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A new entry in discussion about tipping the maid

A new entry in discussion about tipping the maid

Mar 8th, 2004, 05:11 PM
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Further to Patrick's comments, and while I always leave a housekeeping tip, unless it's deficient each and every day, I often wonder who actually picks up the gratuity versus who actually did the better job on the days we returned to a perfect room as opposed to the days some things were omitted.

But, regarding one-night stays, this is when I am most likely to be generous. You just never know what condition(s) the maid assigned to your room that day had to overcome to make the room perfect for you - or whether that specific maid will receive the gratuity.
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Mar 8th, 2004, 05:14 PM
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To those who corrected me re: which Tisch and which Loew's -- thanks. Should have been a bit more careful with Googling and inverting letters.

To the not-so-humble Patrick -- seems to me that your line of reasoning is just an excuse to avoid tipping. In the hospitality industry, people who are "just doing their job" are part of a system where compensation presumes tipping. Anyone whose job is to make YOUR stay, specifically, as pleasant as possible is worth tipping. Tip more for difficult or yucky work, tip more for special or very successful service (concierge gets you ungettable tickets); tip less for bad attitude or incompetence. But who makes a bigger difference in your comfort than housekeeping? And yes, I tip the handyman.

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Mar 8th, 2004, 05:26 PM
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Well, to the less than humble soccr, where do you leave your tips for the handyman? Or do you meet him personally and take him out for dinner as well? Sorry, but if you leave tips for the handyman who hasn't come to your room and fixed something while you're there, (at big hotels there must be what five or six of them at least) then you are really one of the biggest fools I've ever heard from.

No, I'm not trying to get out of tipping. I tip well for those who do a personal service for me, including as I said, the maid who cleans my room once I'm in it and has to work around my stuff. Believe it or not, however, I also don't normally tip the check-in person who has the worst job of all. He or she has to deal with the public, yelling and screaming about their rooms, their reservations, and everything else. Even though I have personal contact with them, and I know their job is a real bitch, I don't give them a tip. You no doubt do, along with the groundskeepers, the janitors, the lawn sprinkler repair man, the air-conditioning repair people, the elevator repair people, and all the others whom you have no contact with, but whom are all underpaid but all help to make your stay more enjoyable. And how do you ever get in contact with the person who hung the draperies before you arrived or cleaned the bedspreads the last time or painted the room when it needed it? Or the decorator who worked so hard to make your room a nicer place to stay? These are all people who have worked hard to make your room nice, even though you have had no more contact with them than the maid who came in the day before you arrived and made up the bed and cleaned the room that you would eventually stay in. A hotel stay must cost you a fortune!!!
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Mar 8th, 2004, 05:38 PM
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I don't tip for one night stays either because I always wear out the poor housekeeping staff traipsing back and forth from my room.

The first trip from housekeeping goes something like this. Unpack to realize there are not enough hangers in the closet for my clothes. Trip #1 from housekeeping $2 tip.

Return from dinner.

Husband realizes he doesn't have enough pillows to make pillow tent in bed to support 96 bones in his back, legs, neck, and head.

Trip #2 from housekeeping. Overtip $10 for the 7 extra pillows because of all the wine at dinner. Oops, housekeeping realizes two are down. Will make husband sneeze. Housekeeping trip #3 replaces down pillows with synthetic fiber. $2 tip for the extra trip. Wine puts me to sleep.

7AM realize there is no equal with the coffee and coffee pot only horrid pink stuff and sugar. Trip #4 from housekeeping with sugar, extra coffee, equal and creamer they've snaked from the kitchen. $5 tip for being so nice and bringing me real milk for my coffee.

So by the time I've checked out of my one night stay, I've tipped just about everyone on staff and housekeeping has gotten about $20 out of me.
Mar 8th, 2004, 05:39 PM
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Ouch, what hot button must I have hit?

I tip the handyman who stops the toilet from gurgling etc., not on spec but when he does something for me, "specifically." The rest of what you wrote is just invective silliness, as you must know.

But I originally posted this because Tisch (Jonathan, of Loew's) identified the chambermaid's job as the worst and noted, himself, that the maids are the ones least likely to get tipped. That remains the point. So tip the maid, for pete's sake; if you can afford to travel, surely you can afford the $2-$5 or so per day to recognize the service.
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Mar 8th, 2004, 05:42 PM
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Woops, not quite in time -- that was in response to Patrick, not GoTravel (who has her own way of recognizing service!).
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Boys, boys, settle down! Seems to me, Soccr and Patrick have misunderstood each other. Soccr wasn't saying to tip everyone in the entire place; and Patrick does tip the maid.

Soccr's original point is well taken, however, that Tisch had a lot of nerve telling people to tip his maids more instead of considering raising their wages. Wonder, just as a matter of curiosity, what kind of tipper Tisch is, himself?
Mar 8th, 2004, 05:52 PM
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It ALWAYS happens. Just last week we spent one night in a hotel.

We got take out food from Carabbas. Got back to the room, realized we had no utensils, called front desk, they sent up housekeeping with utensils and linens. Trip #1 tipped $5.

