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Old Jul 17th, 2008, 07:06 AM
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No, even though my wife has family there. Canada, yes, certain other European countries, yes. My wife and I discussed recently where we might want to move to as we are retiring soon, and we both homed in on Canada.

The USA is a place to go and visit and then come home from. The first time (of many) I went there a colleague told me to treat it like a foreign country where I could speak the language. Good advice.

I think people get carried away with the emotion of a good holiday and think a new country will be like that all the time.

And both the lack of the Daily Telegraph and the abysmal TV are major deterrents.

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<i>religious biggotry</i>

I would say that religious tolerance in the US (including tolerance of the outwardly religious) is at least as high in the US as in Europe. That may not be saying much, though...

<i>gun crime</i>

I am constantly amazed at how often this is mentioned. I have never known anyone who was the victim of gun crime. I have never known anyone that has ever known anyone who was the victim of a gun crime. Even were you to live in an area with a high incidence of gun crime, your likelihood of being a victim is exceedingly low. Worrying about it strikes me as a bit irrational.

<i>It would be akin to thinking that every place in the United Kingdom is as expensive to live in and as traffic-congested as London.</i>

Exactly. I grew up in a town were serious crime simply did not exist. We left our home unlocked for 7 years. Our idea of vigilance was putting the car keys in the ashtray, rather than leaving them in the ignition.

<i>entirely car-oriented culture.</i>

This isn't entirely true. One can get by quite well without a car in several major US cities, including Boston, New York, Philadelphia, Chicago, DC, and San Francisco. And many other cities are less car-dependent than one would think.

<i>I'm a fan of Cape Cod, but bugger all chance of getting a medical research post there, I would imagine</i>

Well, it would be a commute, but medical research posts go begging in Boston, Cambridge, and (to a lesser extent) Providence. Or do as many Bostonians do and spend your summer weekends at the Cape or in Southern Maine or in the Berkshires. The proximity to such places is part of the appeal of living in Boston.

<i>I prefer living in a region with 2000 years of history instead of 250.</i>

I know some Native American scholars that would take issue with that statement. It may not be the history you are interested in, but it is history nonetheless.


All of that aside, like I stated on the &quot;would you move to Europe&quot; thread, it would likely be more of a hassle and expense than we imagine when it is just a pie-in-the-sky fantasy. And there is the issue that home is home, and the pool of people willing to move, even for a short period is exceedingly small. It simply isn't for everyone.
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Old Jul 17th, 2008, 07:29 AM
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My kids enjoy a freedom in Switzerland that seems to have fazed out in the US. They walk to school, play in the neighborhood streets for hours, parents know each other and schools are still well-functioning. For after school activities, my kids walk to their locations.

If I had enough money, I could move back to be with my brothers and sisters but I wouldn't want to do it to my kids.
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Old Jul 17th, 2008, 07:35 AM
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The daughter of our next door neighbor here in Maidenhead has lived in the U.S. for a few years. She and her husband love it. Our neighbor three doors down dreams of moving to the U.S., spends most of his vacations there, and will probably retire there. The people who live five doors down are about to put their house up for sale so they can retire in the U.S.

Schuler, my niece walks to school, plays with her friends outside for hours, walks to most of her activities, her school is fantastic, and her parents are well acquainted with the parents of her friends. So the life you have described has NOT been phased out, not where she lives and not in many other places as well.
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Old Jul 17th, 2008, 07:39 AM
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only to New York ( love the art scene) , and only if I had tons of money ( the place has so much to offer, but like most big cities ie. Paris or London, to enjoy it all is very costly. Good health coverage
in US must cost a mint.
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Old Jul 17th, 2008, 07:40 AM
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As the others suggested on the Europe thread, I would for a while. Also a half-half time split would be nice (for a while - don´t know how long). But I don´t think a complete move to the USA would be on the books for me. One emigration per lifetime is enough.
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Old Jul 17th, 2008, 07:48 AM
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&quot;I would say that religious tolerance in the US (including tolerance of the outwardly religious) is at least as high in the US as in Europe. That may not be saying much, though...&quot;


I think the intolerance (in small towns) would be more towards people who were not religious.

&quot; I know some Native American scholars that would take issue with that statement. It may not be the history you are interested in, but it is history nonetheless.&quot;

I bit of a crock!
I am yet to hear an American politician, news commentator or an ordinary person expressing their
interest or pride pride in the native America history as &quot; the history of the US&quot;.




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Old Jul 17th, 2008, 07:56 AM
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I would be unhappy in a country where I would only be one injury or infection away from bankruptcy. I don't know how the average septic lives like this.

I think I'd get mighty pissed off with the weather too. It seems to me that America is either too hot or too cold with very little in the middle.
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Old Jul 17th, 2008, 08:13 AM
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&quot;&quot; I know some Native American scholars that would take issue with that statement. It may not be the history you are interested in, but it is history nonetheless.&quot;

I was pondering that.

