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Connie Jan 17th, 2004 06:10 AM

Most hospitals have a social worker type person. Go by and have a chat with them. Then you'll have a friendly face to help you on that end, if it comes to that.

jtp Jan 17th, 2004 07:20 AM

Lisa, lots of prayers to you! How is your Father-in-law?
November my Dad died out of State. My sister & I flew immediately to Florida to be with our Mother, our husbands contacted the NJ funeral home we have "always" done business with. Dad had a history of a heart condition, the fineral home in NJ worked directly with aMOrt. in Florida and Dad actually arrived home before we did -- this all took less then 72 hours. It was not inexpensive.
Because Dad had a round trip ticket, the airline reembursed my Mother for the "unused" seat... It took about 3 weeks to get the death certificate from Florida, and it went directly to the NJ Funeral Home, but everything was very well coordinated.

lisa Jan 20th, 2004 08:42 AM

Bless all you fine people here on Fodors for your good wishes. I flew out to visit him over the long weekend. He got out of intensive care yesterday and is awaiting heart surgery sometime later this week. He is surrounded by family, and we are all more hopeful than we were last week.

Interestingly, it turns out that at the same time when he purchased his burial plot, he also purchased a prepaid plan through his local funeral home which will eventually cover all his funerary expenses, including the cost of transporting his body from the place of death (wherever that is) to the funeral home. He has made some quite specific plans, including choosing a coffin. None of his children knew this however. So as a result of this health scare, we all know a lot more about what to do for him when the time comes (and what has already been arranged).

Although not pleasant to think about, this is something we are all going to have to deal with someday, and I actually think it was quite courageous of him to have taken care of so much of this in advance, so that it will be easier on his family at what will certainly be a difficult time.

And it also reminded me how important it is not only to plan, but to communicate those plans to loved ones.

Statia Jan 20th, 2004 09:59 AM

Thanks for the update, Lisa. Although I had no advice to offer you, I have been following the thread and I'm glad to hear things are working out. I hope he makes a full recovery.

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