tell them they could be on their own etc. not to feel pressured. Have a great time.
 
Old Jul 15th, 1999, 11:34 AM
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Contact the company and ask if they could change the reservation to single and maybe give you a hotel voucher for services (restaurant/gift shop) for the difference. They will save money and you won't have to hunt around the office and possibly embarass yourself seeking a companion that you dont know too well. I do a lot of fundraising and the donors are usually willing to assist because is is good advertising to appear helpful. (i.e., if you like the hotel, etc, you would stay there again in the future.) If not, perhaps your company would hold a lottery to see who they send as your companion.....just kidding.
 
Old Jul 15th, 1999, 12:33 PM
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DEFINITELY don't ask Karen Howell.
Seriously, why not ask a family member? You'll have company when you want it, and you'll come off as a very nice guy should you encounter someone you want to impress.
 
Old Jul 15th, 1999, 12:45 PM
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I agree with the others about your going alone..

My only suggestion, if you take a relative, would be to offer them the
free ticket....but tell them that they need to get their own
room...preferably at a differnt hotel...so you get some freedom to do
things at your own pace.

Perhaps, you could sell your extra plane ticket and use the money for
your won extra expenses.

We should all have your problem.
 
Old Jul 15th, 1999, 01:08 PM
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You have two choices - go alone or ask someone with whom you are only friends or how about a Godchild or a favorite neice or nephew. Do not ask anyone from the office unless it is your best friend or something. You will be sharing a room and this could cause more problems than you know no matter what the arrangements are up front.
Even if you really like this person you are talking about you say you hardly know him/her. Two weeks with no way out could be disasterous.

 
Old Jul 15th, 1999, 01:10 PM
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Take a friend or relative. The only woman you should share a hotel room with is your wife or your mother.

 
Old Jul 15th, 1999, 04:18 PM
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hey, share the wealth of your problems!
 
Old Jul 15th, 1999, 09:40 PM
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Ditto what "Love Hawaii" said.

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"Let a smile under your umbrella but don't get a mouthful of rain"
 
Old Jul 18th, 1999, 07:42 AM
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This original posting was back in May; what did you decide to do, Ian?
 
Old Jul 19th, 1999, 07:16 AM
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Wow! Thank you for all the great advice, and for asking what I had decided. Well, like I said, there was someone in the office that I always thought alot of. We had been friends for over two years. We seemed to always end up talking to one another at office happy hours, or office get togethers, but she recently was divorced so I always figured the last thing she needed was some guy "hitting" on her for a date, so I always kept my distance. So I took the honest approach (thanks Elisa), and asked her July 4th (right after the fire works)if she would like to go, but strictly as friends. She actually said that she was hoping I'd ask her! Since then, I think we've both been excited about the trip. We have actually been talking more now than before. We've gone out on a few friendly dates trying to see if this trip thing is going to work. She has actually stopped dating other guys. We'll just have to see if things turn out OK. I'm looking forward to the trip, which by the way, we leave on in a couple of weeks. I'll let you know how it turned out...
 
Old Jul 19th, 1999, 02:33 PM
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Wait a minute... Let me see if I have this right: You asked a woman to share a hotel room with you "..strictly as friends" ?!? Who are you kidding?
 
Old Jul 19th, 1999, 03:51 PM
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hmmmmmm, Ian, you might be in for something. I've now been married to my husband for nearly 30 years and our first official date was..... Hawaii, yes, as friends! Yes, Decent Tropical - it happens. A mutual close friend introduced us, we met a couple times (but no real dates) and hit it off. And he proposed before we even got home. It was a year or so before we got married tho. We still love to tell the story. Will look forward to hearing about your trip, Ian.
 
Old Jul 19th, 1999, 07:12 PM
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A great romantic story, but did you share a hotel room when you were still "just friends"?
 

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