If you take archeology as history, there is no much in it. Modern humans turned up in both Europe and America in and around 40,000 years ago.

Sadly, most of the ancient Europeans and the pre Columbian Indians didn't write much down.
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Old Jul 17th, 2008, 08:30 AM
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For fun, here are some things that I enjoy about living in the US.

1. Water: Public drinking fountains in most locations, all the free water at restaraunts you want.

2. Public restrooms: Lots and lots of restrooms, most are even free and also have toilet seats.

3. Handicap accessibility: So much, it can almost seem extreme, but it's appreciated by those who need it.

4. Crime, personally in the US, I have never experienced any crime, my only experience with crime happened 3 weeks ago in Italy.

4. Friendly people: I really believe Americans are friendly. Sometimes saying Thank You can be an all day event, with the Thank you exchanges.

5. Volunteerism: Everybody wants to help others.

6. Low prices: Really a good value for those visiting from other countries and for other Americans.
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Old Jul 17th, 2008, 08:35 AM
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Yes but archaeology isn't really history, as some of us mean it.

If I go to the Christmas midnight service at the Anglican church next door, I'm attending almost the exact same service - give or take the odd change in language or doctrinal tweak - as occupants of my house's site have attended in that church practically every Christmas Eve for the past 900 years.

If I drive to Florence, I'm following the route taken by the wool those occupants sold to Prato merchants to pay for the church, and its endless subsequent tartings-up.

If I research the emperors who originally caused the road at the end of the street to be built, I see they laid down maximum prices that could be charged for cloaks made from that wool.

There's a world of difference between being part of a permanent flow of history and observing someone else's.
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Old Jul 17th, 2008, 08:45 AM
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I agree with Flanneur on this.

I lived my childhood years in a house the predates the mayflower.

I went to a school that was built in 1387 and still has many of the original buildings.

I got married and bought a house that was built in 1650.

I am typing this in an office which is on a roman road and near the longest georgian frontage in the world.

I'd miss all that.
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Old Jul 17th, 2008, 09:02 AM
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As a first born American citizen and still having strong ties to the European community, I would be most happy having a home in the U.S. and Europe. Having grandparents and a mother who moved to America in the 1950's and more recently, a father who moved to America from Germany in 2000, I see no issues with them disliking the U.S. If anything, I travel to Europe more often than they do. They have adjusted quite well to the American way of life. Just as I would if I moved to Europe. It's not the country, it's who you are that defines how well you adapt/adjust to a new way of life.

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&quot;I think I'd get mighty pissed off with the weather too. It seems to me that America is either too hot or too cold with very little in the middle.&quot;

Be sure to visit California... The weather is marvelous and lacks the humidity that you'd find in several parts of Europe.



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Old Jul 17th, 2008, 09:11 AM
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Born and raised a Yankee, I now live in a large southern city in, of course, the USA. I have lived in Europe, and the UK in the 70's and 80's, and loved every minute of it. My son was raised there, and received a much better primary education then he would have here in the US. So much better, that when we moved back here, the school did not know what to do with him. He had to take the usual history classes, US, Texas State, in order to graduate, but that was it, and he was off to college. Our experiences living overseas are priceless, and I am fortunate to be able to visit Europe &amp; the UK several times a year for business and leisure. However, home....will always be here in the US. I love my homeland as much as you all love yours, and that is how it should be.

As for crime, It's all relative...I just don't go into areas that are suspect....even when I am visiting your lovely countries. It's been posted here many times.....most tourists would not have a reason to go to an unsafe area....it's the same here. Unless you are lost, you would not be in a bad area.

As far as driving goes, I can't complain. I live 2 miles from my office, and tend to walk or bike to most places. Our mass transit system is, admittedly, terrible. Thankfully, I do not have to use it.

I'm not a fan of your healthcare system. When I was younger, it was ok, but I find, as I get older, I prefer to have access to whatever care I need, at my convenience, and I don't mind paying for this. I am lucky to live in a city with some of the finest hospitals and doctors in the world.

The world would be an awful place if everything was the same. That's the nice thing about traveling.....we get to visit wonderful places for a short time, and then we get to come home...it truly is where the heart is.
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Old Jul 17th, 2008, 09:14 AM
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I think for many of us, there is good and bad to living anywhere, and often the grass is greener somewhere else unless we have had a chance to truly experience a culture for a long time.

A few personal anecdotes here to illustrate what I mean. We live in the north central US in Minneapolis (the city itself, not the suburbs) which in many polls is considered overall one of the best places in the US to live (other than the winters that is).

