Tiff, I don't know what to say except that I am so very sorry. Hugs to you and your husband. AnnMarie

Tiff-
So sorry to hear your sad news. My first pregnancy was ectopic but unfortunately burst and only a strange series of lucky events caused my husband to return home in time to scoop me off the floor and off to the hospital in time to have surgery. Since then despite having only one fallopian tube I had three beautiful, amazing kids. My heartfelt best wishes for you!!!!

Oh, Tiff, I am so sorry. My heart is breaking for you and your husband. Please know we are here for you. It may be hard to think this way now, but I truly believe there is a reason for everything. Figuring out the reason is the tough part. Stay strong!

Otto--so sorry to hear about your grandfather! My condolences.

Thank you all for your extremely heartfelt words. We lost our first baby last year to a rare disorder (happens to one in every 40,000 babies). We were at 16 weeks. So it was comforting to read and made my eyes tear up that people like you CAPH, had the blessing of a healthy baby after two losses... Or you SueHoff, despite an ectopic and then one fallopian tube, were able to conceive three children.

You all continue to be an inspiration. Thank you.

Tiff, I'm sorry to hear about the eptopic pregnancy. A friend of mine had an eptopic pregnancy the first time around. She now has 2 healthy kids.

And congrats to OWJ, and Mr. OWJ. A child should be so fortunate to have you as a parent.

Tiff, I said this once before on this board and I'm not sure it came across quite right. And it may not this time either but, here goes...My son always says he's glad we had the two miscarriages 'cause he knows if we hadn't, we wouldn't have had him. Oh, we would have had a child-- maybe a girl, maybe a boy with a different mix of genes. But we wouldn't have had HIM. And, looking at it in that way, I too am glad we had the miscarriages. It makes me very sad to think that we might never have gotten to know and love the kid we have now.

BTW, I was rushing to get to work earlier! Meant to say "ectopic".

Tiff,
I'm at work so can't write you a private message right now but couldn't wait til I got home.

Sweetie, I wish we lived closer because I would come over in a NY second and give you and Mr. Tiff big hugs, make something for dinner and bring a Costco sized supply of Kleenex. My heart is breaking for you both. I know only too well what roller coasters pregnancy are and wished so, soo hard for you to make it to the finish line.

I guess the good news is is that people do have successful pregnancies after ectopics. My coworker K is an example. She has two gorgeous girls and this is despite being a DES baby and having a wacky shaped uterus.

OWJ

CAPH--Your son is a wise young man. That's a great way of thinking of it and I bet Tiff will take your words in the way that they were meant. I could see how caring they were and have little doubt our sweet Tiff will too. I know we all want to wrap our arms around her and Mr. Tiff and make things better, or at least easier.

OWJ

Tiff, I am so sorry to hear the news. My thoughts are prayers are with you and your husband. I wish I could comfort you. Lisa

CAPH, OWJ is wise beyond her years, of course I took your heartfelt words in the manner of which you intended. It is the same as I feel about my DH, it I hadn't had heartbreak, I wouldn't have the blessing of being married to him. Even though I have had tears in my eyes all day, there is a hope down deep inside me that never completely goes out, thank you for your caring ways.

OWJ ~ I wish we lived closer too, dear friend, so much. You are a love, thank you for your virtual dinner and kleenex, could we get a little dessert with that too?
(Ok, is it conceited that the above dessert request just made me laugh for a second -- laughter through tears is my favorite medicine...)

Oh man guys, that which does not kill us...

I have to tell you about my little Sophie ((&)) When I was lying down earlier, trying to distract myself with a movie hoping I could nap, she came over and cuddled with me as always, but this time, she actually placed her head on top of my head and just sat there very still with her head on top of mine. (Ok, I am crying again now, but I had to tell you this, especially if cmcfong checks in). She is an angel.

Thank you oldmyst, dearly, I just saw what you wrote.

Oh Tiff, words fail me. I wish I could give you and your husband the heart boost you need right now. I believe God works for each of us and He will bless you and your dear husband. You are such warm and beautiful people, He will find a way.
I am grateful you are sharing each step of this journey with us, my heart and prayers are with you. My shoulder is here for you, too, dear heart. Bless that dear little Sophie for being there to give you just the right touch. @};-

Thank you my cmcfong, what you said was precious, it comforts me more than you know. I won't lose hope, don't worry. God has blessed us so much, if this is all there is, I have much to be grateful for and even through times like these I count my blessings.

Hello dear Tiff, you already know how my heart and prayers go to you and your DH. You have been in my thoughts since I woke up this morning. Like OWJ I wish we lived in the same city..I would like to be there with you to give you hugs, comfort and a heart full of love.

Oh Tiff, you lift my heart with your courage and strength. God bless you.

You truly are an inspiration, Tiff!

Tiff, lo siento mi amiga.
My DIL had a rare and potentially dangerous cervical ectopic not long ago, but was treated effectively with MTX and did not require surgery.
M

Whatcha want for dessert, dear friend? I'll whip something up right now with a twitch of my nose, just like Samantha Stevens!! Love ya, Tiff!

Tiff, I lurk on FFR&R and was so happy about your news. (You took me on that magical trip to Florence with you)... And now I am so sorry to hear the latest update. You have so much support here and have heard so many positive stories. I wish you the best possible outcome and will keep you in my prayers. I just know that good things are waiting for you.

This is so sad...

My condolences to Otto on your grandfather. No words can say what I feel right now, as I remember the death of my beloved grandmother vividly, even though it was almost 8 years ago. She was simply irreplaceable, as I know your grandfather was.

My condolences to you too, Tiff. I hope you are given the blessing soon to be a mother. Any child that comes your way will certainly be in heaven on earth.