Went to pour a glass of wine. Realized we had no wine opener. Trip #2 from housekeeping $3.

It never fails that we have housekeeping running back and forth to our room on single night stays. It never happens for multiples.
Mar 8th, 2004, 05:58 PM
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Hmm...maids almost never get a tip, yet everybody here claims they are avid maid tippers (with the exception of the honest AND humble Patrick). Hah!

Myself? I never even knew about tipping the maid til I read it here on Fodor's a couple of years ago...it exemplifies the old saying "To Insure Good Service" since you're still around to reap the benefits. It does work, doesn't it?
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Mar 8th, 2004, 06:02 PM
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Go Travel--
We must have been "Separated At Birth"
in our "Previous Travel Lives",
because exactly the same thing always happens to me and I do the same thing as you do. $$$$LOL$$$
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Mar 8th, 2004, 06:08 PM
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"I tip the handyman who stops the toilet from gurgling etc., not on spec but when he does something for me, "specifically." The rest of what you wrote is just invective silliness, as you must know."

Well, duh, of course you tip him if he comes to your room and does something special!! I'd tip the maid for a one night stay too if I called and had her remake the bed or bring more towels. That certainly wasn't the point. I was talking about NOT tipping someone who has no personal contact with me or who has done nothing other than his/her basic job at the hotel which is what a handeyman normally does or a maid normally does or any of those other people do. When you said you tip the handeyman when we were talking about having no personal contact with the worker, I took you literally. Sorry, I didn't realize I wasn't supposed to do that.

And as far as "invective silliness" what do you call your original comment about the "not so humble Patrick? And the idea that because I explained my position that I don't tip someone who has done nothing personal for me that I must be trying to justify cheapness?? Far from it!!
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Jul 26th, 2004, 02:37 PM
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OMG this whole situation is so aggravating for me. I have been a chambermaid for 14 years, at the same hotel. Since I was 20 years old. We are full just about every day, with 30 rooms. In total, over 14 years, I would imagine I have recieved MAYBE 15 tips. People dont think they should tip maids. WHY? I dont think a waitress deserves a tip, who takes me my food, and wipes my table? I make your bed, clean your toilet, wash your dishes, I have cleaned up your vomit, feces and whatever else you choose to do that day. I get so angry when I hear a waitress complain about a small tip. Try getting no tip whatsoever.
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Jul 26th, 2004, 03:22 PM
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This is an interesting conversation!

I always tip $2-3 per night and leave it with a thank-you note on the nightstand at the end of my stay. (I usually stay at moderate hotels, not palaces.) I also make sure all my trash is thrown away, used towels are gathered up, toilet is flushed, and linens are at least on top of the bed before I go. I'm always afraid the maid will think I was a slob otherwise!


1) Where/how is the proper place to leave a tip for the maid? (Especially if you are tipping daily. How does the maid know it's okay to take the money?)

2) Does anyone else have my strange habit of "cleaning up" the room before they leave?
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Jul 26th, 2004, 03:45 PM
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Always tip and always clean up. Wife thinks I am crazy (for cleaning up b/c they are coming to clean up the room anyway).
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Jul 26th, 2004, 03:49 PM
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I don't know the rules of tip etiquette but I generally tip at the end of my stay whether it's a budget hotel or not.
It's the least I can do.
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Jul 26th, 2004, 03:59 PM
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I heard that leaving the tip on the pillow was one way to signify it's for the maid.

I also heard you want to tip nightly, not all at once at the end of your stay because the maids could change daily, and not all of them put the tips in the community pot, so to speak.
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Jul 26th, 2004, 04:21 PM
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Read Barbara Ehrenreich's NYT bestseller, "Nickel and Dimed" and you will get an eye full of women in low-wage occupations.
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Jul 26th, 2004, 04:43 PM
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Hi, I just wanted to apologize for being in a bad mood earlier, LOL. We usually get crew guys, not tourists, so that is probably why they are so messy. This probably doesnt apply to most of you. Tourists are never as filthy as they are. thanks for listening to me complain, its not all I do, I swear
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Jul 26th, 2004, 05:32 PM
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Just browsing and found this. Happens to be a particular beef of mine re; tipping on cruise ships! Now I find it in a post about hotel maids.
First, I always tip, and daily. I leave it with a thank you note addressed to "maid service" on the desk. I figure that if i don't use that room again, I'm "paying it forward" I dearly wish that owners would pay decent wages so these tips would be just that, little extras, but they aren't.
I worked as a waitress during university days. I remember how much I needed those tips.

What I am finding really abhorrent is the forced pooling of tips so that the "behind the scenes crew' (that's the plumber, rug cleaner, window washer and ? knows who else) that HAL cruise line have decided will benefit from gratuities billed to my onboard account. Don't know if hotels are also forcing pooling. Hope not. I want to reward only those whose services I want to recognize.
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Jul 26th, 2004, 05:38 PM
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P.s. The book "Nickle and dimed' was very informative. Anyone who thinks minimum wages are OK should be required to try living on them.

Somewhere I heard that the definition of evil is inability to empathisize. All who are concerned about this question are grappling with an ethical question.
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