My DIL came to Minneapolis from Lithuania (now part of the EU) three years ago, and her mother is here for 6 weeks on her first visit to the US. The MIL is extremely impressed with the US so far, and the visit has been primarily just seeing how people live every day rather than hit and run sightseeing. She is having a great time biking all over our city; enjoying the lakes and parks; and discovering the shopping opportunities like great sales, discount stores etc. However, even though we live in the city, for the most part during her visit, when she is on her own, she is pretty limited to the bike and walking because our city's public transportation system stinks whereas most European destinations have excellent public transportation. So, I agree that the US is way too car dependent.

She and I were out yesterday for a picnic when a group came in from a senior living center. She watched all of this with great interest and envy, was very impressed, and said there is nothing like this for seniors in Lithuania.

On the other hand, my son and DIL are comparing the much more family friendly social policies of Lithuania--nearly 2 years of paid leave for new mothers--compared to the miserly 12 weeks of unpaid FMLA here in the US. Daycare there is very, very, very cheap compared to what it costs in the US. I just watched &quot;Sicko&quot; and it reconfirmed many of my thoughts about the many problems with the US healthcare system which needs to be completely revised.

Is there someplace in the world that has the best of everything? Let me know.

(By the way, to those who are terrified by the gun crime in the US, most, but not all of it, is perpetrated within smaller social groups who live extremely high risk life styles in certain neighborhoods. I am all in favor of gun control laws and would like to see ownership laws significantly tightened, but also realize that random gun violence among strangers statistically is rather uncommon.)
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Old Jul 17th, 2008, 09:17 AM
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The U.S. is the melting pot of the world... everyone moves here or knows of a family member or friend who has relocated at some time or another. People from around the world come here for education, to follow their dreams, economic growth, freedom, and the list could go on. Sure, they may return to Europe after so many years, but is it really because of our crime, religious persecutions, government spending, shopping malls, storage facilities, fenced yards, big cars, ghastly weather, or is simply because they miss their homeland, family, dear friends or hearing their native language? Personally, my fear of being a victim of crime is the same in San Francisco, Hollywood, Chicago, New York OR Paris, Strasbourg, Frankfurt, Rome, Milan, etc... It's not one specific country or city... And the U.S. has a house of worship for anyone and everyone. We love religion so much, just about anyone can set up a church within their own home. There's really no need to worry about being Muslim, Catholic, Christian, Morman, Jehovah Witness or what have you when you move to the U.S. It's the land of opportunity and there are options and plenty of them. Don't be too quick to judge. Our country is still learning and still growing.
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Old Jul 17th, 2008, 09:19 AM
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I live in both places. I know very well that living in a place and being a tourist in a place are two TOTALLY different things. Julius is right the grass is often greener, but - it's often browner too.
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Old Jul 17th, 2008, 09:40 AM
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<i>I think the intolerance (in small towns) would be more towards people who were not religious.</i>

As someone who has lived in small town America, I would disagree. Certainly no more intolerance than what I hear from my European (not that they are some sort of raving bigots). Perhaps a bit of preachy-ness in the bible belt, but nothing too bad. And let us not minimize the fact that most European nations long ago ceased to have anything approaching the religious diversity of the US. It is one thing to proclaim tolerance when everyone is just like you and quite another to practice it when you are faced with the reality of the other. I think that is the challenge you are seeing face many European countries as they deal with recent Islamic immigration.

<i>I am yet to hear an American politician, news commentator or an ordinary person expressing their
interest or pride pride in the native America history as &quot; the history of the US&quot;.</i>

Then you need to meet more Americans. When I lived in Oklahoma, there was intense pride in the Native American heritage and it was the focus of much of my primary school history. Places like New Mexico and Hawaii are similarly proud. Yes, there is the story of the Mayflower, but lately it has been accented by an increased recognition of the story of the Native Americans. Some dismiss it as political correctness, but I think that is their failing and that there are plenty of ordinary people with an interest in the story.

As for politicians, it is a rare politician, American or European that uses history as anything more than a cynical political tool. I wouldn't put too much stock in them.

<i>There's a world of difference between being part of a permanent flow of history and observing someone else's. </i>

I think that, given how much of history is the history of exploration and adventure, that you might be confusing looking at the relics of the past with being part of the &quot;permanent flow&quot; of history.
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Old Jul 17th, 2008, 09:53 AM
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Me, too. I came from England 29 years ago (I was 10) with my English mother and American father to live in the USA. I have never left except to go on holiday.

I would NEVER return to England to live. I would have the shivers all day long looking at those horrid British teeth.

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You can buy Marmite, Cadbury, Walker's biscuits, F/M jam, etc. in US grocery stores.

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I am sitting in my lanai looking at the beautiful Pacific Ocean, the island of Molokai, Koko Head, and Diamond Head Crater, the sun is shining brightly now. Earlier there was a beautiful rainbow, there is a cool breeze and I can smell the flowers from my garden.

Ghastly, just ghastly.
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