thetruth |
Aug 24th, 2001 06:47 AM |
Tony - I of course agree that the frequency of children's social infractions exceeds that of adults'. But since the potential severity of children's (mis)behavior is so much less serious, I consider that an important mitigating factor: I'd still take a ratio of 1000 crying babies to 1 bomb ;-> <BR> <BR>My previous posts attempted to be humorous, but I'd like to add something more seriously. I hope it doesn't sound too saccharine or sanctimonious - I'm aiming for some polite and thoughtful communication here, so I'll do my best to start it out in that direction. <BR> <BR>I personally really strongly believe that we all, as humans on this planet, have a stake in raising physically and emotionally healthy children whether we have any of our own or not. Common human decency aside, at the very least there is a selfish reason to be interested in the next generation or two: who do you think is gonna grow our food, perform our surgeries, or fly our planes on all our wonderful travels when we're 70? Another 70 year old? No thanks. (OK, I'm sure there are plenty of 70-year-olds who could do all that just fine, but you get the idea - I'm already tired at 50!) <BR> <BR>One of the things I've noticed in my years of traveling and living in both Asia and Europe (I am a US native) is how different cultures treat children, their own and other people's, both publicly and privately. And I must say, in my view, the US does not have a great deal to be proud of vis-a-vis many other countries in that regard. The underlying assumption in the US too often seems to be that children are sort of like dogs: if you like them in a general sort of way, or if you currently have some of your own, you are willing to put up with the necessary inconveniences they cause, and if you don't like them as a group, or no longer have one, you think they should be a)kept at home or b)kept on a leash and that you have no responsibility towards them at all. <BR> <BR>I believe the cluelessness exhibited by some parents and the attendant public misbehavior of some young children can, in some small part at least, be attributed to the lack of general social support, tolerance and understanding both parents and children often encounter here. Part of the problem in the US is the heterogeneity of our culture - a diversity of beliefs and expectations is a blessing in many ways, but it can be confusing to young children, and to their parents too. (To xxx who seems to relish the idea of mothers (why not fathers?) being arrested because their baby misbehaved: did you know that in the US mothers have been arrested for slapping their children in public? The messages we give parents in our country are incredibly contradictory and hypocritcal.) In countries I have been in that have much more homogeneous expectations for children's behavior, and more social support for the parents, the public behavior of young children seems to conform much more to those expectations. <BR> <BR>We, as travelers, are presumably a group of people interested in differences and willing to tolerate inconveniences (like even sitting on a plane for 9 hours in the first place) in the pursuit of knowledge and wide experience. So I would just ask people to exhibit those same qualities towards young children and their frazzled, incompetent (did you do anything perfectly the first time you did it?) parents. <BR> <BR>Then maybe the children who kick seats at two won't become the adults who bring a bomb on the plane at 22!
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