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Convincing husband that NYC is a great place to visit.

Nov 25th, 2002, 10:53 AM
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Oh NYC, the unwashed ass of american society. They all think it is great, who live there. Why would anyone with any other place to visit go there? Culture? In a pigs eye!!!!
 
Nov 25th, 2002, 10:55 AM
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Response to Ellen:

I really don't know why I'm responding, as this thread has nothing to do with me. But, in answer to your questions, I'm from the West Coast - Southern California - and my vacation destination interests are varied. Sometimes I like the peace and quiet of more rustic destinations, other times I like the hustle and bustle of cities.

Still wondering what this has to do with Janet's situation....
 
Nov 25th, 2002, 10:56 AM
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The same thing can (and is) said about Miami, Cuba.
 
Nov 25th, 2002, 10:58 AM
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Have fun in Branson, Todd. Or, if you really want to walk on the wild side, Disneyworld. Leave New York for the grown-ups.
 
Nov 25th, 2002, 11:15 AM
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Janet - my brother was the same as your husband - a real outdoors, hiking kind of guy. He had to go to NYC for a conference at Columbia and originally planned to just fly in, attend the conference and fly out. I convinced him to spend an extra couple of days to see the sights. I told him even if seeing "the big city" didn't interest him too much, he should take this opportunity to see this wonderful city for himself. It is so much a part of our American culture - we see it every day in movies and on tv. I guess that doesn't sound all that convincing, but I did get him to spend the extra time there. Bottom line, HE LOVED IT! He was completely surprised at the effect the city had on him and even admitted he would go back if he had the chance. I hope your husband will open his mind and give NYC a chance.
 
Nov 25th, 2002, 11:42 AM
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Thanks xxx, sounds promising. What did your husband in NYC on his trip?
Actually, we had a friend visit this weekend who was telling my husband about the trip he took to NYC last year in the winter - sitting in a restaurant overlooking Rockefeller Center, watching skaters and how wonderful it was.
 
Nov 27th, 2002, 03:56 AM
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Dear Janet, I had to carefully negotiate a trip to NYC with my husband when I wanted to see the Rockettes Xmas show. As long as he didn't have to drive, he agreed to go. He was flabbergasted by the beauty of the theater and the amazing stage and effects. We did not go on the tour but I think he would have enjoyed a behind the scenes view of things. Another year he jumped at the opportunity when a friend invited him on a boat tour of the harbor. Pick something your husband might like to do and he might change his mind. You both can survive a couple of days even if he doesn't have a great time. He can always spend a few hours on his own reading a book or using the hotel gym. My husband was able to feel comfortable in the areas we visited. Good luck and I hope you all enjoy the trip.
 
Nov 27th, 2002, 10:57 AM
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janet - my brother stayed at the Beacon Hotel. He saw Central Park, the Museum of Natural History, the Metropolitan Museum, Times Square, rode the subway, took the Staten Island Ferry, went to a jazz club and heard Les Paul and saw Jon Stewart at the Beacon Theater. Not bad for someone who didn't want to go at all!
 
Mar 14th, 2003, 06:14 AM
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Just found this old thread, but I wanted to add my 'twopenneth-worth'! We are from England, and our trip to the USA 2+ years ago involved a four day stay in NYC. My partner was very keen on this part of the trip, but I felt a bit apprehensive to say the least! You will laugh, but when I arrived in our hotel, I almost felt afraid to leave! I too, had visions of the 70's movies in my mind. After (gentle!) persuasion, I joined the throngs on the streets to visit all the sights we wanted to see. I must say, my trepidation was totally unfounded! I found the City so unbelievably exciting and I felt very safe. There were Police Officers all over the place. I live 30 miles from London, visit occasionally but I felt safer in NYC. I was bowled over, and will hopefully return in the not to distant future.
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Apr 20th, 2003, 05:57 PM
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Janet, tell him to talk to me. LOL:

I am a 20 year old White blonde/blue-eyed girl living alone in the Bronx and have never been bothered here. If I am a girl living alone in the 'hood, it'll be a piece of cake for your husband. : )

I used to work in the city (Manhattan) in the summer, had to take the subways at night, and wouldn't get back to the Bronx until 2-5 AM and really never felt unsafe. The majority of Manhattan is extremely safe. It's basically Uptown (96th St. & above on the east and 116th & above on the west) and the outer boroughs that are more questionable. I have actually had similar problems with friends/family (who live in AND out of the city) as you're having with your husband. If you look at the crime rates of all major American cities, we are at the bottom. One friend of mine who lives in the suburbs was deathly scared of NYC, too and now he will come shopping with me in Harlem and the South Bronx.

If he sees all the familes with very young children walking around NYC, he wi8ll probably feel much better.

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Apr 20th, 2003, 05:59 PM
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>>Tell your husband not to worry about the crime so much, unless you go to Bronx or places like that.

Well, I'm still here. LOL Free tours of the Bronx!
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Apr 20th, 2003, 06:10 PM
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This is an old question and I don't even know if Janet is still around but, I asked this very same question back in January and got excellent advice (along with some bashing). The advice I got was to appeal NYC to my husband's interests which are sports. We are going to a Yankee's game and he is very excited about that. I don't know your husband but, I would guess he's just using mugging as an excuse. My husband is an outdoors(mountains, waterfalls, streams, fishing) type of guy too but, I talked up NYC so much that he's actually excited about going now. We are also, planning 8 days in New England as well which helped. So, you might try a Yankee game as an effort of compromise or some other area of interest he has that NYC has to offer.
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Apr 20th, 2003, 08:46 PM
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You might not be able to convince your husband. Perhaps you can think about what he likes to do. Ballgames? Observation decks, such as Empire State Building? USS Intrepid aircraft carrier? Art (if so what kind?). Eating (even NY pizza)?

Thing about that but tell your husband that you want to go to NYC for a few days. You could then do some things that he would like to do. He may even admit that he enjoyed the trip. If he hates crowds, take taxis instead of the subway.
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Apr 20th, 2003, 08:48 PM
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Most people who hate cities would like the Circle Line cruise around Manhattan or visiting the Statue of Liberty.

I doubt that he does not want to go because of fear of mugging.
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