Convince my girlfriend to move to Amsterdam!!!
Jun 12th, 2017, 02:36 PM
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I don't really care -it could be a gimmick or real -if real it is unreal - I mean 15 seconds to say why? That sounds like a gimmick to me but I don't really care.
He got a whole lot of advice -good and bad just from this one site.
He got a whole lot of advice -good and bad just from this one site.
Jun 12th, 2017, 03:23 PM
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Hey Chis if yuy're still here - Why not tell your gf you need an answer by a certain date. With a deadline you can both give a sigh of relief when a decision is made by a definite date.
You have obviously made up your mind to go no matter what she wants or decides to do. Perhaps she can stay in rhe U.S. with her great job and visit you now and then, and you also can visit the U.S. and her during this year.
You have obviously made up your mind to go no matter what she wants or decides to do. Perhaps she can stay in rhe U.S. with her great job and visit you now and then, and you also can visit the U.S. and her during this year.
Jun 12th, 2017, 03:43 PM
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Perhaps she can stay in rhe U.S. with her great job and visit you now and then, and you also can visit the U.S. and her during this year.>
So the greater job makes the decision where to live? If that were so she would not have a quandry except for immigration -Chris is pudtting the ole cart in front of the horse.
And yes there is some male chauvinism here.
So the greater job makes the decision where to live? If that were so she would not have a quandry except for immigration -Chris is pudtting the ole cart in front of the horse.
And yes there is some male chauvinism here.
Jun 12th, 2017, 05:05 PM
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Pal - I didn't say that hers or his was the greater job. I'm just quoting Chris was saying his gf has a great job. His may be a great job too! After all, he's excited to go to Amsterdam and has already made up his mind. With my suggestion, they both have their choices which will be cemented by a certain date. He obviously is going to go to Amsterdam and she will decide what she wants too.
suze - I don't agree that putting a time line on her answer means she will say "no". Why in the world would you think that? It may, in fact, help her to come to a decision if she's holding back. I have never found a deadline to be anything but helpful.
BTW - I told my now husband who wanted us to move in together that I would only get married. Not because marriage means so much to me - I'd be happy with living without a marriage certificate if I knew for sure that commitment meant the same thing to my partner as it does to me - but I didn't. Additionally I wasn't going to give up my apt. if he wasn't ready to make a commitment. If he had said "no" to my wishes, then so be it. He wouldn't have been the one. We've been married for 25 years.
suze - I don't agree that putting a time line on her answer means she will say "no". Why in the world would you think that? It may, in fact, help her to come to a decision if she's holding back. I have never found a deadline to be anything but helpful.
BTW - I told my now husband who wanted us to move in together that I would only get married. Not because marriage means so much to me - I'd be happy with living without a marriage certificate if I knew for sure that commitment meant the same thing to my partner as it does to me - but I didn't. Additionally I wasn't going to give up my apt. if he wasn't ready to make a commitment. If he had said "no" to my wishes, then so be it. He wouldn't have been the one. We've been married for 25 years.
Jun 12th, 2017, 06:47 PM
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It's not that he mentioned babies or or even that they are not married.
It's that he's apparently only moving for one year and he asked strangers on the internet to convince the lady to leave a decent job to live in Amsterdam and take classes that probably would not help her career at all.
And it's that his website says that his girlfriend is afraid she won't find a job there. She's right. She won't. On a tourist visa, she can't work. Period. And she can't stay for the full year, anyway.
Loony. Girl's probably around my age, maybe a few years younger, and no doubt very aware of the job market she'd be returning to. Moving to Italy, I could see. Moving to Amsterdam temporarily, dependent on boyfriend? Nope.
It's that he's apparently only moving for one year and he asked strangers on the internet to convince the lady to leave a decent job to live in Amsterdam and take classes that probably would not help her career at all.
And it's that his website says that his girlfriend is afraid she won't find a job there. She's right. She won't. On a tourist visa, she can't work. Period. And she can't stay for the full year, anyway.
Loony. Girl's probably around my age, maybe a few years younger, and no doubt very aware of the job market she'd be returning to. Moving to Italy, I could see. Moving to Amsterdam temporarily, dependent on boyfriend? Nope.
Jun 13th, 2017, 02:17 AM
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What Marvelousmouse says.
It's only a year. She can come visit him. He can go visit her (as he'll probably have more holiday time).
Will Chris give up this Amsterdam job to go spend a year with his girlfriend in the US? Even if he could get a visa for a year in the US? That could be great for him, he can do a few courses and hang out while his GF works and supports him.
It's only a year. She can come visit him. He can go visit her (as he'll probably have more holiday time).
Will Chris give up this Amsterdam job to go spend a year with his girlfriend in the US? Even if he could get a visa for a year in the US? That could be great for him, he can do a few courses and hang out while his GF works and supports him.
Jun 13th, 2017, 07:47 AM
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<Why in the world would you think that?>
If someone invited me to Amsterdam for a year, on their dime no less, and I was interested but still contemplating this major life change and decision... I would see red if they threw in "and you need to give me an answer by July 31st". Not a chance buddy.
If someone invited me to Amsterdam for a year, on their dime no less, and I was interested but still contemplating this major life change and decision... I would see red if they threw in "and you need to give me an answer by July 31st". Not a chance buddy.
